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20 hours ago, Alpha said:

I don't get the fuss with Fortnite. I played it a bit but it was like Spyro graphics with some ridiculous building system and bunny hopping. Any shooter that has players bunny hopping is crap. 

It's a shame DayZ never sorted itself out. So much good stuff in there. 

My main reason for hating shooters is because I get killed before I can even play. Nothing like being in a match with gamers who put in 8 hours per day. 

 

If I had the time and the desire to game a few hours a day, I could hold my own online, but the times I do go online I tend to get destroyed and it annoys me so I avoid it.

I hear all about Fortnite from schools... Do not get the obsession.

16 minutes ago, Paul71 said:

Its lazy drivers, the same ones who sit in the middle lane, or move to overtake someone on a dual carriageway or motorway, they are going a little bit faster than the car they are over taking, but also a little bit faster than the one that is 300 yards down the road, so they stay in the overtaking lane holding up faster traffic behind them rather than move in and back out again when they have caught them up.

And on car drivers, those that sit at traffic lights, the green light is often only on for 7 or 8 seconds so why take 5 or 6 seconds to decide you are moving off...

And on the point of indicating, those that do on dual carriageways and motorways should realise indicating does not give you an automatic right to pull out into a different lane, you still have to make sure its clear...indicating and pulling out as im about to pass you is not correct procedure.

 

This and always this. Really fecks me off. What do they think indicate means? Most of the time it seems to be used to show what they are doing, don't need a little flashy light to see you cut infront of me, I need that light to show me your intentions!

1 hour ago, coneheadjohn said:

I think she only w**ked me off because she couldn't stick the nut on me.

Didn't look pretty.

It was on the manor in Sheffield,not a great spot for attractive ladies.

A woman in a car behind me was doing her hair, make up and checking her phone. Was terrified she'd crumple my car! Must be a thing about that area.

On ‎01‎/‎02‎/‎2017 at 22:20, Norman said:

Ok, here we go. 

I've typed this out a few times, then subsequently deleted it. 

I'm 29. From the outside I'm a strong, independent, fit, happy person. 

I'm not. 

I have everything. A brilliant, and I me a brilliant missus. A supportive family, a brilliant Dad, and a decent job. I go to the gym, I have friends etc.

However, when I wake up, I don't want to get up. I don't want to brush my teeth, again. I dont want to drive to work. I sit in my car and think about the awful 8 hours I have to endure. Its only Tuesday, how am I ever going to get through to Friday?  The same thing over and over again. The repetitve, pointless nature of life saps all energy from me. 

It's the pointlessness of life that gets to me the most. Everything seems so tedious, so painfully boring. 

I've been doing the gym for the last 5 years, and got jacked. But the pointless, repetitive lifting is not what I enjoy. I enjoy going to my garage, on my own, and being with myself in silence for 2 hours. No music, No noise. Just my thoughts. And It is then I find solace in my head. The questions of life disappear, the annoyance of other's actions and decisions become insignificant. But it will all be back in the morning.

I over-analyse, I over-think, and I struggle with day-to-day life. And only you lot know.  Which makes me wonder if this is a plea for help, or me deciding that this is the way I think, and I need to change it from now on. 

I'm not suicidal, but I know I feel deep, intense feelings of sadness. But they've gone by dinner time, because life isnt as bad as my head makes it out to be in the morning, at times.

Now to decide to hit the post button or not?

As we are a similar age this really resonated with me, the me of about 4 years ago. Some of the advice and understanding on here is remarkable.

The key thing I take is that knowledge and understanding that your feelings, your wellbeing is incredibly important. You have the right to feel the way you do. Your opinion, your view is as valid as anyone else's.

In some ways I love the routine, prevents me getting anxious about the what ifs but then I get easily bored if my mind isn't challenged. After first reading your post it made me think about my job and know that I pretty much sleepwalk through it, ticking down the hours. But eventually i will find that happy balance where work challenges but not enough to charge up the anxiety.

I also find i have stopped being so self critical about my day to day choices, that feel of failure has lessened. You can make your life whatever you want to be(within reason) but i feel society, people, the media, all expect us to be that same idealised character. We aren't all the same and who wants to be anyway.

Enjoy your quiet time, enjoy the time to be you how you want to be.

Some people just reach a socialising saturation point, when what you then want is to be alone. I would never want to go to the pub alone, or see a film or even go to a gig but I could happily sit on my own listening to music for hours. I never did enjoy nights out much when I was younger, just too many people. You don't have to be the centre of the party to have a good time. I am certain that alone time, that processing time or even switch off time is vital for a more healthy mental state. Helps you understand your own mind better.

People who drive excessively close behind and then people who steal your braking space. I am a very calm person but people like that cause me to swear. Mostly it seems to be drivers of the usual suspects and today was an Audi.

I guess if you can't get to where you want on time roughly following the speed limits then I have a simple tip... Leave earlier cockstraps.

I only had one block of hour weekly sessions for 12 weeks. I was offered another block if I felt I needed it but everything fell into place. There are times I think it may be useful to deeper explore my mind but it isn't essential to me. Just being able to talk was a revelation for me, that feeling of saying exactly how you felt and thought without the worry of what the other person would think of you.

I was initially refused the service as my issues weren't deemed serious enough. But I can easily see had I not got a job, got the girl, I would have been back for more sessions. As we become more open and less caught up in this men don't have worries and weaknesses society, the need for mental health services will continue to grow. I certainly think you should be guaranteed two blocks of sessions as long as you commit to wanting the support.

Downside of all this is that my story writing has dried up!

10 hours ago, kash_a_ram_a_ding_dong said:

I don't understand it either other than its a control thing in my mind by trying to cover eventuality which isn't possible.

I think it may have helped me at work but it fills me with dread too knowing that after I make a decision,I will worry about it until the next one replaces it.

Thing is,its obviously not just at work this surfaces,its socially too.

Utterly ridiculous I know.

When i worked in an office, i must have read through each email i was going to send a dozen or so times. I feared every outcome, what if I said the wrong thing, what if...always the what if. And if I had to make a phone call...nightmare! Just because I dreaded getting it wrong. Totally irrational.

I always believe to compare your problems to others does you a disservice straight off. Each person has their own coping levels, their own fragility and their method of getting by. What seems trivial to one can mean the world to another. Respect always to the feelings you have but know how to handle them.

I think this thread is a blessing. It is honest and supportive and a friendly ear from people who won't judge. I guess I am currently an example of someone who reluctantly got help but is now realising his dreams, a happiness that 4 years back seemed impossible to even contemplate. Sometimes I stop and think how the hell did I get here and when I do, I thank every soul that ever gave me the time to hear my problems. Now I have a fecking wedding to plan!

13 minutes ago, Phoenix said:

I'm not convinced on this HS2 malarky. The thing wont be up and running for decades, by which time video conferencing, data transfer and the like will have progressed to such a degree, 'businessmen' wont need to shave a few minutes off a train journey, they just won't need to travel at all.

Exactly my thinking. Seems totally illogical to me, money would be better spent ensuring everyone in the country has decent internet connectivity. Job interviews, music lessons and so are already being done on Skype or the like so why spend billions saving 30 mins. All bollaeux to me.

5 hours ago, uttoxram75 said:

Well, 10 pints of Bass and an excellent Oasis tribute band saved my Saturday....bit rough today though......

No morning glory for you then.

2 hours ago, KBB said:

Think I'm going to quit teaching as it's making me ill. Anxiety, stress, lack of confidence, emotional wreck. That's the story of my life at the moment.

I quit teacher training for the same reasons. Took on things with less responsibility and things that have allowed me to have a social life and regain that confidence and belief in myself. Tomorrow I hope is the start of getting to do what I really want to do without spending every night thinking I haven't done something.

5 minutes ago, sage said:

The reason I saw it as a key moment was it was our first game post Ibe, with defences being able to push up a little and the difference between Eustace taking a second yellow late at Ipswich to keep a win and Mascarell not risking a second yellow to preserve a draw. That second goal was an early indicator of our inability to balance attack and defence for the rest of the season. All opinion though.  

Big choice for poor Mascarell though! The kind of choice you'd only really gain from experience.

Good first volume though! Can't say I disagree with much, if any of it.

Just now, Alpha said:

I know right! 

My missus soooo doesn't get it. I think she's a secret Warden. I'm a Colonial you see. The look of disgust on her face I wouldn't be surprised if she'd spent all night building that factory base while I was at work. 

The Colonials need YOU

I was online with a mate on Diablo 3...I was heard talking about some legendary pants I found. I couldn't explain my excitement very well.

4 minutes ago, Alpha said:

Today I build a network of foxholes around Hamlet and main base and lead a team of 6 to assault the factory at f15. We fought our way through them and found a weak spot in their defences. Got onto factory roof and looked over their whole camp. Called for mortars but nobody could reach me. So I started picking them off one by one until they dropped mortars on me. 

That's my life mate. Standard day. 

What did you do? Wash pots? 

Well. That sounds excellent.

2 hours ago, Alpha said:

What about on holiday?

I've got rubbish chicken legs but I don't want to wear trousers 

I ain't no chav, blud

I only got a pair of 3/4s last summer. I have long legs, shorts on me tend to end up looking like I played in the 80s. I find them comfy and practical and they certainly don't make me feel, or look like, a chav.

This one is for @Alpha

Driving from Sheffield along Baslow road, I saw sprayed on the road.. "BMWs are ****". I can't help but feel they mean the drivers of such cars rather than the vehicles themselves.

People who start to change lanes, pull in front of you and decide to signal after nearly completing the maneuver when you have no choice but stop or slow down for them. Indicators...to indicate your intentions not to confirm the crap I just saw!

I think it is very easy online to make those instant judgements. It comes down to the old cliche of walking in someone else's shoes but when it is just letters on screen that isn't easy. I don't believe we as a nation are very good at talking about problems, pressure on to project a perfect life. Things like facebook were a killer for me when I was going through hard times, I'd be looking around and asking why can't I be happy, what have they got that I haven't. I hated going out, wanted to be a recluse, I felt lonely but company never put out those flames.

Once I got help, got talking, I learnt who I am, how I think, how I think I want to be seen and that I have a right to do what is best for me before others first. I learnt the stress I could handle. My dad always use to call me a closed book and it drove him crazy, but I could never tell him what was happening in my mind. Was it shame? Shame I really wasn't mentally strong? The day I finally emptied my mind was a huge relief.

My problems were a huge barrier to my happiness and to what I could achieve. A huge issue to me, was probably nothing to someone else but that doesn't matter. Our mental health is our most important and should always be given that respect.

Threads like this are a wonderful thing in encouraging and supporting each other, but the best thing is a chat in person with someone who can and will listen and a pint may make it all the sweeter.

20 hours ago, Mostyn6 said:

so, just to give an update to the hordes of you that messaged me privately, and here publicly, with your concerns and support.

I shelled out £400 on a pretty damned good treadmill from Argos (Reebok ZR9 if you're after a bargain!), and burned off a few calories putting the bloody thing together. I've had three workouts in 3 days and my calves are a bit tight, but I can already feel that I am feeling a bit...no, quite a lot better about myself.

I also got hold of Vitamin D tablets, which have definitely, without doubt, given me more energy in the office at work.

I saw this article today:- http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/jan/18/sad-exercise-antidepressants and made me think about writing this.

So, firstly, I'm not too proud to admit I took the advice from posters on here, and secondly, thanks to anyone in here who gave a ****, cos I do about others, and it gave me a little bit of a boost that people didn't just slate me for starting this thread.

Here's to better times x

Just don't beat yourself up if you aren't on the treadmill everyday! I always used to find a long walk with the dog helped, the fresh air, the generally overly happy nature of the dog and getting out of the house of your own free will. I knew I was in a dark place when I couldn't even find the enthusiasm to do that.

The whole thing of this thread to me is never be afraid to ask for help, wouldn't be living the life I am if it hadn't been for the support and belief of a few people. Despite the amount of tripe and bad things the internet brings, bringing people together in times of need is definitely a great use, the beauty of a neutral voice to remind you the sun is still there behind the clouds.

Same here. Love Interstellar and it is one of the few recent films where the film score is sublime, oh that organ.

Gravity was fantastic to look at but didn't really do a lot.

The Martian is a another great film. Love the humour and Matt Damon puts in a brilliant performance, plus it gets bonus points for having Jeff Daniels and Sean Bean.

I could listen to this on repeat quite happily. Legend.

Bruce Springsteen - High Hopes album. Got it for Christmas.

Some great songs on there. Which isn't bad considering it was just a load of things that didn't make it on his full albums in the last 10 years or so. Never lets me down!

On the homemade tramps piss...forgotten how potent this stuff was!

Jackson Browne.