Alph Posted November 1, 2019 Share Posted November 1, 2019 Best advice is don't take advice. You kind of make it up as you go along and that's fine because babies are different. You follow the script and your baby won't. The only consistent thing that worked for me on both was after a week or so we started doing a feed as late as poss (like 2am) and then tried to make the baby go as long as possible without food. So at first it was like 2am - 5am. Then 5.30 and 5.45 and 6.00 etc until you could get like 6 hours sleep through the night quite early They say don't do this. It's easy to say when you're wide awake. It's even easy to say when you've had 6 hours sleep in 2 days. Try 15 hours sleep in a week. All broken sleep with an hour here and two there. You can't function well on so little sleep so as soon as you can get settled then do it. But all techniques and stuff... figure it out yourself. Congratulations and all the best!! LittleEatonRam, dcfcfan1, rynny and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleEatonRam Posted November 1, 2019 Share Posted November 1, 2019 Congratulations to all new and expectant parents on here. As others have said, there is no advice that really is set in stone in my opinion since every child is different and what works for one will have no effect on another. Bear that in mind when your own parents inevitably say "Well I always used to do...[insert action here] with you when you were a baby..." I have son number two on the way in Feb/March and it's the best thing ever. Alph, dcfcfan1 and Ramshankered 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarkFruitsRam7 Posted November 2, 2019 Share Posted November 2, 2019 Treated the niece Wolfie20, Ramshankered, Alph and 7 others 4 4 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dcfcfan1 Posted November 3, 2019 Share Posted November 3, 2019 Awww isnt she cute!? Im going to adopt a cute baby when I get to 30 haha DarkFruitsRam7 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rynny Posted November 4, 2019 Share Posted November 4, 2019 On 01/11/2019 at 11:59, Alpha said: Best advice is don't take advice. Alph 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ramslad1992 Posted November 4, 2019 Author Share Posted November 4, 2019 1 hour ago, rynny said: Maybe advice is a bad word..: more hints and tips? I will thoroughly admit I’ve ‘half arsed’ a lot in life, I half arsed school, I’ve hard arsed previous relationships, heck I’ve even been guilty of half arsing it with Derby at times! but one thing I completely refuse to half arse is being a parent! Everything you guys can recommend is greatly appreciated because whilst very baby is different something might be suggested in here that I’d never think of. Many thanks to everyone again for their hints and tips ?. dcfcfan1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G STAR RAM Posted November 4, 2019 Share Posted November 4, 2019 On 02/11/2019 at 21:36, DarkFruitsRam7 said: Treated the niece Some may say punished! Often wonder how many more Saturday afternoons I could have enjoyed if my dad hadnt dragged me down to The BBG at the age of 5! DarkFruitsRam7 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rynny Posted November 5, 2019 Share Posted November 5, 2019 8 hours ago, Ramslad1992 said: Maybe advice is a bad word..: more hints and tips? I will thoroughly admit I’ve ‘half arsed’ a lot in life, I half arsed school, I’ve hard arsed previous relationships, heck I’ve even been guilty of half arsing it with Derby at times! but one thing I completely refuse to half arse is being a parent! Everything you guys can recommend is greatly appreciated because whilst very baby is different something might be suggested in here that I’d never think of. Many thanks to everyone again for their hints and tips ?. The best tips I can offer are bedtime is bedtime, this is the first battle. Keep it the same time as much as possible. Don't be afraid to tell them no and that they can't have stuff. Some parents think they have to give their child everything they want, whilst it is easier in the short term to say yes, long term it makes everything harder. Persist with things and don't back down or give up. Dont worry if other babies/children seem to be developing quicker, they will do everything in their own time, my youngest didn't learn to crawl and went straight into walking, my eldest didn't say his first word until later than most (now you can't shut him up) Last thing I will say is don't panic. You will pick everything up as you go. And enjoy it. Rev and Smyth_18 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smyth_18 Posted November 5, 2019 Share Posted November 5, 2019 11 hours ago, Ramslad1992 said: I’ve hard arsed previous relationships, Never heard of this procedure before, to quote another thread...... Go on... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dcfcfan1 Posted November 5, 2019 Share Posted November 5, 2019 2 hours ago, Smyth_18 said: Never heard of this procedure before, to quote another thread...... Go on... Haha me neither! Luckily Ill never find out lol . Being a parent is the most important responsibility you will have in your life . So embrace it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grumpy Git Posted November 5, 2019 Share Posted November 5, 2019 Babies have their own rules. My lad slept through from about 4 or 5 weeks. My daughter (baby #2), was a week from her second birthday before she slept through the night, (we thought she'd died when we woke-up and it was 8 a.m. and she was still asleep). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mucker1884 Posted November 5, 2019 Share Posted November 5, 2019 17 hours ago, Ramslad1992 said: ...I’ve hard arsed previous relationships... I strongly suspect that explains the "previous" bit! Did they actually give a reason, or did they just crawl away, never to be seen again? dcfcfan1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dcfcfan1 Posted November 5, 2019 Share Posted November 5, 2019 18 minutes ago, Mucker1884 said: I strongly suspect that explains the "previous" bit! Did they actually give a reason, or did they just crawl away, never to be seen again? crawl away hahahaha made me laugh Mucker1884 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parsnip Posted November 12, 2019 Share Posted November 12, 2019 I remember the midwife making me watch some stupid video to drill this rhyme into me like I was some kind of idiot... "No matter how tired you feel... shaking the baby is a last resort" So patronising. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sonofmidnight Posted November 12, 2019 Share Posted November 12, 2019 Even when a baby is screaming it's head off remember this too will pass. Treasure and enjoy it all. It is over too soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i-Ram Posted November 12, 2019 Share Posted November 12, 2019 Just now, Pastinaak said: I remember the midwife making me watch some stupid video to drill this rhyme into me like I was some kind of idiot... "No matter how tired you feel... shaking the baby is a last resort" So patronising. I hope she was a better midwife than she was poet. bigbadbob, Ghost of Clough, G STAR RAM and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mucker1884 Posted November 13, 2019 Share Posted November 13, 2019 8 hours ago, Pastinaak said: I remember the midwife making me watch some stupid video to drill this rhyme into me like I was some kind of idiot... "No matter how tired you feel... shaking the baby is a last resort" So patronising. last resort - noun - a final course of action, used only when all else has failed. Hmmm... Me thinks she should be sacked! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parsnip Posted November 13, 2019 Share Posted November 13, 2019 4 hours ago, Mucker1884 said: last resort - noun - a final course of action, used only when all else has failed. Hmmm... Me thinks she should be sacked! I suppose there's a possibility I might be remembering it wrong. Mucker1884 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brammie Steve Posted November 13, 2019 Share Posted November 13, 2019 Mother and wife always know best, so leave it to them and bask in the warm glow of fatherhood! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mucker1884 Posted November 13, 2019 Share Posted November 13, 2019 2 hours ago, Pastinaak said: I suppose there's a possibility I might be remembering it wrong. Oh, I really do hope so! LOL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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