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19 minutes ago, Ghost of Clough said:

 

@Van Cone De Head... Relative of yours?

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May the fallen rest in peace.
May those that return, have the fortune to live in peace.

On 04/11/2019 at 07:04, Boycie said:

Lane 2 hoggers on a 4 lane motorway when lane one is clear!

I know undertaking is wrong, but I can’t help myself sometimes, and they still don’t pull over!

From the "cheers me up thread" (Page 23):

4 minutes ago, Mucker1884 said:

Halle-bloody-lujah!

Let's hope this is just the start...

https://www.express.co.uk/life-style/cars/1201929/motorway-fine-careless-driving-law-charge-police

 

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May the fallen rest in peace. 
May those that return, have the fortune to live in peace.

Halle-bloody-lujah!

Let's hope this is just the start...

https://www.express.co.uk/life-style/cars/1201929/motorway-fine-careless-driving-law-charge-police

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May the fallen rest in peace. 
May those that return, have the fortune to live in peace.

3 hours ago, Anag Ram said:

From my limited involvement in the counselling domain I understand that EMDR has proven to be effective for PTSD. 

My supervisor recommended a referral for one of my clients. 

Hope it works for your son. 

Thanks @Anag Ram.  Appreciate that.

Looks like he is going to go for this, when he returns to Cornwall.  They have a charity branch of the NHS down there, which specifically deals with ex service personnel/war veterans, and we're hearing positive things.  (It's just bog standard NHS up here in Derby, with no specific expertise in combat-related PTSD, apparently?).

Other stuff to sort first though... not least getting him through this coming weekend of course, which is never an easy time for these guys and gals, who lost a mate or several in battle... of any generation, of course!  

Thanks again for your positive feedback.  Good to hear.   ? 

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LEST WE FORGET.
May the fallen rest in peace.
May those that return, have the fortune to live in peace.

17 hours ago, Ramslad1992 said:

...I’ve hard arsed previous relationships...

 

I strongly suspect that explains the "previous" bit!  Did they actually give a reason, or did they just crawl away, never to be seen again?

19 minutes ago, Spanish said:

think that's just the start, it can't be don't pay then you get 3 suspensions.  Whilst they continue to refuse to pay I think they will be excluded from signing players, not fair on Nantes if this is the extent of the punishment

Agreed.

From that link of David's above...

"If Cardiff do not pay that figure by the conclusion of the three-transfer window ban, the matter will be heard by FIFA's Disciplinary Committee for consideration and a formal decision.
FIFA has not yet confirmed whether Cardiff will be liable for the second payment on January 1 2020, or a third payment on January 1 2021."

1 hour ago, Boycie said:

Lane 2 hoggers on a 4 lane motorway when lane one is clear!

I know undertaking is wrong, but I can’t help myself sometimes, and they still don’t pull over!

Very naughty of me I know, but I tend to overtake them, then shoot straight over (dare I say "swerve"!) from lane 3 to 1, no indicating nor nuffink, in the hope it's a massive hint... it rarely is though, and like you say, they just continue to tootle along in lane 2, knowing full well that they will eventually overtake that lorry... a mile ahead... in a good 5 minutes or so!  

EDIT:

One thing I've noticed having done the best part of 10,000 miles on French Autoroutes now, is that the vast majority are very good at pulling back over to lane one, once the overtake is complete.  They get a bad rep, but from what I have witnessed, it is much more polite and civil over there... on the motorways, at least!

1 hour ago, dcfcfan1 said:

20 ffs

Soon they will having 10s and 5s 

 

So slow ffs

They have 30 zones in France... that's 18, in English!  ?

Am I right in thinking those green "20mph zone" signs outside a school are advisory only, and not legally enforceable?
I'm sure I read that somewhere not so long back, but I can't be arsed to Google it!

#lazyjournalism

2 hours ago, Paul71 said:

Usually my sat nav tells me im doing 2 or 3 mph lower than my car does,  the gap increases the faster im going.

 

Yes, mine used to be 2 or 3 mph out too, but can't remember which way now. (My new built in sat nav doesn't show the speed).

Of course, a sat nav won't be calibrated in the same way as the car's speedo, (and won't be covered by the strict laws governing the speedo), so I doubt the law would even acknowledge the speed shown on a sat nav?

6 hours ago, Van Wolfie said:

Depends. Some forces don't follow that any more.

My understanding is that the 10% thing was to allow for speedometer innacuracy - which is far less of a problem now than it used to be. In fact, most modern speedos over-state your speed. usually when I go through one of those speed check things, my dashboard says 30 and the checker says 27 or 28.

So, if you're actually doing 32, then you should be aware of your speedometer saying 34-35mph.

That's what I've been told, anyway.

I believe I'm right in saying that it is illegal for any manufacturer to have their speedo's reading low, and they face stringent checks and severe penalties if they do.  Hence them more likely to read high than low (although there are still specific tolerances to work to, of course).

A bit like a bakers dozen of yore!  

1/  Teach them the difference between "of" and "have". 

2/  When they are sad, pat them on the head, and say "Their, There, They're"

3/  DCFC "lose" games.  Women from Nott***ham are "Loose".  There's a difference!

4/  Do not encourage them to play Peek-a-BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!  It becomes a bad habit!

5/  @Boycie isn't actually that funny bloke from the telly... or anywhere else, for that matter!

6/  Teach them the difference between an eye and a horn.  (No smut please... children are reading!)

7/  If they ain't truly into The Rams by the time they are 12, let them know the freebie season tickets run out, and you ain't wasting your money on a ticket for them... I'm looking at you, Grandson!

8/  If they are ever sick, tell them never to declare "I've add more van free", as someone may be filming them!

9/  @Red_Dawn  is actually a man, despite having a girls name, so do not speak to him... and never accept sweets off him... he's a baddie!

10/  Avoid anything with 2 stars... Hotels, restaurants, football shirts... 

45 minutes ago, FindernRam said:

 

3. Crying babies are normal, check nappy, wind, temperature. Fixes most events

 

A Helpful Link...  for the latter two.

2 hours ago, Van Wolfie said:

Babies are all different of course and nothing is going to work all the time for everyone but for us getting ours into a routine for sleep & bed time (and sticking to it) as early as possible was fantastic.

It can't be coincidence that our friends who complain that their young ones won't go to sleep or sleep through the night are the ones who say the bed time and routine varies wildly.

She also loved to sleep being swaddled.

Yeah... around 6:30pm, so they're settled before the soaps come on!  ?

14 minutes ago, mozza said:

You can only be there for him mate, thoughts are with you. 

Thanks Buddy.  Appreciated.

That's just it... as a parent, you just feel so helpless, and so hopeless!  Being there is just about it!
There are no wheelchairs to push.  No wounds to dress.  No laces to tie up for them, or a nice juicy steak to cut up for them.  Of course, I wouldn't wish that scenario on anyone, let alone members of HM Forces and their kith & kin, but I'd hope folk reading that get what I'm saying.  With all this "invisible injury" crap, there really is next to nothing we so called parents can do to help, from a practicality point of view.
So very, very frustrating!

I do like positives though, and I honestly think, as gruesome and heartbreaking as it is, it's a positive that we eventually learned of the specific details of what it is that gives him his nightmares... when he does eventually drift off to sleep for a few minutes!  
I guess there are still many that suffer in silence, and ergo, many families that just aren't aware.  It took 4 years, but at least we found out eventually!

Sorry... I'm rambling!

UTR.

Anyone got any knowledge, experience and/or comments regarding EMDR therapy?

Currently looking at possibly going down that route for my son, as he's recently had a set back.

In brief, it relates to "Battle related PTSD" and his stints (more so the second stint) in Afghanistan in 2012.  (I won't go into detail if you don't mind.  I'd struggle to type it, and it most certainly ain't for the pages of a public forum anyway!)

He kept his troubles totally to himself for over 4 years, until Dec. 2016, when it all kicked off!  He's since had help via the MOD, including CBT and meds.  After being "On the sick", he was officially signed off from the forces about 18 months ago, and has since been living what appeared to be the life of Reilly on Civvy Street in Cornwall, firstly at a boat building college, and for the past 6 months, actual boat building (Ye Olde Kraftesman Stylee), which is a job he is absolutely loving.  (His time in Cornwall has seen the continuation of the meds, but no further therapy... other than what they taught him to do himself).

Unfortunately though, he's been slipping backwards recently, (unknown to us... again, despite weekly Face-Time's!) until he finally called us for help a week ago, whereupon we went straight down there to bring him home, and mop his brow!  We spent all last week talking to various NHS departments (Now he's a civvy!), and they are now advising this EMDR treatment.  Obviously we'll do some research and talk more with various  experts, but if any of you guys and gals have anything to add... positive or otherwise... I'll be all ears!

For the record, he's calmer than he was a week ago, but still far from ok.  We've seen him worse, but want him better.  Even in their mid-thirties, we parents never stop worrying, do we!  

On the plus side, his employer has spoken to him (during this past week) and his job is to be kept open for him indefinitely, or  "until he says he ain't going back".  That's a massive positive, as of course he wants to go back... if he can find a way to cope with everything else!

Not so much on the plus side, me and his elder brother will be accompanying him to the match on Wednesday, for his first game since Wembley, "in an attempt to cheer him up a bit"!     Oh bugger!  

Cheers.  

23 minutes ago, Paul71 said:

The baby?

As a parent, mine is to merely offer expert advice.  It is up to others as to how they deem fit to interpret such offerings!   ?

If baby won't drink cold milk, put it in the microwave for 30 seconds.

25 minutes ago, SouthStandDan said:

People who undercook their bacon. Shame on you ??

Sister has always grilled hers for 30 seconds either side.

I never spoke to her throughout my entire teen years.  In fact, I couldn't even bear to look at her!  She's 60 on Monday... Lord knows how, with that sort of diet!

55 minutes ago, Van Wolfie said:

A friend of mine usually ends up buying presents for his wife that end up costing us money.

Mrs Wolfie is going to London for the weekend with his Mrs, because he bought her a voucher for afternoon tea at the Ritz for her birthday. She insisted on going overnight, so they could relax etc but it'll end up costing us about £300 for somebody else's present.

The same has happened in the past with Wimbledon tickets & music concerts that Mrs Wolfie isn't bothered about seeing.

If you can afford it, and it's something Mrs W enjoys, then why not. 
As that doesn't seem to be the case with the latter two examples, I think someone needs to be a bit more assertive, and say "No thanks.  That's not something that appeals to me" to the next "invite"... and someone else needs to do a little more thinking before buying his wife a "Present-for-one"!  At the very least, he should be consulting with you/Mrs W before going ahead and booking something.

...Either that, or he needs to start manning up, and actually start spending some time with his missus himself!  LOL!

#Justsayno

33 minutes ago, ThePrisoner said:

Every petrol station is notorious for this now they all sell bleeding coffee.

Last weeks "National Coffee Day" was fun!  (Free vending on EVERY Costa Express Machine in the country, I believe?)  Caused massive queues "at the pumps" from what I could see!

I equate Brains (The brewery, not the human organ!) with Wales?  If so, I'll let others narrow it down from there.  The statue is certainly not familiar.

21 hours ago, Paul71 said:

You rarely hear about what people go through when they come off their medication. I recently came off mine. 

While I am far from being in a bad place it has been a challenge. My moods have been up and down, more irritable and certainly some physical symptoms such as sickness, dizziness. I expected to be weened off for a while but it was pretty much an immediate stop which surprised me.

I really hope this is an effect of coming off the meds rather than how its going to be. I am better than i used to be, i practice my count to 10 when i get annoyed or someone says something and i try not to react.

One place i don't tend to take that approach is online. DCFCFans is really the only place I post, I don't bother with Facebook or Twitter. Of late I have found posting here a bit of a challenge too, I know its ridiculous as its just an online forum but I find myself being affected by what people say, and the things i can post at times.

Its stupid the times you have got into a 'discussion' with someone or something has been said to you that I can lie awake at night spinning it round in my head. I think the issue with a text response is it can be misinterpreted so easily , I am sure no one sets out to upset anyone but it does happen, I know i don't intend to but can think of numerous occasions where something I have said can be taken that way.

Last night was one of those for me, I said something to someone which was no way intended to be a slight on them but it was taken that way and i can see why. And without going into it the recent events have affected my love for the club, i will still attend games as the time i spend with my Dad is important to me, i hope my love has returned by the time renewal time comes up.

I have been thinking I need to leave this alone for a while, I have asked @David to remove my account which he is doing although I have a cool down period in case i change my mind which i might do i dont know.

For now I am going to log out on all my devices, I will still access the site to read whats going on but as a 'Lurker' only.

I wish I was and hope to have the calm head and sensible approach that @angieram has, hopefully I will one day soon.

Anyway I am just another poster amongst hundreds/thousands, as I said I will keep an eye on things especially @Van Cone De Head and @Mrs Cone as i genuinely have an interest in how Joel is getting on.

Anyway Au Revoir.....and good luck!

 

11 hours ago, reverendo de duivel said:

I'm so sorry to read this @Paul71, especially as I was the poster who followed up your comment by posting another mindless joke.

I too experienced a fitful night's sleep, which was a suprise to me as initially I pushed back against the reaction, I also realised that nothing I post is worth losing sleep over, and woke determined to make amends.

Please don't leave the forum, it's a much better place with your wisdom and wit than anything I bring to the table, and it would be a shame for others to miss out on that because of shitstorm I created.

@David please accept this as my resignation from the forum, I can't have this on my head too.

 

Was just about to come on and beg you both to stay.  

Turns out you're both not allowed to leave anyway, so I won't bother!  That way, everybody's happy!  :-)

It's sad enough that I stop us both in our tracks to photograph my knee on holiday and/or day trips... or indeed during my first ever literal sighting of Wembley Stadium!
I have absolutely no intention of adding my tea to the list!

Pork steaks from Coot's farm (Nr Duffield) in the slow cooker with veg.  Yorkie on the side.

Very succulent and tender!

I'm certainly no connoisseur but I'm very impressed with the various cuts of meat/poultry we've had from there so far.  I think we'll definitely become regulars!