Wolfie

Having picked up a bout of the trots at a kids party last weekend & feeling properly rough......

Waking up this morning feeling back up to full speed, then tightening my belt a notch and notice I've lost 4lb.

Insincerity generally.

Following on from the fake women thing I suppose but I hate it when I feel like anyone is putting on an act.

I hate BS. Especially the alpha-male type stuff that men do for effect.

I hate making small-talk in social situations. Not because I can't do it but why would I want to talk to someone who I'm never going to see again and whose name I won't be able to remember 5 minutes from now.

In a group situation, if I have something to contribute to a conversation, I will do so. Otherwise I'm happy to listen to others.

People often think that I'm quiet. I'm not. I'd just rather have a proper conversation with someone. Exchange views and have a laugh, yes, but not just try to score points off each other the whole time.

Women with drawn on eyebrows

and while we're at it....

Massive eyelashes, so she has to tip her head back to open her eyes.

Obvious fake tan

Fake boobs

Any obvious cosmetic work.

 

Basically , I don't like women to be fake.

Picking ones nose in the car.

Singing in the car.

Haven't tried singing whilst picking ones nose in the car.

23 minutes ago, rynny said:

There is an unfollow button on Facebook, which basically mutes them without them ever knowing but you stay friends with them, it is brilliant for family members that annoy 

Yeah, I have used that one a couple of distant relatives who started sharing loads of Britain First propaganda ******.

It's only because of the wildlife photography that both of these two post, that I do stay following them. Colorado and Mongolia have some stunning scenery.

Ex-Pats moaning about Brexit.

I have 2 relatives (wife's step-siblings) who never stop ranting about Brexit on Facebook & moaning about how awful it is.

She has lived in Colorado, USA for over 15 years.

He has been in Mongolia for 3 years but also lived in USA before that.

He posted another one last night & was demanding that remainers stand up and do everything possible to stop the process. YOU HAVEN'T LIVED HERE FOR 20 YEARS AND HAVE NO INTENTION OF RETURNING. GO AWAY YOU MUPPET!

It's only for the sake of family harmony that I haven't ripped either of them to pieces before now.

23 minutes ago, McLovin said:

I was hesitant to post this on here incase it comes across that I'm attention seeking but I can assure you I'm not, I just need to get this off my chest somewhere. I don't want to say that I think I have a form of depression as such because I don't believe that's fair on people who genuinely have it but over the last year or so I've been really down. I don't know what the particular cause of it was, maybe a collection of factors such as stresses with work or such but every day seems like a slog to get through. Even the so called good things that I used to like doing before now make me upset and down now and it feels like a ton of bricks have just fallen upon me. The good days are ok but the bad days which seem to be on a regular basis now are really ****. I now more pessimistic than I ever have been in my life. I don't feel that I can talk to any family relatives or friends because I feel they won't understand and I'm hesitant to even get a diagnosis from the doctors because I had some problems when I was younger which were just brushed off by them. I've tried doing physical activities like lifting weights which I must admit helped for a short while to take my mind off things but even doing that seems like a slog. Sorry for this massive piece of text but can anyone with similar experiences in the past possibly give me advice about how to get through this period? I thought this was just what every normal person experiences but I'm convinced it's something more than that

I'm not an expert but Mostyn is spot on (and that's a sentence I didn't think I would ever type).

One thing though: Execise is great & can help a lot but I would recommend doing cardio stuff instead of weights. Get the blood pumping for a good period of time regularly and you should feel some benefit.

On 31/10/2016 at 22:32, Wolfie20 said:

Some customer reviews on sites such as Amazon. You're looking for something and want to have a look at others who have bought the item and what they think, whether it's good, bad or indifferent. The number of idiots who waste their time writing in and more importantly, my time reading their drivel gets right up my nose! I'm not bothered if the item arrived within 2 days and was well packaged and then you get the twerps who say something like "looks good but not used it yet so I'll  give it 5 stars". I hope than when the time comes for you to take it out of its' box and do what you're supposed to with it, the bloody thing falls apart! Now what will you think of those 5 stars?

I get peed off on Amazon when I'm looking for something, see it has good reviews but then when I read them, all the 5 star ones are posted by people who have been "given the product in return for an impartial revew". Yeah, right.

The reviews for Veet for men are always good for a chuckle, though....

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Veet-Men-Hair-Removal-Cream/dp/B000KKNQBK/ref=sr_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1478075958&sr=8-3&keywords=men+hair+removal+cream

 

This has probably been here before on this thread but people driving in fog with no lights on.

It's been a proper pea-souper this morning on the A1 (around Newark) and an incredible number of cars (and one fully laden coach!) with no lights on at all.

3 hours ago, ketteringram said:

Yes. But when you've already spent a couple of hours in the rain, on the embankment of the West coast mainline, a couple of those side effects are worrying. 

You should try buying any medication in the USA. Dire warnings of death on packets of ibuprofen. 

I'm not saying side effects don't exist but most people aren't affected by them, or the medication wouldn't be considered safe for use. You should be having regular catch ups with the doc & if side effects are bad you can switch to something else or stop altogether. 

I guess it's a matter of measuring your need against any possible nasties. I can only go on my experience & they worked for me with no discernible negatives. 

17 hours ago, Tony Le Mesmer said:

I live just near Chesterfield not too far from baslow. Kid goes to school about 4 miles away from there. The Wheatsheaf used to be our regular but had a couple of really poor meals last twice so only go now if friends come down from Rotherham as they've got a big kids area in the back and we can walk off our excesses to Chatsworth and back.

What was the medication they put you on to whack you out then Wolfie? Often I've felt like something that would knock me out for a while and give me and my body time to recover would be good. I'm always on the go. Never relax but need to desperately. I also hate taking tablets and have avoided them. Once you start taking one then its a slippery slope.

The medication was Escitalopram (Cipralex) and it pretty much had the panic attacks under control from the first few days. It didn't whack me out at all & I functioned normally. I still used to feel anxious but it was reduced to the extent that it didn't trigger an attack. Once the panic stopped, the baseline anxiety level also reduced, as the vicious cycle was broken. After 6 months or so, I started to reduce the dose & was probably on it for less than a year in all.

I hate taking pills to but don't struggle on your own if you don't need to. I literally got my life back. I still have occasional anxiety episodes but nothing like it was and thankfully haven't had a full panic attack for ages.

Ah yes the Wheatsheaf used to be one of my locals when I lived in Baslow. Haven't been for a while though. Had a good meal in the Devonshire in the summer with a load of family. Enjoyed it right up to the point that Mrs Wolfie stood up at the end and said we were paying for everyone. She still doesn't know why she did that ?Bless her. Lovely area & I do like to go back there when I can, as my folks live that side of Chesterfield. 

Message me if you ever need to mate. 

8 hours ago, dcfcfan1 said:

Just out of interest, is anxiety something you are born with or can develop at any stage of your life?

Well i was 32 when I started so it can certainly creep up on you. I'm normally a very optimistic sort of person as well. 

On 05/04/2016 at 17:21, LesterRam said:

Has anybody suffered from trying to sleep and how they overcome this, suffering a new low recently and trying to nod off and stay asleep is becoming very hard, even picked up sleep apnea which is frightening, I wake up and have major panic attacks.

Well i was 32 when I started so it can certainly creep up on you. I'm normally a very optimistic sort of person as well. 

6 hours ago, Tony Le Mesmer said:

Cheers for that Wolfie, can't have been easy. I'm in a similar place with the agoraphobia / panic thing. I used to be so confident and outgoing and this has stripped me back to a shell. Last 5 years really. Can't go on public transport, my car is like a mobile bolthole.

I've had nausea to the point where I'm dry retching most days. Its always worse in the mornings but comes on when you literally have just opened your eyes. You haven't even had the time to consider getting anxious yet the anxiety symptoms are there as soon as you wake.

The worst was when my kid started school and the pressure every day to take her and pick her up which may seem normal to most people. But then just try and have casual conversations with all these new parents when you are seconds from vomiting, so intense that you have to dig your car keys into your skin just as a distraction to make it go away just for a few minutes. Having to chat and not look weird when your heart is thumping and you feel dizzy.

People might make light of mental illnesses like anxiety etc but if its severe enough then it takes away your quality of life in an instant. Without wanting to disrespect amputees or people who have lost limbs on accidents / illnesses I would have one of my arms chopped off if I could be back to how I used to be and with a guarantee it won't come back.

Part of the problem with various mental illnesses is the fact that you feel you have to hide them or put on an act with people as though its a guilty secret and you're a freak.

Of course its not like that in reality but you always feel you are hiding something and that over time eats away at your self esteem and is mentally and physically tiring.

The away games thing for me is a bigger problem for me than most. I really want to go but i couldn't bear it if I got stuck next to some deadheads being immature. I panic and I'd either leave meaning I miss out or I'd just wade in with my fists and not care. I'm not aggressive just that anxiety makes you more sensitive to idiots than normal and often in a short amount of time a decision has to be made. Do I escape and leave the stadium and reinforce the anxiety long term for short term relief or do I bottle emotions in that these absolute knobjockeys are ruining mine and others enjoyment until I just can't have it anymore and pile in?

Sensibly I should sit through it and teach myself that I can emerge unscathed through extremely uncomfortable situations and thus hopefully reducing my anxiety over time but its easier said than done.

It's actually wondrously amazing just the array of physical symptoms anxiety can do to your body but on the flipside its pretty scary stuff. I wouldn't wish it on anybody. There is no magic bullet.

Feel for you mate. I do.

There's lots of good advice on here but the best I can give you is don't try and get through it on your own. Most of us have tried and (for most of us) it doesn't work.

I had hardly any support from people. I kept it from friends and most family, as we weren't the sort of family who shared feelings and thoughts. My (then) wife didn't seem overly bothered by it either though she could see what it was doing to me. My way out was via medication.

Once I was starting to feel better, though, I opened up to my family about it and it has had the most dramatic effect on our relationship. My family now do talk more about stuff and I found out about my mum's past anxiety and the time when my (farmer) dad was close to walking off down the field with his sheepdog & shot gun and not coming back again.

Powerful stuff. Talking.

1 hour ago, Tony Le Mesmer said:

Thought about a group Paul but there are two things stopping me. First of all I didn't want to be sat around people who are all just offloading their problems and getting upset even though I don't mean that in a horrible way. Its just that sometimes its difficult enough as it is without entering into a situation whereby I feel I have to support others and contribute something.

Secondly, due to moving down here, my partner being at work all day and me bringing up a young child I've sort of got used to spending most of my time alone as we have no support network locally.

I now find meeting people and socialising anxiety fraught, I've lost the social skills and again, without wanting to be disrespectful to others - if I'm being honest I just can't be arsed anymore.

I guess its all excuses excuses and at some point I will have to come out of my bubble.

Going to Derby games along with 30,000 people has actually really been challenging as I hate crowds and I hate noise.

Be no good in the south stand, me.

I've said previously that I had anxiety issues about 10 years ago.

It was triggered by health issues at the time - For a good few months the anxiety resulted in a weird agropobia where I felt safe at home and at work (most of the time) but terrified anywhere else. Doing the normal weekend stuff was really hard & resulted in panic attacks in the supermarket and barber shop, amongst other places. Going to football was out of the question.

After I'd had panic attacks for a while & after checking every little symptom online that I felt, it was discovered that I had rampant acid reflux which was causing inflammation, pain and spasms in my stomach and oesophagus. This of course resulted in chest pain, what felt like heart palpitations and shortness of breath.

I'm sure you've worked this out by now but for god's sake never google any health symptom. No good can come of it.

The first doctor I saw (a few times) was useless and literally just gave me a leaflet on relaxation techniques, despite me even having a panic attack sat a few feet away from him. Thankfully I then saw a locum doc who was great and after decent discussions, put me on some medication which really helped me a lot. I'm really not an habitual pill taker and weaned myself off as soon as I felt I was able to.

I don't know if you're taking any medication but all I can say is that it gave me that breathing space where the fear of having a panic attack was taken away and I broke out of the vicious cycle and self-fulfilling prophecy of anxiety. At the same time, I had an operation and my acid problem was cured.

Where do you live?. I only ask because I noticed you mention you were close to Baslow and that's where I came from originally. Send me a PM if you like.

33 minutes ago, Paul71 said:

Ha no i am not, being a life long asthma sufferer i hate it with a passion. My nephews girlfriend is pregnant and has smoked throughout her pregnancy, i cant tell you how mad that makes me.

Anyway I just don't see how you can be fully in control of a car with a ciggy in your hand, and what if you drop it.

Plus it stinks....I used to travel with a co-worker who smoked in his car, in fairness he wouldnt when i was in the car but you got out feeling like you had had a pack of 20. Smokers tend to not realise that masking the smell isnt possible with cheap air freshners etc.

 

As a former secret smoker for many years I used to do it all the time in the car. The tip was to have the drivers window down a couple of inches and the fan on high & directed to your feet. Worked a treat and I never got caught having a smelly car.

Obviously had the compulsory breath freshening menthol sweets and alcohol handwash. Sad really.

12 hours ago, McLovin said:

On a similar topic, people who come and stand right next to you when you're having a wee in the urinal. I thought there was an unwritten rule and there must be at least 1 gap space?

Indeed....

 

Toiletiquette: The Unwritten Rules Of The Men’s Public Toilets

By : Alex Bentley | 17/02/15

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Men’s toilets can be a confusing place. There are some scary smells and questionable stains. But there are some unwritten rules that sometimes get overlooked. Don’t break them.

We’ve all got several public toilet related anecdotes. You don’t want to feature in anybody else’s.

Which urinal do you use?

If the room is empty, this is an easy one. You use the one at the far end. If you are second in, you use the one on the opposite end. That’s just how it is. If both are taken, you use one in the middle, but not next to one of the lads who got there before you. If there is no urinal left that isn’t directly next to somebody, you may opt to go in a cubicle.

Obviously you leave the door wide open if you do that so that nobody else tries to go in. If you absolutely HAVE to go, and need to use a urinal right next to somebody, then the following rule becomes extra important.

Avoid eye contact, and no talking.

You look straight ahead as much as possible. If you DO look at another lad when they walk in, be careful where your eyes aim. Don’t check out their trainers, your eyes must not go low. And keep quiet. Don’t be that bell end that talks in there. Announcing your entrance with a **** joke like “Wooo! So THIS is where all the ***** hang out!” will not make you popular.

 

Do you wash your hands?

Yes, if somebody else is in there. Otherwise, only if you’ve got wee on them. Don’t pretend you wash them every time, you don’t and that’s okay.

Don’t whistle or sing.

You’re not at home. Whistling is annoying as ****. And CERTAINLY don’t if you are in the cubicle having a poo. That is just extra weird.

Don’t text at the urinal.

You don’t want to get wee on your phone. And it’s also sod’s law that you’ll drop it. Plus it’s kind of weird to text your mates while touching your knob. This rule does not apply in a cubicle though. Using your phone while having a poo is absolutely essential.

Don’t unzip until you’re stood at the urinal.

This should be obvious, but wait until you’re at the urinal to get your tool out. Any earlier is just odd. Similarly, put it away before you turn around. It is optional, but preferred if you can sort your flies and belt out before you turn around. But definitely no willy in the open area of the bogs. Absolutely never.

Use the mirror sparingly.

You’re not a girl. You don’t have time for it. A quick glance to check that your hair doesn’t look like a burst sofa is fine. But don’t spend ages in there styling it, you will look like a muppet. Don’t check out your gym progress, and definitely don’t pop spots in there either. It’s grim.

 

There are some other things to remember that don’t require any explanations…

The phone number that is given on the back of the cubicle door offering BJs, probably isn’t an attractive woman. Or a woman at all.

If you enter a cubicle and it’s unflushed and full, leave it that way and use a different cubicle.

If you MUST spit a big greeny, make sure it’s in the urinal, not on the wall. Don’t be that guy.

Always check there is toilet roll before you sit down. It’s not like you can shout your housemate from downstairs.

DON’T SPLASH YOUR OWN OR ANYONE ELSE’S TRAINERS.

Don’t try to make friends with everyone in there. In and out. Let the girls spend half their night in the toilets talking to strangers.

40 minutes ago, ramsbottom said:

B******s online grocery shopping.  The missus has done it a couple of times and each time we were lucky to get half of the stuff we asked for.  Fair enough if stuffs not there but if I were at the shelves I'd never have picked half the stuff they sent instead.  Plus we got tired of them sticking a tin of beans and a tube of toothpaste in one bag...

We use Sainsburys and Ocado & have found them both to be pretty good, to be honest. Sainsburys you can stop them from sending any substitutes if you want. Not sure if you can do that with Ocado but they email you well in advance to tell you if something's not available.

We pretty much get everything online now except for some types of fruit.

Men in the gym changing rooms who are a bit too uninhibited.

I'm no prude but sometimes I swear it feels like I'm an extra in some soft flick.

30 minutes ago, Muskination said:

Those who pull up at the pumps when they're going in to buy a loaf of bread or something.

**** off out of the way. How about you park in that space 10 metres away there?

I did just that once and got bollocked by the person in the shop for "driving off without paying".

I'm happily married, early 40's & certainly no Brad Pitt but do try & look after myself.

I've never cheated and never will but I have to admit it does give me a spring in my step when I get checked out at the gym or out & about.

14 hours ago, Phoenix said:

Leicestershire County Council (tho' I expect others are similar).

Clearing the garage out I decided to get rid of various old tins of paint, in various states of decay. I go to the local General Household Recycling Facility (Tip) to be told ' you can't dump that here, you need to go to Enderby'. Googling the map I find it's actually in Whetstone, so I look on the LCC website for recycling facility information

Yes, out of all the recycling facilities, Enderby (Whetstone) is the only one to take paint. Okay, it's not too far.

BUT.

You need a licence. It's free but only lasts for a few days, and you have to register with LCC. I register,and have to tell them make & model of car, plus registration number, any distinctive markings, am I the sole driver.

Is it my waste, did it come from my house, was the waste generated by my self or a paid person, is the waste generated by myself the result of a paid job. Yes,yes,me,no.

What sort of waste is it? Dropdown list. I select paint etc.

What sort of paint, emulsion, spirit based, turps, adhesive? How many cans, tins, bottles of each? Slight glitch here, because if I accidentally click 'add another', there's no get out. You have to cancel the whole lot and start again. Never mind, I'm retired and can afford the time.

Submit. I get a message telling me that they will e-mail me login details. I go to my e-mails. There's one telling me I have submitted my details (encouraging) and they will e-mail login details (not so encouraging). I wait. And wait. Several minutes. Then I get an email giving me a password (there was a capital 'I' in it. Or is it a '1'?) I log in, although I don't have a User Name. I guessed (correctly) it was my e-mail address.

It takes me to a screen where I have to change my password before I can progress. (It was an 'I'). I am then given a list of options for receiving my paint-dumping permit, including collection from County Hall (aka the Leicestershire Hilton, and has 18 receptionists, honestly), several libraries, or by post. I choose my local library for speed.

It's Wednesday, but I find that Enderby (Whetstone) tip is closed Wednesday so I plan for Thursday,a quick shopping trip into Hinckley, pick up the permit, drive to Enderby (Whetstone), call in by Topps Tiles (Enderby), home. Bingo.

It's Thursday. The wife has decided what she wants from Hinckley, and also which tiles to pick up, so I carefully load all the paint into the boot of the car, and off we go to Hinckley Public Library. F***ing SHUT.. On a Thursday. I suppose Brexit is to blame. It is for most things.

LCC must be the most overpaid, mindless, cretinous bunch of incompetents in Britain. At least, they are Politically Correct overpaid, mindless, cretinous incompetents.

I now have to waste part of Friday, earmarked for other things, to dump the f***ing stuff. Am I p1ssed off? Is the Pope Catholic?

 

What's wrong with dumping them at the side of the road like a normal person?

13 minutes ago, Tony Le Mesmer said:

Not sure if anyone has covered this before but 'chuggers' and people claiming to represent a business or charity virtually accosting you as you go about your merry way.

 

 

 

Ordinary working people/families.

I mean the phrase, rather than the people. You hear it all the time. To me it just sounds patronising that politicians make out they empathise with the stresses and problems of their voters by calling them "ordinary".

After the Dark

At an international school in Jakarta, a philosophy teacher challenges his class of twenty graduating seniors to choose which ten of them would take shelter underground and reboot the human race in the event of a nuclear apocalypse.

The film starts off very good & examines a few interesting moral dilemmas in the fictional situation the students experience. The same scenario is replayed with different choices made, based on new information presented each time. It's interesting in that once the situation/role play starts, it is presented to the viewer as a proper story, so you see the twists unfold and get to find out how & why the right & wrong people were chosen to enter the bunker.

The problem with the film is that half way through, it loses it's nerve (or the writer ran out of good ideas, more likely) and in order to keep the story going and crank up the drama, it starts to break it's own rules. The last third of the film ends up an incoherent mess, as a result and the ending is just stupid.

5/10 (First half: 7/10, Second half: 3/10)