Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues

[EssendonRam]

On 9 September 2016 at 01:52, LesterRam said:

yes my missus is the same mate, she started confident and full of life and now takes 8 sleeping pills to nod off.

Geez-us!

I hope she is seeing someone about that.

[EssendonRam]

8 hours ago, Tony Le Mesmer said:

Exactly my position Inglorious. I am high functioning and diagnosed recently although I've managed to live a reasonably 'normal' life up to now having a partner and kid who aren't on the spectrum. I find I have a tendency to think that whatever I think or say then i'm right and everyone else is wrong but i'm learning to accept that others have other opinions that are equally as valid. I also have a strong desire to see people who commit the most innocuous of 'crimes' such as parking in a disabled bay when they aren't disabled told about it and punished. It's just something that drives me. If it's wrong then it's wrong and often with the unfathomable behaviour of many other people, day to day life is tricky as i'm always getting annoyed at people who don't do the right thing and I've been in scuffles and arguments about this with strangers many times.

At times you do feel like you don't belong on earth and you are a complete different species and something that makes perfect sense to you doesn't seem so clear cut to others not on the spectrum and it is frustrating. I don't avoid human contact but I do prefer either people who pretty much think and act like me or people who basically just don't annoy me. I'm pretty judgemental which means I haven't really made as many close friends as I could have over my 20 years of working. If someone is into enough stuff that I find trivial then I cannot get past pleasantries. It's tough but learning all the time.

Chin up mate. Just gotta keep plodding along with it, managing and trying to push yourself as much as you can.

A really terrific, practical description. Thank you.

You have me wondering about myself now!

[Tony Le Mesmer]

Anyone read all these self help, motivational books? They're ten a penny at Bolsover library so thought i'd get some today and give them a go. Books for assertiveness, anxiety, confidence, positive thinking etc etc. Boom!

[dcfcfan1]

A lot of people with Asbergers struggle to get a partner let alone have children

 

You have done well

[Mostyn6]

it's getting to that time of year where a combination of things usually result in me having low moods.

Dark mornings when getting up, dark evenings when driving home from work, those with families having a purpose and the excitement of Christmas and New Year. I will probably at some point lock myself away over the festive period, and feel like a burden on everyone, which then makes me very low. 

I am trying to counter this, but we will see if my plans work.

I know I am not alone, and hope that if any posters have similar issues, that they are comfortable enough to talk about it, and maybe pre-empting them may prevent, which is what I am hoping to do.

[Boycie]

Xmas depresses me too.

SAD is a problem, and we're in the season now.  I try to focus on the Spring, it's frightening how fast the seasons whizz by though. It's seems like only yesterday that I was on holiday at Easter looking forward to the summer and cursing a wet June 

[uttoxram75]

59 minutes ago, Boycie said:

Xmas depresses me too.

SAD is a problem, and we're in the season now.  I try to focus on the Spring, it's frightening how fast the seasons whizz by though. It's seems like only yesterday that I was on holiday at Easter looking forward to the summer and cursing a wet June 

Sorry to hear that mate.

Is June ok? Hope she didn't report you.

[Boycie]

7 hours ago, uttoxram75 said:

Sorry to hear that mate.

Is June ok? Hope she didn't report you.

Well, I ought to stick to electrics I think.

[Tony Le Mesmer]

On ‎30‎/‎09‎/‎2016 at 07:32, dcfcfan1 said:

A lot of people with Asbergers struggle to get a partner let alone have children

 

You have done well

 

11 hours ago, Boycie said:

Xmas depresses me too.

SAD is a problem, and we're in the season now.  I try to focus on the Spring, it's frightening how fast the seasons whizz by though. It's seems like only yesterday that I was on holiday at Easter looking forward to the summer and cursing a wet June 

Have you tried a light box Boycie? If you get a good one they can really help. They are expensive mind. I too am affected by the endless greyness of winter and for days on end you can't see the sky, just a blanket of grey cloud. I think it's hibernation mode which is natural but in some people they are more sensitive to it yet have to keep functioning when all they want to do is rest / sleep or not do much. It's about battling against your body which is always tough but hope it doesn't affect you too much over the winter.

Also there are some herbal supplements you can take for lifting mood. St Johns Wort is excellent so i'm told but not if you are on any other medication though. It interacts with some anti depressants and other similar types of medications but if you aren't taking owt then should be fine.

[Wolfie]

17 minutes ago, Tony Le Mesmer said:

Also there are some herbal supplements you can take for lifting mood. St Johns Wort is excellent so i'm told but not if you are on any other medication though. It interacts with some anti depressants and other similar types of medications but if you aren't taking owt then should be fine.

Wow I was literally now going to ask if anyone had experience of the effectiveness of St John's Wort.

I am certainly not claiming to be depressed but over the last few weeks I have been experiencing occasional days of low mood. Sometimes I don't realise it until the next day when I wake up fine and other times I know I'm being a miserable bar steward but can't seem to do anything about it. Then I get angry with myself for not being able to snap out of it. I haven't experienced it before - it's like it feels like I'm under a blanket or something & I'm trying and failing to lift it off me.

Mrs Wolfie has suggested taking SJW but I have no experience of it. I was once on anti-anxiety medication 10 years or so ago but don't really like popping pills. I weaned myself off that medication as soon as I felt I was able to and am wary of taking anything I might become dependent on.

I'd be grateful for any feedback on SJW or other herbal stuff.

[dcfcfan1]

To say some people here with depressive/mental problems have a wife and children is great feat alone

 

Im 22 and never had a date:P

 

Seriously though, fair play to you guys for sharing your problems:)

[Mostyn6]

https://friendsinneed.co.uk/

[SillyBilly]

On 06/10/2016 at 19:31, Mostyn6 said:

it's getting to that time of year where a combination of things usually result in me having low moods.

Dark mornings when getting up, dark evenings when driving home from work, those with families having a purpose and the excitement of Christmas and New Year. I will probably at some point lock myself away over the festive period, and feel like a burden on everyone, which then makes me very low. 

I am trying to counter this, but we will see if my plans work.

I know I am not alone, and hope that if any posters have similar issues, that they are comfortable enough to talk about it, and maybe pre-empting them may prevent, which is what I am hoping to do.

Have you thought about going away at Xmas? It is a tough time of year if you are feeling lonely. I did so when single and thoroughly enjoyed it. Even if its a B&B for a 2-3 nights, nice walk down the coast, few jars in the evening with a good book. There really is no point in putting yourself through it if you feel like you have to endure it rather than enjoy it. I felt awkard then too so weight of my shoulders when I just p**sed off for the whole of it.

[PistoldPete2]

On 25 September 2016 at 11:32, Tony Le Mesmer said:

I've had IBS for about 15 years. Cramps, pain and needing the bog all the time. Stopped gluten and pretty much gone within weeks (although it can months and months for gluten to eventually leave your system). I've had an immune response which has led to numerous previously unexplained skin rashes and the gradual diminishing of that permanent groggy / foggy feeling I get in my head.

Gluten is an indigestible foreign protein that we don't need. In many people the immune system doesn't recognise this protein and thinks it's an invader organism thus activates and immune response when it doesn't even need to. Thus all the inflammatory conditions and lethargy.

A biopsy of tissue is the best way of finding out for definite if you have sensitivity or coeliac. I recommend people try gluten free for a bit and see how they get on. It's really not that difficult once you get into the habit. If you eat generally fresh stuff then no real problem. If you live on lots of packaged stuff then it can also be done but the GF alternatives will cost you an arm and a leg.

The only other issue is eating out where it can be like a military exercise trying to find somewhere that caters for GF although in recent years there are many more places doing this.

I had problems with Upset tummy caused by wheat products like pasta , and also things like corn. Took me a while to work it out because it was an intolerance that built up over many years, probably overloaded my system. I worked it out in the end, but too late I think. A few years later I was diagnosed with diabetes, and the enemy again is wheat products and other carbohydrates. 

I kind of think now that my tummy upsets were an early warning sign for my glucose intolerance , ie diabetes. Maybe gluten intolerance and glucose intolerance are related. That's my very inexpert opinion.

anyway I think these diet problems, also have an effect on moods, energy levels etc. also my inexpert opinion. 

[Mostyn6]

14 minutes ago, SillyBilly said:

Have you thought about going away at Xmas? It is a tough time of year if you are feeling lonely. I did so when single and thoroughly enjoyed it. Even if its a B&B for a 2-3 nights, nice walk down the coast, few jars in the evening with a good book. There really is no point in putting yourself through it if you feel like you have to endure it rather than enjoy it. I felt awkard then too so weight of my shoulders when I just p**sed off for the whole of it.

got a lot of things pencilled in to occupy me this festive season.

[Tony Le Mesmer]

5 minutes ago, PistoldPete2 said:

I had problems with Upset tummy caused by wheat products like pasta , and also things like corn. Took me a while to work it out because it was an intolerance that built up over many years, probably overloaded my system. I worked it out in the end, but too late I think. A few years later I was diagnosed with diabetes, and the enemy again is wheat products and other carbohydrates. 

I kind of think now that my tummy upsets were an early warning sign for my glucose intolerance , ie diabetes. Maybe gluten intolerance and glucose intolerance are related. That's my very inexpert opinion.

anyway I think these diet problems, also have an effect on moods, energy levels etc. also my inexpert opinion. 

I think you are correct about the mood swings / low energy. When I was experimenting to see if gluten was an issue I went gluten free for a couple of months then ate some gluten to see if I reacted and within minutes I felt down and drained of energy. Heavy if you like. All within about 3 minutes.

[Day]

2 minutes ago, Tony Le Mesmer said:

I think you are correct about the mood swings / low energy. When I was experimenting to see if gluten was an issue I went gluten free for a couple of months then ate some gluten to see if I reacted and within minutes I felt down and drained of energy. Heavy if you like. All within about 3 minutes.

Eating dentures can do that to you as well. I'm now on a denture free diet.

[ketteringram]

56 minutes ago, David said:

Eating dentures can do that to you as well. I'm now on a denture free diet.

So what do you like to get your teeth into now? 

[RiddingsRam]

Been thinking about posting on this thread for a while now ! But keep putting off from fear of what others may think ( stupid I know) . 

Recently, say the past year or so . I've developed real bad anxiety before I go out. Mainly in social situations , where alcohol is involved . I know I'll be fine when I'm out (had a drink) but I get so worked up before , to the point were I'm literally in a daze for about a week before . 

I'm going to the Huddersfield game( my first away game in a while) normally this would be fine , but I'm going with other people that are out of my immediate comfort zone and I'm getting myself into the same place mentally , were I don't want to be ! It's spoiling something that deep down I'm so excited about . Sorry for the long post and my whin9ng but really feel I needed to express my feelings some were especially were people may have been through the same thing .

[Mostyn6]

29 minutes ago, RiddingsRam said:

Been thinking about posting on this thread for a while now ! But keep putting off from fear of what others may think ( stupid I know) . 

Recently, say the past year or so . I've developed real bad anxiety before I go out. Mainly in social situations , where alcohol is involved . I know I'll be fine when I'm out (had a drink) but I get so worked up before , to the point were I'm literally in a daze for about a week before . 

I'm going to the Huddersfield game( my first away game in a while) normally this would be fine , but I'm going with other people that are out of my immediate comfort zone and I'm getting myself into the same place mentally , were I don't want to be ! It's spoiling something that deep down I'm so excited about . Sorry for the long post and my whin9ng but really feel I needed to express my feelings some were especially were people may have been through the same thing .

that's a peculiar one, and I can only slightly relate if the company you are with are people you don't really understand, or don't perhaps like.

I used to work with some racist thugs and was kind of obliged to socialise with them, and it took me a while to decide to stand my ground and distance myself from them in social situations and since then, I generally only mingle with people I feel truly comfortable with.

Is this similar? I am not trivialising your anxiety but perhaps guessing if I understand.