RiddingsRam Posted October 11, 2016 Share Posted October 11, 2016 23 minutes ago, Mostyn6 said: that's a peculiar one, and I can only slightly relate if the company you are with are people you don't really understand, or don't perhaps like. I used to work with some racist thugs and was kind of obliged to socialise with them, and it took me a while to decide to stand my ground and distance myself from them in social situations and since then, I generally only mingle with people I feel truly comfortable with. Is this similar? I am not trivialising your anxiety but perhaps guessing if I understand. Thanks for the reply , immediately as I posted that , I felt a weight off my shoulders . Regarding the people I socialise with , now there OK! I used to socialise with people , who to be honest I didn't particularly like , and not genuinely selfish people . Now , I tend to only socialise with work colleagues (and my family of course) . It might be a knock on effect from the people I used to socialise with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mostyn6 Posted October 11, 2016 Author Share Posted October 11, 2016 34 minutes ago, RiddingsRam said: Thanks for the reply , immediately as I posted that , I felt a weight off my shoulders . Regarding the people I socialise with , now there OK! I used to socialise with people , who to be honest I didn't particularly like , and not genuinely selfish people . Now , I tend to only socialise with work colleagues (and my family of course) . It might be a knock on effect from the people I used to socialise with. I wonder if your sub-conscious state of mind has something to do with it. Maybe, like me, you've discovered you don't like drinking, or the feeling afterwards and your mind is playing the association game. If you're already feeling a bit better about the situation, then maybe your own self-awareness of the problems and more importantly, the reason, will be the key to overcoming it. RiddingsRam 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RiddingsRam Posted October 11, 2016 Share Posted October 11, 2016 40 minutes ago, Mostyn6 said: I wonder if your sub-conscious state of mind has something to do with it. Maybe, like me, you've discovered you don't like drinking, or the feeling afterwards and your mind is playing the association game. If you're already feeling a bit better about the situation, then maybe your own self-awareness of the problems and more importantly, the reason, will be the key to overcoming it. Thanks mostyn . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NottsRam Posted October 11, 2016 Share Posted October 11, 2016 On 07/10/2016 at 11:15, Wolfie said: Wow I was literally now going to ask if anyone had experience of the effectiveness of St John's Wort. I am certainly not claiming to be depressed but over the last few weeks I have been experiencing occasional days of low mood. Sometimes I don't realise it until the next day when I wake up fine and other times I know I'm being a miserable bar steward but can't seem to do anything about it. Then I get angry with myself for not being able to snap out of it. I haven't experienced it before - it's like it feels like I'm under a blanket or something & I'm trying and failing to lift it off me. Mrs Wolfie has suggested taking SJW but I have no experience of it. I was once on anti-anxiety medication 10 years or so ago but don't really like popping pills. I weaned myself off that medication as soon as I felt I was able to and am wary of taking anything I might become dependent on. I'd be grateful for any feedback on SJW or other herbal stuff. I was looking into SJW for some time but ultimately decided to try 5HTP. I am about a month into using it now and have been pleasantly surprised by the results. The number of good days has grown and now outweighs bad days by a good margin. Sleep has also improved greatly, from 3 to 4 hours a night now I am looking at 6 to 7 hours. It seems a little less prohibitive than SJW in terms of what you can take at the same time (although I am on nothing else), and also does not seem to have the potential side effects either. I bought online from Natures Best or something like that. it recommends to take between 1 and 3 tablets a day (I have stuck to two, one in morning, one before bed) for 3 months, then stop taking and see what the effect is. I will let you know when I get there. I was getting desperate for some respite from low mood, anxiety and sleep issues. These are helping no end. Wolfie and Tony Le Mesmer 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mostyn6 Posted October 13, 2016 Author Share Posted October 13, 2016 I've gone the longest period I can remember (only about 5 days!), without drinking any fizzy pop, or eating any chocolate bars, sweets, flapjacks etc, as well as no junk food or takeaways! My poo has changed! Not as regular and a lot more solid! I'm not as tired in the afternoons (looking at a PC monitor), and I'm more alert and energetic already. Although, someone has bought stacks of donuts and pastries in to the office today, and they are right in front of me. I'm displaying excellent restraint and will power! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ketteringram Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 On 11/10/2016 at 07:24, RiddingsRam said: Been thinking about posting on this thread for a while now ! But keep putting off from fear of what others may think ( stupid I know) . Recently, say the past year or so . I've developed real bad anxiety before I go out. Mainly in social situations , where alcohol is involved . I know I'll be fine when I'm out (had a drink) but I get so worked up before , to the point were I'm literally in a daze for about a week before . I'm going to the Huddersfield game( my first away game in a while) normally this would be fine , but I'm going with other people that are out of my immediate comfort zone and I'm getting myself into the same place mentally , were I don't want to be ! It's spoiling something that deep down I'm so excited about . Sorry for the long post and my whin9ng but really feel I needed to express my feelings some were especially were people may have been through the same thing . I developed the same thing about 20 years ago. It's never gone away. That's mainly due to me not doing anything about it, apart from a spell of counselling. I just ran away from the problem, and avoided the situations that caused the issue. I've largely done that ever since. The problem came on unexpectedly (the first time). I remember it well. Totally out of the blue. These days, I'll go out for a meal with my Mrs, but no way, if it was more people. Haven't been in a pub for about 18 years. Don't do social occasions of any kind. There's probably no point in me trying to do anything about it now. But if you are still young, and wanting to sort it out, I'm sure there are ways to do it. I just don't know what they are! Sorry to be not much help. But I certainly understand what you are talking about. rhysbeck, Tony Le Mesmer and Rev 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RiddingsRam Posted October 13, 2016 Share Posted October 13, 2016 1 hour ago, ketteringram said: I developed the same thing about 20 years ago. It's never gone away. That's mainly due to me not doing anything about it, apart from a spell of counselling. I just ran away from the problem, and avoided the situations that caused the issue. I've largely done that ever since. The problem came on unexpectedly (the first time). I remember it well. Totally out of the blue. These days, I'll go out for a meal with my Mrs, but no way, if it was more people. Haven't been in a pub for about 18 years. Don't do social occasions of any kind. There's probably no point in me trying to do anything about it now. But if you are still young, and wanting to sort it out, I'm sure there are ways to do it. I just don't know what they are! Sorry to be not much help. But I certainly understand what you are talking about. Sorry to hear about your issues , mine is on a much lesser scale , so couldn't begin to imagine how you have felt / feel . Thanks for the words of advice really appreciate the feedback . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mafiabob Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 Just to let you know..... I'm doing ok, 3 years on from one of my lowest points when I got asked to leave the Japanese party palace. Been remembering all over again, but can't change the past. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladyram Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 Can I say I think you're all great, talking about your demons, it takes guts and as you all know too well, far from easy. One day maybe I'll share mine. Well done guys, I think you're all amazing xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbadbob Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 On 21 October 2016 at 00:25, Mafiabob said: Just to let you know..... I'm doing ok, 3 years on from one of my lowest points when I got asked to leave the Japanese party palace. Been remembering all over again, but can't change the past. What's a Japanese party palace and what were you doing? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mostyn6 Posted October 26, 2016 Author Share Posted October 26, 2016 8 hours ago, bigbadbob said: What's a Japanese party palace and what were you doing? gambling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mafiabob Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 7 hours ago, Mostyn6 said: gambling. @Big Bad Bob it's Toyota Manufacturing the party palace is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbadbob Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 2 hours ago, Mafiabob said: @Big Bad Bob it's Toyota Manufacturing the party palace is. Ah right nice one. Not as exotic as I first thought Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Le Mesmer Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 Does anyone have health anxiety that they feel ok to talk about? I have a few health problems but am constantly worrying about health and getting really ill. Its like OCD I guess but preoccupied with it. Anyone have this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ketteringram Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 19 minutes ago, Tony Le Mesmer said: Does anyone have health anxiety that they feel ok to talk about? I have a few health problems but am constantly worrying about health and getting really ill. Its like OCD I guess but preoccupied with it. Anyone have this? Sorry. Do you mean you really have health problems that you worry about? Or you worry about things that may be wrong with you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Le Mesmer Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 2 hours ago, ketteringram said: Sorry. Do you mean you really have health problems that you worry about? Or you worry about things that may be wrong with you? Both really but just thinking the worst all the time regarding any new symptom . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dcfcfan1 Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 lol I have no anxiety or stress issues but dont have a gf or anything How the **** do you guys do it :P? FAIR PLAY Remember how far you have came Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Day Posted October 27, 2016 Share Posted October 27, 2016 1 hour ago, dcfcfan1 said: lol I have no anxiety or stress issues but dont have a gf or anything How the **** do you guys do it :P? FAIR PLAY By having a big p......ersonality Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sith Happens Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 5 hours ago, Tony Le Mesmer said: Both really but just thinking the worst all the time regarding any new symptom . My view is you need to talk to someone if it affects your wellbeing, I dare bet however most peoples response would be 'oh you will be ok' , its a natural response. Hospitals howeve are geared up for this sort of thing nowadays, anxiety shouldn't be dismissed. Not sure what your condition Is but you may find there are support groups and often people who go will have the same anxieties, I go to one and find it very useful... Also healthunlocked.com is a great place to connect with people with similar issues. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Le Mesmer Posted October 28, 2016 Share Posted October 28, 2016 5 hours ago, Paul71 said: My view is you need to talk to someone if it affects your wellbeing, I dare bet however most peoples response would be 'oh you will be ok' , its a natural response. Hospitals howeve are geared up for this sort of thing nowadays, anxiety shouldn't be dismissed. Not sure what your condition Is but you may find there are support groups and often people who go will have the same anxieties, I go to one and find it very useful... Also healthunlocked.com is a great place to connect with people with similar issues. Thought about a group Paul but there are two things stopping me. First of all I didn't want to be sat around people who are all just offloading their problems and getting upset even though I don't mean that in a horrible way. Its just that sometimes its difficult enough as it is without entering into a situation whereby I feel I have to support others and contribute something. Secondly, due to moving down here, my partner being at work all day and me bringing up a young child I've sort of got used to spending most of my time alone as we have no support network locally. I now find meeting people and socialising anxiety fraught, I've lost the social skills and again, without wanting to be disrespectful to others - if I'm being honest I just can't be arsed anymore. I guess its all excuses excuses and at some point I will have to come out of my bubble. Going to Derby games along with 30,000 people has actually really been challenging as I hate crowds and I hate noise. Be no good in the south stand, me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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