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    Ancestry/MyHeritage DNA

    in The Jim Smith Room

    Posted

    52 minutes ago, Gritstone Ram said:

    I did a bit of family tracing once and ended up getting contacted by an American who couldn’t wait to tell her mother she had been in contact with someone who had a family name and lived in a town they had traced their ancestors back to. I bailed out after that I’m not into meeting strangers who think they’re related to me.

    you owe me 18 years worth of pocket money daddy

    Ancestry/MyHeritage DNA

    in The Jim Smith Room

    Posted

    5 minutes ago, David said:

    I'm getting intrigued now, @Mostyn6, has this revealed your family you didn't know as they had already taken DNA tests and on the database somewhere?

    Also, for everyone that has taken one, have you done it through more than one DNA site to make sure they line up and accurate?

    Ask away mate. But keep it off FB for now, as I haven't told my family yet and want to do so in person.

    Basically, there was a match who was like 4%, which means a link to a grandparent. This match is not showing as a match to any of my maternal matches.

    This match turns out to be the grand-daughter of the sister of my biological father. Or more simply, my (unknown) cousin's daughter / my (unknown) Aunt's grand-daughter. The girl in question had taken the DNA test and built a quite impressive family tree.

    Prior to uncovering the links to my Biological father, a cousin on my mum's side has gotten well into family tree stuff. Her husband, son, mother (my aunt), father, and loads of her father's family and husband's family had done the DNA stuff. She got onto my brother, and he did it. Then she chipped away at me. With some recent deaths in the family, there were many photos floating about of my Gran in her younger years, and discussions about relatives to my maternal Grandfather, who died before I was born.

    I then watched an episode of Long Lost Family or whatever it's called, and then saw an advert for a programme on perhaps Netflix about the Doctor who fathered a load of IVF kids. So I thought I may as well do it.

    I chose Ancestry as there was a deal on. But then my cousin said you can upload your DNA to Heritage and other Genome sites. I uploaded to Heritage and it bought similar matches up, but not as many. They also took a £114 payment AFTER I cancelled the Free Trial, and I had to kick off to get the money back.

    Just for information, It reveals DNA links by percentage, so my Brother is my top match. But none of my other half-siblings have done it, and had the match I spoke to not done it. I would perhaps not have uncovered what I have over the last week. I have something like 14000 matches, but 13975 of those are <1% match! So very distant.

    It does rely on the luck of DNA matches having also taken and submitted a test.

    Ancestry/MyHeritage DNA

    in The Jim Smith Room

    Posted

    6 minutes ago, Stive Pesley said:

    So - did this other family know about you all along, or was this a surprise for them too?

    And because I've not had my test yet, how does this work? Do they literally give you names and contact details of anyone who your DNA shows you to be related to?

    When you register your DNA test, you have an option to show on the list. When my results were showing, there was a list of upto 14000 people, but it's in % order, so my brother is at the top, then my aunt, then a load of people I didn't know (the paternal side), then some cousins and relatives of my gran. Obviously, it all depends on you having DNA matches that have taken the test and allowed results to be visible.

    I knew about my biological father and potentially two older half-sisters. I've been told he knew nothing about me. But my mother told me years ago that he did. The younger sister I've discovered is a young sweet girl who I'm already attached to as she's so lovely and funny, told me when I said that, that her dad would explain it better. Mentioning something about dates not adding up. Reading between the lines, I suspect he didn't think he was the father and legged it. But I've since been told by 2 sisters and 1 brother that he's been crying a lot and talking about meeting me and how he missed out on 46 years of my awesomeness.

    Like I said, it's conflicting. Did my mum lie? Was he "not a nice person"? Or was she a bit mental? If he thought he wasn't the father, why? etc etc.

    In terms of contacting people, it's like here, you get to PM someone. They then get an email saying they had a message. Then they can respond or ignore I imagine. You cannot see ages or locations unless someone puts that as visible. You cannot see names either, only username.

    Ancestry/MyHeritage DNA

    in The Jim Smith Room

    Posted

    2 minutes ago, Rev said:

    Wow, that's incredible. 

    Sorry to heat about your sister, but what a thing to find out about a whole family you didn't know existed! 

    Family's are such complicated units, my wife didn't have any contact with her father from the age of 13 onwards. 

    When our son was born, I took him to see his grandfather a few times, with her blessing, but she'd never see her dad herself, saying he was nothing to her.

    more complex is that I haven't been able to speak to my family about it. My mother has lost her mother and sister in the last 3 months and she's already a bitter and secretive woman. My brother acts as if it's betrayal to even talk about anyone other than the man I call dad!

    I have questions and awkward ones at that. My mother implied certain things that now appear to be untrue.

     

    Ancestry/MyHeritage DNA

    in The Jim Smith Room

    Posted

    Just now, Rev said:

    I was 18 when I found out 4 of my 5 siblings were only half brothers and sisters. 

    Not through DNA mind, my Mum bought it up in conversation, and assumed she'd already told me.

    She definitely hadn't.

     

    Well, I'll spill.

    I already knew the man I called Dad wasn't my biological so knew I wouldn't have any DNA from that side. However my mother refused to open up about the biological father. Anyway, last Thursday, along with being the day after I got back from Crete, the day of my Gran's first birthday since she died in June, and the day HRH Elizabeth passed away.... I found out I have 4 sisters and 2 brothers I never knew about. More trauma was discovering that one of those sisters died a few years ago and I was actually surprised how much that hurt. I have been speaking to my two younger sisters and one younger brother over the last few days. My biological father is alive and well, although I haven't yet been able to bring myself to speak with him yet. It's a bit too heavy right now.

    Ancestry/MyHeritage DNA

    in The Jim Smith Room

    Posted

    Without divulging anything you wish to remain private, has anyone here done a DNA test and sent it into one of the Ancestry / Heritage type sites?

    I did one after my brother, cousin and aunt did them.

    To say it's turned my world upside-down is a bit of an understatement! ?

     

    Holiday Plans 2022

    in The Jim Smith Room

    Posted

    Second attempt at flying to Crete today. The first attempt failed on a very hot Monday in July when Easyjet used a temporarily damaged runway, that was repaired within 90 minutes, as an excuse to cancel an already declared “delayed” flight within an hour of further delay. 

    Underrated places

    in The Jim Smith Room

    Posted

    me and some friends have a weekend playing golf in Wales every year, and a few years ago, stumbled across a golf course in the Vale of Llangollen. Now, it's just a golf course to be honest, but it's in a beautiful green valley, with an amazingly peaceful and lush backdrop whichever way you're facing. We ensure we play there at least every other year. We were there last Friday, and although some of the course had dried out or been burned, just spending 4-5 hours there is like a reset for me. I don't quite understand why I feel so at peace there. But one of my favourite places ever.

    Carabao cup third round draw

    in Derby County Forum

    Posted

    best chance of a win would do.

    Anyone wanting a glamourous tie against a famous/illustrious/rich high-flyer should foook off and support that team as far as I am concerned. Nothing wrecks morale as much an embarrassing drubbing by the big boys, and nothing creates distraction in the games during the build up than an upcoming game against a big team. We end up having rubbish results beforehand and rubbish performances after.

    create your best uk band

    in The Jim Smith Room

    Posted

    25 minutes ago, Chester40 said:

    Pathetic attitude, expect better of you...women can be great musicians.

    I'm going- Debby Harry, Wendy James, Belinda Carlisle and Tiffany...with Sabrina playing on the tom-toms.

    at least 3 Americans in your best UK Band!

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    My Attempt

    Singer - Tom Jones (or Eric Burdon of The Animals)

    Lead Guitar - Eric Clapton obviously

    Bass Guitar - Gary Mounfield (Mani of Stone Roses/Primal Scream)

    Drums - Jack Bevan (Foals)

    Guitar/Piano - Johnny Marr (Smiths/Electronic)

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