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Errrrr...could be a bit dark that programme ..? 

Thank you, yes we are doing much better, it has been a tough few months, but yesterday we picked up the keys to our new home. During lockdown last year we lived in a 2 bed flat with no garden, my 3 year old had no where to play bless him, another source of stress for me.  We managed to sell our place, rent somewhere temporarily and buy somewhere with a big garden for my son to play in. We finally picked the keys up yesterday and seeing the smile on my sons face when he saw his new garden is something I will never forget.
Derby County are a continued source of stress at the minute, but if my situation tells us anything, even in the longest darkest tunnel, there will be light at the end eventually.

I missed this thread the first time round. Tough read but brave. Hope you are doing better now @MackworthRamIsGod and everyone else to else.
As to the opening post by @Ken Tram , relegation back in May would have been tough, but unfortunately that is part of sport. It still would have hit people hard though, especially those already struggling.
If we do go down now though, it would be particularly rubbish. Especially after this awful process conducted by the EFL.
I read the opening post thinking it was very recent. Maybe it's needed even more now.

I missed this thread the first time round. Tough read but brave. Hope you are doing better now @MackworthRamIsGod and everyone else to else.
As to the opening post by @Ken Tram , relegation back in May would have been tough, but unfortunately that is part of sport. It still would have hit people hard though, especially those already struggling.
If we do go down now though, it would be particularly rubbish. Especially after this awful process conducted by the EFL.
I read the opening post thinking it was very recent. Maybe it's needed even more now.

I do - think the EFL have handled it appallingly, not just the whole affair but the announcement of the DC result. 
In over 50 years of watching football I can't recall a similar situation where it has been made so explicit that Team A and Team B's fixtures and Divisions might be swapped around, and with 6 weeks to go.  I don't have too much sympathy for Wycombe and their gobby chairman but they are in the same situation as us.  They have no idea which division they will be in to plan accordingly.  They've already sold at least one player who might have stayed if they had been in the Championship.  It matters not a jot what is likely to happen about an appeal, in one statement they have effectively put the preseason planning of two clubs, maybe other clubs wanting to trade players and the livelihoods of unknown numbers of players at risk and uncertainty.
Releasing any statement of that magnitude just before midnight without going through a process of agreeing it with the parties involved (never mind being deliberately imprecise in several pretty important areas) is incompetent at best.  It was driven by the sudden realisation that the fixtures came out the next day - fixtures that they knew were coming out on that date for months.  Somebody in the EFL panicked and for what?  It didn't have to be made.  No doubt they were also putting huge pressure on the DC behind the scenes to come to a conclusion, possibly before the DC were properly ready to do so.  That may have worked in our favour slightly.
The EFL have shown themselves to have a rulebook that is not fit for purpose, a disciplinary process that is not fit for purpose and an organisation devoid of leadership in thrall to the EPL, TV companies and the players' union. It has shown itself as being incapable of leading its members safely through a completely exceptional time when incomes have been decimated. Where we now tread so others will follow too (and already have) and unless they change significantly other clubs and fans will have to suffer their gross mismanagement of the game.

My wife and I have also suffered numerous miscarriages, it is hard to put into words how you feel at the time! One thing I have noticed in people's responses however, is there appears to be a correlation between how far along the pregnancy was to how much understanding you received! I got many 'oh well at least you didn't know for long!' responses to the early ones! Please remember, they all hurt!! 

With respect, I think it's you that is missing the point, or the point @angieram is making at least. There are some on here who simply revel in melodrama and misery and relentlessly post what are effectively the same doom and gloom missives, multiple times across every day. The bulk of these folk were here long before Covid and they'll probably be here after it too, should it ever end. I concede that a smaller number might not take pleasure from pissing on everyone's chips but are simply annoyed and unsettled by the mess we're in. That's entirely reasonable to my way of thinking, but those who do so relentlessly are a different kettle of fish. 
As such, I don't think @angieram is saying that people can't have a moan, but rather that they should be mindful of the effect a wall of misery has on others and also perhaps resist the urge to post the same sleights all over every thread. Let's be honest here, you'd have to be pretty dim to believe that anyone is in the best place they could be right now but this kind of behaviour merely serves to compound the problem.
Rightly or wrongly, I'm more concerned about the regular posters who seem to have drifted away. Are they ok, and why have they stopped interacting? Is it perhaps because of the cacophony of misery on the forum right now or is it that they are the ones suffering most as a result of other influences or a more delicate mental health balance? When the black dog comes calling for me, withdrawal from day to day life and activities is typically the very first symptom I notice. It's insidious, one day you're just feeling off kilter, a couple of weeks later you can't see the point of getting out of bed, calling fiends, tidying you home and the like. Depression for instance, for most folk, does not typically engender increased daily activity and interactions, but rather fewer.
 

Just wanted to bump this thread from last month in light of recent events.
I maintain its very unlikely we'll be playing League One football come August but there will be an inevitable weariness to this constant uncertainty with no clear end in sight. Its relentless & I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who is shaking their head with incredulity at all this, feeling really powerless & just craves a normal, quiet summer with the odd new signing
Things to remember;
1. Perspective - this club has come through some really grim times & yes, we're back here again but we survived in 1984, we survived in 2003-05 & we'll bounce back from this too. And others; Luton got a 30 point deduction, sank into non-league not so long back - they finished above us last year. Leeds were minus 15 points in League One & they came back too. Secondly, as some of the posts earlier on this thread demonstrate, there's some proper hard times being experienced by some out there that makes football seem very unimportant indeed.
2. Whatever the morons behind the ESL think, clubs are all about the fans & this particular club is lucky to have a very loyal & large fanbase. We're a massive community of like minded folk - please don't forget & that this place is great for venting feelings, however irrational/furious/hopeless
3. Tomorrow is another day & things don't stay the same indefinitely. All this will pass.
In the spirit of the second point, I'm going to back off the Rooney bashing for a bit. Made my feelings crystal clear but frankly I'm more concerned about the club stabilising and the fanbase uniting as a group & showing the commitment & loyalty needed to ride out these rough times. And if he does stay come what may & tries to turn this ship around, I'd be lying if that wouldn't impress me massively.
Long live DCFC, they'll never keep us down... ?

I wrote my comment because I think posters need to recognise that not everyone has the same capacity as them. 
I think that the general tone of the Forum recently is greatly influenced by a few posters who are not only aware of their effect on others but take a certain delight in doing so. If I had my way, I would have removed them long ago but we have to tolerate all opinions. I have made a lousy moderator for this reason.
Now if you disagree with my assessment,  that's fine, but I find the forum a depressing place to be in recent months not because of the football but because of certain posters piling in with rhetoric that is not considered or balanced. I know from the circle of people that I speak to face to face, that they are discouraged from posting because of this. Me too. Now some would say that's no great loss and I would agree! 
What I am saying is that if the Forum makes me feel like this, then it must make others likewise. I have spoken privately with people who think the club is going into administration because they have read it on here and that this will be the end of their club for ever. 
They read and are affected by hysteria. That's what I think it is. I don't think it's healthy and I am trying to point that out. Maybe the problem is mine.

If you ever even come close to feeling that way again, even for a second just send me a message, I will give you my phone number and will pick up the phone anytime day or night. 
 
On the miscarriage and no one talking about It we had one when I was working at Toyota in Burnaston, I called in sick the night It happened to be met with statements like “It will go on your record” and “I spoke to HR about It and they don’t have a policy regarding miscarriage so you have to come in”....

I thought 2020 was a tough year, 2021 has been absolutely mental so far.
5 weeks ago my brother-in-law committed suicide and then last week my wife lost our baby whilst 4 months pregnant and we spent a rough couple of days in hospital having to still give birth. Tough times.
I was at least hopeful Wayne Rooneys Rams would cheer me up slightly on the Saturday, but it wasnt to be.
My escapism has always been the Rams, but at the minute it's like going on holiday to Normanton to get away from it all.
 
 

Despite the eccentricities of some on the forum, and massively passionate emotions - and despite knowing how terribly upset so many of us will be if we get relegated - we are lucky to be able to have this forum to get the stresses off our chests. 
But I have just realised that with relegation being a real possibility - and with lockdown associated isolation, reducing the resilience of many - that for a few Derby County fans, they may be at much greater risk than would be usual when a team gets relegated.
Derby County goes to the core of some, and for anyone more vulnerable than they might normally be in normal times, the risks may be higher for those few. (There will be some left feeling bereft by relegation - with this being on top of other problems - and with relegation pushing them over the edge - maybe.)
Maybe the club might want to arrange counselling for the worse affected fans! Or something!
Truly, maybe the club could subscribe to a helpline service for a few weeks - and advertise the number somehow - even during the match - in case of relegation!
This is not a normal season, when the gut wrenching moment of relegation would be shared with thousands of others. For some, it will be felt alone. And for some, it will be on top of having vastly reduced resilience.
It is a good job that we have this forum - for us lot to get Derby related stress off our chests! But, there'll be some isolated fans out there with no release!
I know that I spout nonsense sometimes - and have terrible attempts at humour - but I don't think we should laugh about this.
I might be worrying too much - but if others agree - and there is sufficient consensus - maybe David could pass on any such consensus to the club.
I don't think that I am being unrealistic or over dramatic ...
We fans all go through highs and lows - from minute to minute in games - match to match - season to season. That's part of being a fan. 
I just wonder if lockdown might make it dangerously worse for a few fans out there? I doubt that it will include people on the forum.
Maybe others can see the risks more clearly, or have good ideas about how best to reach out to anyone that might be at risk of we get relegated.
(Basically, I have noticed how forum members are seemingly protecting themselves mentally - preparing themselves for the emotional roller coaster that would come from relegation. Many say that relegation is inevitable. They will be delighted to be proved wrong. But, they will cope with relegation better if it happens, I think. But, if so many forum members are doing things like this ... it made me realise that there will be some, out there, in a far more vulnerable state after a year of isolation - and I suddenly worried about how they will cope if we should be relegated.)
(We are less likely to be relegated than the other two teams - but there is a significant chance that it will happen.)

Yeah, green with envy list ?

Good line from a Guardian columnist.
"Being sacked by Boris for being unfaithful would be like be let go by Stalin, for being difficult to work with".

I understand it perfectly well, I just don’t believe the majority of it. And I back myself up when I see the whole shitshow the government serves up. 
 
If you think you need to follow the sheep, you carry on fella. 

Noam Chomsky sums it up well.....
 
"It is important to bear in mind that political campaigns are designed by the same people who sell toothpaste and cars".

Well yesterday guys pain management final got into contact with me they rang my mum phone as just easier for me well guys towards end of july I got to go for another cov 19 test but then I am having neve blocking injections but once my cov19 test been done then I have to self isolate which means I will miss both pre season friendly sigh.
Wish me look guys I just hope these injections work but I am facing my fear of needles I got a feeling going to hurt like hell.

Boris says apology is good end of matter ,,,,,,Genuine question, are we at an all time low in terms of our politicians and government?
I really believe we are but maybe I’m just over egging it ??‍♂️

Not really! The lateral flow test is for when you don’t have symptoms a PCR test is what you should have if you feel ill. This is exactly how it spreads when people don’t understand what these things are for.

Can't for the life of me work out why they would have gone big on the BBC.

Is this the same Daily Mail that took massive objection (rightly) to the BBC footage of Christian Eriksen's heart attack and close-up of his team mates' reactions, who printed still pictures of him being attended on the pitch and close-up's of his wife's reaction?

I can understand different opinions on lockdown measures, but this is a very strange thing to brag about.

Married to the sister of the writer of the theme tune to Neighbours. I challenge anyone to get a more tenuous Mike Pejic link than that one.