i-Ram

51 minutes ago, bigbadbob said:

Libraries. They're well boring

They are, but you can make them fun easily by putting gum under some chairs, or empty food wrappers sticking out of some books, and my personal favourite is to put an empty Coke can in the adult non-fiction section. Smiling just thinking about the last one.

5 hours ago, ramsbottom said:

Got to say I'm feeling really low today.  Despite shedding 10lbs in a week on the Cabbage Soup Diet and getting back to running I still feel like a fat, useless slob inside.  I feel that I'm use no as a father or husband, and they'd be better off without me and have my life insurance to spend.  I try to be positive for my wife's sake, but the voices in my head tell me she's sick me and she's found someone better.  I can't stand the thought of not being with them but I feel my behaviour is pushing them away...

Not comfortable reading this buddy. Talk to your wife and please get an appointment to see your doctor.   You have opened up to us. Open up in the same way to your wife and Doctor. You need love and help. I am sure they are both there for you.

11 minutes ago, Boycie said:

I blame the parental guidance.

I have had my rod out all morning waiting for a bite, and I get a Minnow with attitude. I was hoping to get a real bite from a big Bass on this forum, you know someone like SRG, but I could be waiting all week. Think I will call it a day.

I remember the first time I took my little girl up to Pride Park. About 5 or 6 she was. We hadn't got so very far when she piped up "what's that Daddy?". She was pointing to some litter drifting around on the street. I explained to her what it was, and she replied "they really are dirty ******** up north aren't they Daddy". Out of the mouths of babes. Out of the mouths of babes.

3 minutes ago, Alpha said:

@Daveo recommended some vitamin b. The Xmas break was important for me as I got some sleep (was sleeping 3/4 hours per day for 3 weeks before that.)

Having two kids kept me busy and I've watched a ridiculous amount of football. Helps switch off, as does posting on here. 

While not feeling to happy about the now, I think I can cope with it. A few weeks ago I wanted a way out. Needed a way out. Now, I'd quite like an escape and that time machine but don't feel so desperate. 

Whether it was this thread, this forum, kind words from @uttoxram75, @i-Ram ,  @rynny, the vitamins, the sleep, reading the experiences of @Mafiabob, @Mostyn6, @SaintRam

it's looking less grey. 

Still didn't deserve Poster of the Year Award. You ****.

12 hours ago, ketteringram said:

Just on the off chance, that anyone has had a look at this thread, and wondered what on earth we're talking about! Well if you don't know, you are very fortunate. 

Don't ever be fooled though, into thinking that it only happens to other people. If everything in your life, relationship, work, self esteem, and so on, are ticking along nicely, then that's great. During times like those, you tend not to think that one day it won't be like that, and rightly so! I'm not saying it won't always be like that. Hopefully it will.............. But...... If anyone had told me ten years ago, where I would be living, and HOW I would be living now, I'd have thought them nuts. 

Same five years ago. If someone had shown me a glimpse of myself now...... I would have just said no way. That can't be right. That is not me. I'd never be like that. I'd never behave like that. Etc etc..... 

Also, never underestimate how events can change you. Bereavement especially. I lost both parents, unexpectedly. We were not even close. And the effects are often not felt for a long time after the event. I didn't even know about that! So just be wary. 

Watch how that can destroy other precious relationships. When offered help, by those more clever and knowledgeable than you, take it. Don't turn it away like I did. 

And as for that time machine....... Sadly not happening is it. I'd borrow it when you have finished with it!! 

Re the looking forward stuff. Yes of course. Sounds easy. Makes sense. However it doesn't always work like that for a while. You have to get to the right place first. The railway embankment, at three in the morning, in the pouring rain, is not the right place. 

So if everything is rosy, then great. I'm not saying, just you wait and see, one day or won't be. But 'new York minutes'  are not confined to new York. 

Hope you all have a good Christmas time. If it's a time you are not keen on. It'll be over soon enough. Jan the first is my favourite day of the year! Take care. 

 

 

Merry Christmas Kettering. You take care too.

Alpha mentioned wanting/needing a time machine to deal with some of his issues. Personally, I think depression/stress can be debilitating because of looking back - you do have to start looking forward. Paint a picture of what you want your future to look like, and then start making some decisions (however small) that start leading you to where or who you want to be. Some decisions will be difficult, and taking advice and counsel from impartial third parties is key.  

As some others on here have said, exercise is good for a healthy clear mind and in truth alcohol intake should be avoided/reduced during periods of depression. It rarely helps.

One thing I created many years ago - not played it for a long time in truth - was a "happy tape". It was a tape with music on that made me smile, laugh, dance. It wasn't a tape of my favourite songs per se, and in fact I can't recall it having any of my favourite groups on it (but Radiohead aren't great for depression either), more simply music and songs that just gave me a lift, an adrenalin hit. I know nothing else about them, but still The New Radicals "you get what you give" (or something like that) makes me just want to bounce all over the place.

1 minute ago, Mostyn6 said:

if you're gonna draw on them, at least turn the hats into turbans!

Racist!  

Genuinely, hope you get things sorted buddy. Had a few run-ins myself with depression over the years; acknowledging it, and taking positive action is the best medicine.

psst. Anybody want any pills?

Happy to offer support and advice too, but truthfully my pills are better.

Scrabble anybody?

The genius that is Foals. New single What Went Down is just brilliant and can't wait for new album in August.

Thanks pal, get paid tomorrow so will probably get a 4 pack of the Piraat.

They don't come in 4 packs, they come in pieces of 8.

My girlfriend got me this for my birthday earlier this week. Absolutely love it. Not the priciest watch on the market but definitely one of the best leather strapped watched I have seen in terms of looks (in my opinion, obviously many will differ).

 

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Happy Birthday Millsy - a nice, manly watch.

 

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Table, armchair, sofa bed and a bookcase?

I had an Innis & Gunn today, with hints of vanilla, caramel and some other ********. Tasted like some overactive kid had puked in my pint glass. Worst bit is that it was in a 2 for

Delirium Nocturnum for starters.

Now washing it down with Straffe Hendrik Quadrupel

Westmalle Tripel

Brugse Zot

Boon Gueuze Mariage Parfait

Started of with a Tremulus Daylightium, and then a Roffe Bysson Tripesium. Really got into a roll then, and sunk quickly a Eastshoppingcentre Quad, an Antwerpse Zit, and a Ponting Gaspode Divoorce Caramele. I think I might go for a Brussels Prout Triplesec Shothopper next, but after all that ***** I really fancy a Fosters.

Oh and onion and garlic chopper

Thank you Frogg for the earlier information. All noted and stored. What he puts on his chopper is very much a matter for you and him.

Bit of a personal question this, but I don't know enough history, but where does Rami fit into the Frogg equation?

Messaged lr about it mate;really do not want to put on open part of forum.Thanks for asking though.

No worries mate. If LR is looking after you that's good. Like I said though, drinking shed loads of Vodka won't make it any better. Go easy; tomorrow is another day.

Vodka now...upsetting day.

Vodka won't help make it better buddy; want to share? No joy on the job front?

So you are saying gays have better taste ?

Just a more acquired taste.

ARam, there is a Brighton group called Royal Blood. They are a bit White Stripes / Nirvana / Muse. I like them lots - just two guys having fun with a bass guitar and drum kit. Well worth listening to. Should find them on You Tube.

Bottle of Kwak and a bottle of Straffe Hendrik Quadrupel for me tonight.

 

Naturally, using the correct glassware.

A vase?

Anything by The Cure but Lullaby is probably most apt.

Great, great band.

Today is my last day of drinking for a month. I may go out in style.

Today is my last day of excessive drinking for a month. I may go out in a light cardigan given its tropical down south today.