ketteringram

This is going well. 

12 minutes ago, Ewe Ram said:

Crappy music venues. 

I went to a gig (or concert if you like) at Rock City and I have not seen anything on that level of disgusting in a while. The 'beer' was coloured water in a paper cup or a 2 pint bucket. The 'coke' was not like any kind of coke ever, it was the right colour but that was it. The floor was so sticky I couldn't pick my feet up (genuinely not exaggerating), the ladies toilets had only a couple with doors on and some charmer had cleared their throat spat it on the wall. Just gross! The sound quality sounded like listening to music from your next door neighbours. All for £30 a ticket. Ok not the most expensive but that venue needs bloody fumigation. It's not even kitsch or ironic, it's vile. 

I didn't know where that was, so had to look it up. You must be mistaken. They call themselves the best in the UK! 

On 11/10/2016 at 07:24, RiddingsRam said:

Been thinking about posting on this thread for a while now ! But keep putting off from fear of what others may think ( stupid I know) . 

Recently, say the past year or so . I've developed real bad anxiety before I go out. Mainly in social situations , where alcohol is involved . I know I'll be fine when I'm out (had a drink) but I get so worked up before , to the point were I'm literally in a daze for about a week before . 

I'm going to the Huddersfield game( my first away game in a while) normally this would be fine , but I'm going with other people that are out of my immediate comfort zone and I'm getting myself into the same place mentally , were I don't want to be ! It's spoiling something that deep down I'm so excited about . Sorry for the long post and my whin9ng but really feel I needed to express my feelings some were especially were people may have been through the same thing .

I developed the same thing about 20 years ago. It's never gone away. That's mainly due to me not doing anything about it, apart from a spell of counselling. I just ran away from the problem, and avoided the situations that caused the issue. I've largely done that ever since. 

The problem came on unexpectedly (the first time). I remember it well. Totally out of the blue. These days, I'll go out for a meal with my Mrs, but no way, if it was more people. Haven't been in a pub for about 18 years. Don't do social occasions of any kind. 

There's probably no point in me trying to do anything about it now. But if you are still young, and wanting to sort it out, I'm sure there are ways to do it. I just don't know what they are! Sorry to be not much help. But I certainly understand what you are talking about. 

Anyone born since 1990.

56 minutes ago, David said:

Eating dentures can do that to you as well. I'm now on a denture free diet.

So what do you like to get your teeth into now? 

1 hour ago, McRamFan said:

I buy with cash, however if you go for a HP deal you can get a chunk of money off as they think they will make it back on interest, then just pay if off the day after you get the car.

That other option where you pay x amount a month then either hand back or pay a lump to own is a con imho. Unless you like a new every three years and have money to burn.

 People who get a bank loan, or buy on HP, are paying a monthly payment anyway. And owning a rapidly decreasing asset, is not necessarily a good thing. 

56 minutes ago, Inglorius said:

I thought that something had been wrong for a long time but I guess just accepted things to be just the way they were, I got to a certain age and wanted at least some understanding and undertook a lot of internet researching and recognised that the majority of my symptoms were associated with Aspergers, had to fight tooth and nail.to get a referreral to a psychologist from my GP which is where we are now what we're your circumstances.

I'll PM you, sometime in the next few days! Bed time, for 4AM start. 

30 minutes ago, Inglorius said:

I've recently been diagnosed with having Aspergers Syndrome which is a form of autism, I am still coming to terms with accepting this and found it even more difficult to cope with the diagnosis given that the clinical psychologist who diagnosed me said there is basically no cure as such and that it was just about managing the condition. He gave me a list of contact groups whom became apparent that they were all geared around autism in children not for a middle aged adult like myself and then referred me back to my GP whose knowledge of the subject was cursory. 

I asked to be referred to a CBT whom discharged me after a few sessions as she said there was nothing she could help me with, it seems that there are no contact or help groups for adults with autism I have a moderate condition on the autism spectrum which means I can function at a level on a day to day basis unlike some sufferers but still has a huge impact on my existence for example avoiding human contact, having little or no appetite to do anything, like depression which I have also suffered from, it can be very debilitating.

Being really nosey now, but can I ask how the diagnosis came about? Sounds uncannily like me! 

9 hours ago, PistoldPete2 said:

Yes gluten has messed up my body a bit... altho there was  a program recently on tv where they found no evidence of any effects on blood tests etc unless you have  a coleaic disease or something.    

Personally think that's just wrong. Mrs KR has changed massively for the better since she's gone GF. 

On the rare occasion something slips through the net, she really notices it! 

Re flying. 

When they dim the lights for take off and landing at night, they announce that there is a reading light above you, should you wish to read. 

Some people leave this on, and worse still, some people turn it on, even though they are NOT reading. Instant death. 

2 hours ago, Mostyn6 said:

exactly the same. I even tried to research dogs which can be left alone, and was only left with braindead-handbag-rats, and lazy fat dogs! Shouldn't be surprised really. Been nearly 10 years without a dog now  

Me too. Won't have another one now, until retirement. 

13 hours ago, Alpha said:

Destroyed me, man. 

I had to leave the room because it'd gone beyond a tear in the eye.

 

Avoid Toy Story 3!

7 minutes ago, dog said:

Current Mrs is lovingly watching cold feet. Does that count? 

Is that the one with all the Penguins in? 

6 minutes ago, LesterRam said:

Elephants.

Where are you? 

9 hours ago, Inverurie Ram said:

I'm the bloke standing up on the stairway 4 steps up, to the right of the flag!......Up The Rams.

When are you next there? Are you always in the same spot? I'm in West lower block C, so have a perfect, and close view of the flags in that corner. I can use phone camera, or if you want it done properly, I'll bring me proper camera. 

14 hours ago, Phoenix said:

Toll Bar End roadworks.

Is that the one near Warwick? Been going on for years now, and I can't even figure out what it is they are trying to do. 

I'm at the Tennis. 

1 hour ago, froggg said:

Here I am at the cricket ?

Why do you have a picture of Adolf Hitler? 

We need a diet and fitness thread. 

4 minutes ago, ossieram said:

My car, my music. Anybody traveling in my car has 2 choices, listen to my music or find another way to get to your destination.

Many years ago, I gave a lift home to a lad of about 18. He'd been out with one of my daughters, on a first date. When they got back, I offered him a lift back to his place.  

He got into the car, and without saying a word, ejected the cassette from the player (it was a long time ago!), and replaced it with one from his jacket pocket. Then pressed play. 

There wasn't a second date. 

2 hours ago, LesterRam said:

 I have had real lows the last few weeks so i decided Monday that i shall walk myself fit, i decided in my wisdom that due to my weight that running was never going to achieve my goals so i decided that i shall walk a set route each day of this week, i have now covered 44k (27m), it is having a positive effect with my sleeping pattern because i am now going to bed physically tired and not just emotionally, i am really coping which is fantastic.

Is it the same walk each day? Same distance? Just curious.

9 hours ago, Inverurie Ram said:

Derbyshire is a footballing town? 

35 minutes ago, Cisse said:

I had some difficulties long ago with public transportation and queing in the shops and things like that. What helped me get rid of that was when I realised that worst thing that could happen to me was passing out. So I thought if I pass out I envent some wild story why that happened when I do come around. That always made me feel like laughing which usually relieved the pressure of those panic attacks a lot.

Actually I think Pointy Room would be ideal place to practise this because a lot of the folks I've met there would be very understanding for your situation, Kettering.

I know what you mean about shops. A few years ago, I went through a phase. Lost count of the number of times I just abandoned a trolley full of shopping, simply because I couldn't face the interaction with whoever was on the till. Crazy. 

3 hours ago, SaintRam said:

I've been getting into/returning to some more creative pastimes and it's helping, especially with my general outlook. 

Still finding it nigh impossible to talk myself into going anywhere where I think I'll come across a crowd though, that's gotten a lot worse recently. 

Is this any particular type of crowd? Is it about sheer numbers? I've no problem with large crowds, but am useless with small ones! I'd be fine in a 100,000 crowd at a game or a gig, but there is no way I would walk into the Brunny. 

Re the new tesla. Why don't they make one that doesn't have such quick performance? 0-60 in under six seconds is pretty quick. I've never owned or even driven a car that will do that. I've had ones that will do 6.5, 6.8, 7.2. No slouches. 

But if somehow tesla could sacrifice some of that acceleration, for some extra battery life.........