Anag Ram

Really enjoying series two of the Kominsky Method. 

Great portrayal of friendship in later life with Michael Douglas and Alan Arkin on fine form. 

On 21/10/2019 at 13:23, Mucker1884 said:

Anyone got any knowledge, experience and/or comments regarding EMDR therapy?

Currently looking at possibly going down that route for my son, as he's recently had a set back.

In brief, it relates to "Battle related PTSD" and his stints (more so the second stint) in Afghanistan in 2012.  (I won't go into detail if you don't mind.  I'd struggle to type it, and it most certainly ain't for the pages of a public forum anyway!)

He kept his troubles totally to himself for over 4 years, until Dec. 2016, when it all kicked off!  He's since had help via the MOD, including CBT and meds.  After being "On the sick", he was officially signed off from the forces about 18 months ago, and has since been living what appeared to be the life of Reilly on Civvy Street in Cornwall, firstly at a boat building college, and for the past 6 months, actual boat building (Ye Olde Kraftesman Stylee), which is a job he is absolutely loving.  (His time in Cornwall has seen the continuation of the meds, but no further therapy... other than what they taught him to do himself).

Unfortunately though, he's been slipping backwards recently, (unknown to us... again, despite weekly Face-Time's!) until he finally called us for help a week ago, whereupon we went straight down there to bring him home, and mop his brow!  We spent all last week talking to various NHS departments (Now he's a civvy!), and they are now advising this EMDR treatment.  Obviously we'll do some research and talk more with various  experts, but if any of you guys and gals have anything to add... positive or otherwise... I'll be all ears!

For the record, he's calmer than he was a week ago, but still far from ok.  We've seen him worse, but want him better.  Even in their mid-thirties, we parents never stop worrying, do we!  

 

On the plus side, his employer has spoken to him (during this past week) and his job is to be kept open for him indefinitely, or  "until he says he ain't going back".  That's a massive positive, as of course he wants to go back... if he can find a way to cope with everything else!

Not so much on the plus side, me and his elder brother will be accompanying him to the match on Wednesday, for his first game since Wembley, "in an attempt to cheer him up a bit"!     Oh bugger!  

Cheers.  

  

 

 

 

From my limited involvement in the counselling domain I understand that EMDR has proven to be effective for PTSD. 

My supervisor recommended a referral for one of my clients. 

Hope it works for your son. 

On 26/10/2019 at 19:32, SchtivePesley said:

Really not sure about that chorus - the rest of it is good, but I saw someone say elsewhere that it sounds like a Sham 69 chorus haha

They are in session on Marc Riley next week - maybe they will play it - I know they plan to do a cover of Magazine's Song From Under the Floorboards

Wedding Present are great. 

New song is a bag of 

On 01/10/2019 at 16:11, Tamworthram said:

All the characters are pretty obnoxious but Succession isn't bad.

Can't believe it's over. I am in mourning. 

Brilliant. 

On 13/10/2019 at 11:27, Ghost of Clough said:

Not even a joke....

Dogging? Well truck drivers do love a Yorkie. 

Boxing is all about what happens when you get hit.

I'm afraid things go kinda wobbly for AJ.

I feel for him because he must be sore and humiliated.

Fair play to Ortiz who took his chance.

1 hour ago, reveldevil said:

People who peer over from the next urinal, and remark on the remarkable length, and indeed girth, of my member, sometimes offering assistance in keeping it clear of the porcelain, forcing me into a cubicle if at all possible.

 

 

 

Ah so that’s your phone number!

I can add an entry for unwatchable telly - Comedians watching football with friends on Sky.

What a waste of electricity.

Your mates would produce a better version.

I have a website on which I buy and sell lizards but it's down at the moment.

Apparently I have e-reptile dysfunction.

8 hours ago, BaaLocks said:

What Chanel is it on again?

CK one.

The Favourite 8/10

Humorous drama about Queen Anne, shattered by 17 unsuccessful pregnancies and reliant upon her confidante Lady Sarah Churchill to run the country and attend to her um, ‘needs’, while she eats everything in sight and plays with her rabbits (no not the battery type).

Then along comes Lady Churchill’s cousin, high born but lost to servitude in a card game. She wheedles her way into the queen’s affections and battle commences.

Its a great period romp which holds your attention throughout.

Hooked on a show called Perfume on Netflix.

Murder mystery involving a group of school friends obsessed by scent.

German with subtitles. 

Sounds odd I know but it’s a Belter!

Greatest Showman 2/10 - don't get the hype at all.

Ladybird 7.5/10 - really nice honest look at teenage angst and rebellion and the parenting challenges which go with it.

On 09/10/2018 at 16:27, Anag Ram said:

I'll be watching them in Bristol on Friday 7th December, two days after watching Young Fathers.

What a scallywag I am.

Young Fathers was cancelled but Hen he and co were superb on the Thekla (gig on a boat)..

Even did Interstate 5.

Every time I book I wonder if I've seen them too many times yet when they start I know I was right to go.

I'll be watching them in Bristol on Friday 7th December, two days after watching Young Fathers.

What a scallywag I am.

 Have a perfect picture on ramsplayer but no sound. Volume dial full on.

Any tips?

Same old rubbish service - better off following Sky.

Working my way through the latest box from Flavourly. 

Particularly like the Crew Republic beers.

11 hours ago, mozza said:

Luke warm water in a four pinta sorts most icy problems out, bugger scraping it.

Yes, as long as you also have the heating on beforehand so the water you have just poured on doesn’t freeze!

On 15/11/2017 at 07:48, Moist One said:

Two things:-

Being an Emotional T***!

Yesterday, a lad who I've worked with and taken under my wing left work to go and work somewhere else. Part way through the day, I had to leave to go to a meeting on another site, and got up to go and say goodbye and wish him luck. I got about 6 steps from my desk, and realised I was welling up and teary eyed, and had to turn around and sit down to compose myself! I ended up composing myself enough to wade in for a quick handshake and a "I've got to go mate, good luck yeah", before spinning on my heels and stomping out fighting back tears! I'm 41 years old FFS! 

To be fair, in my 25 working years, he's possibly the best character and funniest lad I've ever worked with and I will miss him. The kind of lad you'd be happy your daughter bought home. Wish him the best, but cannot believe how gutted and emotional I was. There is also a vacancy under my wing now!

 

"How did we do?"

Why the hell is it that I cannot buy anything online now without it being followed up with a request to review it? I renewed car insurance and had the request to let them know how they did, before I got the insurance documents! I ordered a birthday card, delivered directly to the person who's birthday it was, yet Moonpig email me to ask me if I am happy with the card? I had it delivered somewhere else you morons! Grrrrr. I've spent my money on your service, now leave me alone. If you want me to do something for you, you should pay me!

Never be ashamed of showing love for a fellow human being.

If you want to cry, cry. There’s no shame in showing emotion.

It’s the ones that bottle it up that are screwed up. All that repressed anger and sadness. 

I think it’s great that you acknowledge you will miss him.

The Death of Stalin 8/10

Great fun. Written by Armando Iannuci (The thick of it) and so inevitably blends political insight with a wicked sense of comedy.

Great cast who obviously enjoy their roles as the bungling (and terrified) survivors of the death of the most ruthless of dictators.

Black comedy at its very best.

My wife took some convincing to go and see it but thought it was really good.

19 minutes ago, Paul71 said:

My mate used to work as a postie...

He was allowed 12 days sick a year and took them all,as did most of his colleagues.

I get what you are saying about the inheritance, but not being someone who is particularly financially driven i'd rather my mum and dad enjoy life. I do understand their concerns that if they end up in care the home will be lost, i dont like the thought of something i know they had to work hard for to pay disappearing overnight because of illness.

 

On the care front I know it seems unfair, but it costs around £40,000 per year to provide full time care. No government could ever devise a system of taxation which could pay for that and so it will always be down to individuals to fund anything decent in old age.

It's not a nice thing to have to think about but the sooner we look at savings and/or insurance to provide for it, the better chance we have of keeping hold of property.

The random thing which annoys me here is the number of false dawns we've had whereby government make a statement on care caps, only to retract them when they realise either the maths don't work or, more often, that they might turn off their typical voters.

32 minutes ago, ketteringram said:

How about people who say 'laters',  as they walk away?

Or who start the answer to every question with 'yeh'.

How are you feeling? Yeh, not too bad.

Whats the weather like? Yeh, it's quite sunny.

On 19/08/2017 at 17:42, Paul71 said:

I hate that people expect inheritance. If I had my way my mum and dad would cash in on the equity that is their house and go enjoy it...don't care if don't get left a penny.

There's also the danger that no-one ever gets to benefit. Average life expectancy is over eighty, which makes your kids around sixty. The priorities of the average sixty year old are to make sure their kids are alright so they start making plans to pass the money down!

I think the issue of entitlement goes far bigger than inheritance. We've had people at work taking time off sick because it's their entitlement rather than them being particularly ill. Like a rest for them!

Most kids grow out of the 'it's not fair' phase. For some, it lasts a lifetime.

I think there's a worrying and growing culture in this country of people wanting money but not being prepared to work for it. More sickies, more skiving and now self-publicising through social media until someone 'notices' them and through bad behaviour they then become (in)famous. 

I think reality TV is very damaging to our youth. It presents as 'normal' foul language, promiscuity and infidelity. These shows are routinely watched by children from 12 upwards at a time when especially young girls are confused about sex and sexuality and are coming under pressure to be 'grown up' and beautiful. 

We should show more programmes about those (especially amongst our brilliant young citizens) who volunteer or set a good example through their deeds.

Or does that not make good TV?