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I drew the short straw and drive the little Peugeot 107 mostly. Really like it tbh and very cheap to run.

The Mrs drives the Nissan Qashqai which i'm not really a fan of. Good for space for the little one though.

People who hijack pages of a general thread with a single topic.

9 hours ago, 1967Ram said:

I hope things are getting better for you mate. All the best.

All good at the moment thanks. Always ups and downs but that's life. Need to work on my resilience. 

Thanks a lot for thinking of me!

As stated in another thread.

This trend of mixing upper and lower case letters as a form of mockery....

20 hours ago, Mostyn6 said:

feel free to expand if you want to sounds us out. It's all down to how comfortable you are with revealing it, but you're unknown to me, and I imagine a lot of the forum, so you're as good as anonymous. You might be surprised by a) how relieved you feel just putting stuff down into words and b) how many people understand it all, have been through similar and can give some good basic advice on coping.

Remember, you're not alone. 

Great words.

For the past week or so i have been waking up dreading the day for no particular reason, it is then a draining uphill battle to claw it back.

I just seem to be getting more an more frustrated with modern living. i.e. office jobs & money chasing, poor nutrition available & no trust in foods, news (Brexit, trump, death, money), the internet etc. Sure i could go on.

47 minutes ago, David said:

Have you tried Coors Light?

8 hours ago, Ramslad1992 said:

I’m having the exact issue with my nearly 3 year old girl... we’ve been told it could be coeliac disease so have been feeding her gluten free for about 3 weeks now whilst we wait for an appointment but no change so far. Hope your little lad gets better ?

We've had blood tests etc to check for coeliac as my Mum is a sufferer. Nothing seemed to show up on this. I think a lot of it could be diet related though as he is a very fussy eater and only drinks milk no matter what we try!

19 hours ago, Gee SCREAMER !! said:

I've also gone down this road on more than one occasion,  I don't trust the NHS as it is simply not thorough enough- seen this time and again with family and friends- so pay the same consultant £250 quid to do the same job but with more care. It's a strange world .   Anyway ,  a new system in place re the above - you can have a private consultation but then you cannot get referred straight to an NHS waiting list. You now have to go back to your GP and get re- reffered .  Bonkers.  You will notice that the Nuffield is basically becoming an offshoot of the NHS as so many people are now going past the 2 week referral for suspected nastiness. 

Please also be aware that if you go private, althougth its the last thing you are thinking about when you get there- ensure the consultant provides a full costing as I got stung once for £650 for cleaning a camera they shoved in my nose .

My 2 year old has been suffering with severe constipation for over a year now.

He has been on Movicol in his milk the whole time but it changes nothing. We're told his bowel has stretched and he is just building up and up until it's unbearable. When he does eventually go he is pushing so hard and screaming, it's absolutely heartbreaking to watch. We go back to the paediatrician, they tell us the same thing, and the cycle goes on.

We talk about going private but we don't really have the money to do so. How has it come to this? Our NHS can't fix a 2 year old in absolute agony? He can only be fixed if i start earning more money? 

On 15/06/2019 at 16:08, Boycie said:

Be nice if you can without getting wet through!?

The links true, my doctor told me to go walking etc when I went to see him about feeling a bit down recently.  Finding time is the problem, unless you’re retired like Mr @froggg is ?

I'm in the same boat (No pun intended) and wondered if it was weather related.

For the first time ever my sleep is being affected too.

I think a huge part of it is the fact that Billy has an appointment with the community paediatrician tomorrow regarding his development. 

14 minutes ago, David said:

I’ve just ran the recount tool for you, looks to have fixed it now

I'm sure it's some sort of technical issue as i would hate to point fingers.

My reputation seems to have suddenly reset itself in the past few days.

Actually, i'm not pointing fingers. I'm pointing my foam hand directly at @David

11 hours ago, Alpha said:

Ha! I'll take that!! 

What I love about this forum is that it's not really had any bravado. There isn't people presenting the best version of themselves because its anonymous. The mods and David do such an excellent job that you can't shoot people down and bully them out the door

So what we end up with is bit by bit, year by year, thanks to shitty football, people reveal themselves. Like the real them. 

Once people start putting themselves out there and seeing it's not rejected they show a bit more and you end up with beautiful threads like this one. 

I think I might be one of the many posters that spills nonsense from their brain onto these pages and I think others might see that as relatable even if they don't agree with me. 

I get that feel from numerous posters. I love reading their absolute rubbish. Your post about your play off match day plans was one of them. No bravado... just you typing words as they come in your head. I can tell as I read it. It was more interesting than looking at Big Dave's amazing night out pictures of balls

You don't get that on Facebook. Posts are planned mostly. Thought through for how others will read them. Like I am sure new posters do on here

In time, on here, people talk poo. Protected by anonymity. And it becomes such a comfortable place. 

I think people just relate to anyone who leaves a post unedited exactly as it left their brain. I do it all the time so that probably helps me get on with most people. Or I feel like I get on with most people. If I don't then that would be pretty gutting knowing short of seeing my face this is me! 

Hope we win on Monday, mate. For many reasons but it's a wicked day you have lined up and I hope you can sink dark fruits with your nearest and dearest with a daft grin on your face!

Exactly this. I talk soooo much poo on here. Far too much! 

Looking deeper into it, it's probably because i struggle to be me and voice my opinions in real life.

4 minutes ago, rynny said:

I've tried posting a few times in here, but it just didn't sit right each time I've wrote it out.

As some of you know I did the cancer research relay for life last year, my grandma was diagnosed over 2 years ago with a very rare form of cancer. She went through all the treatments, operations, chemotherapy etc and was told she was in remission last April, she joined me at the relay and did the survivors lap and had a great day of it. However in September she took a turn for the worse, she went for some tests and  found out the cancer had returned very aggressively. Over the next 6 weeks she deteriorated rapidly. But as the strong woman she had always been she battled to the very end. There were days where we were told to expect the worse, yet she kept fighting and holding on. She eventually passed away peacefully in her sleep. 

At the same time my wife's grandma was on the same ward, in the next room. We were told to expect the worse, she battled on for a few months but lost her battle at the start of this year. 

Then this morning my wife's grandad has passed away (from her mother's side, grandma was from her dad's side) he has been suffering from dementia for the last 6 years.

To say the last 6-8 months have been poo is a bit of an understatement.

I feel like this is something I've needed to write and down but not known where. 

Bless you mate. Must have been a very hard time for you and your family.

Thank you for sharing with us all. I'm sure i speak for a lot of us when i say, if ever you need somebody to talk to, i'm here.

40 minutes ago, Boycie said:

Paying a body shop instead of claiming is sometimes cheAper than you think. Worth getting a quote and comparing to your excess and future increased premiums mate.

Not bothered about my car in the slightest. Nothing wrong with it. Same with the other guys but looks like he's going to go through insurance. It's literally scratches I reckon on a non coloured plastic bumper!

Nowt like shooting yourself in the foot is there.

Coming off a slip road on the way home, see there's loads of room... Boom. Car in front has decided to stay stopped.

Kicking myself so much right now. Hardly any damage to either car. Only a slight bump on the bumper. But will be put through insurance which I can't exactly afford which in turn means asking for help financially (the most degrading feeling ever).

Trying to sort my life out then I do something stupid like this.

15 minutes ago, dcfcfan1 said:

If sala was alive , cardiff would have stayed up tbh

He would have settled in a new country with new team mates immediately?

Sudden adjustment to the premier league?

1 player can keep a poor team up?

You also vaguely say 'If Sala was alive'. If he was somehow alive after the crash, i'm sure he would have had some injuries and psychological issues from being involved in the plane crash. He probably wouldn't have played this season at all.

tbh? you're not being honest at all are you?

On 13/03/2019 at 14:18, Coconut said:

After Life is to Netflix shows what RDR2 is to gaming, enjoyable but massively overrated and nowhere near as deep or interesting as it thinks it is.

I didn't feel it offered any real insight to the mind of someone who's suffered such a personal loss and a lot of it felt like it had been written by committee and hit on a few too many obvious/standard emotional manipulation tropes, almost like there was a brainstorming session asking "What do we think people in this situation would think/feel/say" rather than drawing on any deeper, more personal experiences.

I don't think Gervais' character was particularly three dimensional. We're told he's a good man, a very nice man through videos made by his dying wife but that's the point, we're TOLD it, we never actually see it - the only thing we're really shown of his life with her is that he loved to play (generic, borish, annoying) practical jokes.

To me that doesn't show character depth, it shows that he was always a bit of an ********, and now he's being.... an even bigger ********? So again we're just relying on her word. He bought her a dog though (probably one of the biggest, most basic plays of audience manipulation), so he must have been a great guy deep down? Nah, I don't think so.

The only time it ever really got dark was when he gave the homeless character 'enough' money, the only moment when I thought "Oh, this went deep, I want to see the rest, how dark it can get?", but it was pretty much brushed aside within half an episode. I suppose it would have to be, because it is a comedy show, afterall, but the problem is it's just not that funny.

Because there's not any real depth there's no real reason to invest in the character -  essentially you're just watching Ricky Gervais playing Ricky Gervais saying slightly outrageous things. Nothing new there.

It's not particularly clever either, there's one scene where they're in the newspaper office discussing whether God exists and it falls back on "If God created everything, who created God?".... seriously? Is that supposed to be an example of clever writing? It's primary school level discussion.

Don't get me wrong, it was an enjoyable watch, but nothing to go crazy about. I think ultimately the message it was putting across was quite basic, quite simple, but positive and worth taking on board.  That doesn't make it an outstanding piece of work though.

I don't think the show ever claimed that it was to go too in depth and if it did i think it would take a lot away from its simplicity.

I think the aim was partly to make the masses understand a bit more, and making it as simple and an easy watch as possible is a big help in that.

I've seen a few widowed men online saying that Gervais has hit the nail on the head. Plus i genuinely enjoyed it and wanted to be a better person for watching it. Can't really ask for much more can you?

49 minutes ago, Alpha said:

 

Can't decide on After life. It goes from funny to depressing every few minutes. 

Sort of the point i reckon.

The only negative i can think of is the very end wasn't the best. Nothing can be perfect though but this was as close as i've seen.

It gets your emotions going, your mind thinking and gives you the will to make a change. What more could you ask for?

On 09/03/2019 at 21:45, Ramslad1992 said:

Can’t think what I’d do without these two... they really are the best, as much as I’ve rescued them they’ve rescued me! Anyone struggling I can not recommend a pet enough, gives you responsibility and something to get up for, gives you unconditional love and accepts you for who you are, they really are the best.

Since watching Afterlife i have applied to volunteer at the local rescue centre as a dog walker.

Hopefully as an opportunity to give back to the animal which gives us humans so much. Don't have a dog myself but when my son (and possibly one more child) get a bit older i will be all over it.

Does anybody else ever feel they are on the brink of having it all worked out?

I read so many self help books & audio books etc. In my head i seem to know it all, but when it comes into putting it into action.... nothing at all.

Fitness goals, career goals, simple self development... i have all the knowledge, part from how to put it into action (the only part that matters).

Drives me insane!

On 05/02/2019 at 16:20, AmericanRam said:

If I owned a DeLorean, I'd only drive it from time to time. 

The timing of this was so much better than the actual joke. Brilliant.

Neither club will benefit from his services anymore unfortunately and it has left both clubs in a difficult situation.

Maybe a compromise and half the fee? I don't know.

Everything going off on the Cardiff side of things is pretty bizarre and i don't think that is insensitive.

https://www.msn.com/en-gb/sport/premier-league/cardiff-city-players-afraid-to-fly-after-emiliano-sala-plane-disappears/ar-BBSWkHK?li=BBoPWjP

The Cardiff players are now afraid of flying? Really? Just in case airborne tragedies are picking out players contracted to Cardiff City.

Warnock told the players they don't have to play against Arsenal but they all chose to play because they have all been so brave.

I've been trying to transfer it to a real life situation. Such as a new starter at work who i briefly met at their interview being in a fatal car crash on the way to their first day. Of course i would be quite upset, but probably only slightly more than if i saw the story on the news.

I'd be at work that day and every day that follows. Wouldn't make me scared to drive to work...

Am i missing something?

Anxiety has struck me again unfortunately. Since Friday I've been struck down with the worst flu I have ever experienced. To top it off our 21 month old was being sick everywhere Saturday night and high temp. Took him to hospital Sunday and he has an ear infection. The wife is also bedridden with an ear infection.

Luckily Billy seems ok but what hurts is having to sit him in front of the TV or scrolling through YouTube because we're incapable of looking after him properly.

Also, I've never had more than 2 days off work and I've been off since Friday lunch. I feel like I am letting people down & it's not going down well, although they sound pretty understanding.

16 minutes ago, Lambchop said:

 

He clearly did. 

I'm not discussing this any further. 

That's a bit out of character. Are you ok?