ramit

Nice bit of white plastic cable trunking above the skirting board to hide the leads, jobs a good 'un.  Love Kef speakers mind, top drawer. 

The amount of paper/cardboard/tissue paper/clips/hooks/plastic that you get when you buy a formal shirt.
They aren't stopping it from needing an iron and a wash pre-use anyway, so are just totally unnecessary packaging.
Bin fillers and planet killers.

Passengers who get into my car and Slam the door,you don't have to,they will close with a slight tug.

replies to my posts; likes of my posts (yes there actually have been some). The last one I got was on July 2.

Next you'll be telling us everything is relative
i hate that, well hate is perhaps too strong a description but i dislike it alright, heftily, if i may say that in the way that everyone understands that word and when i say everything  i say everything is subjective and the only relative is the subjective relative so when you feel that your Lego assembly is not as an enjoyable experience as you had hoped for and then blame the designer and perhaps manufacturer for your project failure irritation, LesterRam complained that your gripe was insignificant compared to his major trauma of being run over by a large lady in a kiddie car, you affect the reader in a subjective manner, thereby excluding all other points of view and forcing him/her to choose sides in an altogether unrelated course o dual perception.
i object to that, in fact i object to this whole charade this thread has become, it's  nothing but a list of relative objections in a subjective cyber world environment and frankly it just doesn't quantify anymore.
To some it up, from my point of view, you both base your argument on a common fallacy. 
There is no baking soda in Gary Oldman's head, subjectively or relatively
 

i wish i could do as you fine folks, give good advice to those in need and be there for them.  i read what a troubled forum member writes and i want to help out and write something sensible or comforting but i just can't do it.  Have tried a few times but always deleted it.  i used to think it was because i am too self obsessed, some sort of psycho, that i don't really care about people, but i am understanding it better now, i don't feel i am worthy to give any advice or comfort, it feels fraudulent.  It's self loathing really. 
i am going through a tough couple of days now, hope it won't be much longer than that, it usually isn't.  It's just so frustrating, wanting to spread kindness and be supportive and being unable to.  i know it would also help me if i could do it. 
You who give of yourself to alleviate the pain of your fellow forum members, i admire you very much.  You possess a quality of great value.
 

i wish i could do as you fine folks, give good advice to those in need and be there for them.  i read what a troubled forum member writes and i want to help out and write something sensible or comforting but i just can't do it.  Have tried a few times but always deleted it.  i used to think it was because i am too self obsessed, some sort of psycho, that i don't really care about people, but i am understanding it better now, i don't feel i am worthy to give any advice or comfort, it feels fraudulent.  It's self loathing really. 
i am going through a tough couple of days now, hope it won't be much longer than that, it usually isn't.  It's just so frustrating, wanting to spread kindness and be supportive and being unable to.  i know it would also help me if i could do it. 
You who give of yourself to alleviate the pain of your fellow forum members, i admire you very much.  You possess a quality of great value.
 

i wish i could do as you fine folks, give good advice to those in need and be there for them.  i read what a troubled forum member writes and i want to help out and write something sensible or comforting but i just can't do it.  Have tried a few times but always deleted it.  i used to think it was because i am too self obsessed, some sort of psycho, that i don't really care about people, but i am understanding it better now, i don't feel i am worthy to give any advice or comfort, it feels fraudulent.  It's self loathing really. 
i am going through a tough couple of days now, hope it won't be much longer than that, it usually isn't.  It's just so frustrating, wanting to spread kindness and be supportive and being unable to.  i know it would also help me if i could do it. 
You who give of yourself to alleviate the pain of your fellow forum members, i admire you very much.  You possess a quality of great value.
 

Oh now you did it, watch out, gonna have to hug you

It's not rambling Paul, you've helped clarify what i need to practice doing.  Thank you.
My problem runs a little deeper than that though, it's some kind of weird aversion.  i will give an example of what i mean.  i am a member of a poetry page.  Members give comments to each other's works, usually those who follow them.  i intend to read their works and comment but then i start getting dread over it and postpone it and it ends up with not doing it at all and then i beat myself up over it, it's a vicious circle. 
On that site you really do get what you give, it's how the place works and i have lost many a follower because of this.  i do comment at times but all too rarely.  My instinct is to run away, to leave the place and never come back, but i would miss expressing myself through poetry and putting it out there.  i'm a nobody there and it hurts me to realize that, for i do have some talent.  i then tell myself my works are worthless and therefor i am worthless.  Emotionally i seem to be like a child sometimes, insecure and needy.  i am going to tough it out and stick around but pause posting my works and concentrate on others until i can feel more comfortable with it. 
i came to this decision after reading your comment.
BTW, this place here is where i feel most comfortable, among my fellow Rams

Oh now you did it, watch out, gonna have to hug you

Oh now you did it, watch out, gonna have to hug you

we are all human and all have flaws and challenges. Never apologise for having feelings. The sooner you accept that you are allowed to feel the way you feel, the sooner you will adjust and accept yourself. @ramit do not be ashamed or embarrassed for being uncomfortable doing certain things. You are who you are. There will be those uncomfortable doing things that come naturally to you. You have 2 obvious choices, a) Work on becoming how you wish to be, but in small stages. or b) accept the way you are, realise it's not a real problem, just a characteristic, stand your ground and live by your strengths. Your explanation makes sense to me, so stick it in your 'bio' on your poetry page. The best poets are tortured geniuses, why should you be different?  

Just remember that sometimes the most simplistic post have the most effect.

In this regard Paul, on a good few occasions recently l have wanted to post something wise regarding your particular circumstances but failed miserably.  I have however thought of you lots, and l sincerely hope that things are on the up.

i wish i could do as you fine folks, give good advice to those in need and be there for them.  i read what a troubled forum member writes and i want to help out and write something sensible or comforting but i just can't do it.  Have tried a few times but always deleted it.  i used to think it was because i am too self obsessed, some sort of psycho, that i don't really care about people, but i am understanding it better now, i don't feel i am worthy to give any advice or comfort, it feels fraudulent.  It's self loathing really. 
i am going through a tough couple of days now, hope it won't be much longer than that, it usually isn't.  It's just so frustrating, wanting to spread kindness and be supportive and being unable to.  i know it would also help me if i could do it. 
You who give of yourself to alleviate the pain of your fellow forum members, i admire you very much.  You possess a quality of great value.
 

I don't think you could have explained how it feels more articulately than you have done in your post.
That sentiment would help anyone reading it or hearing it.
It's not words that heal - it's empathy.

Next you'll be telling us everything is relative
i hate that, well hate is perhaps too strong a description but i dislike it alright, heftily, if i may say that in the way that everyone understands that word and when i say everything  i say everything is subjective and the only relative is the subjective relative so when you feel that your Lego assembly is not as an enjoyable experience as you had hoped for and then blame the designer and perhaps manufacturer for your project failure irritation, LesterRam complained that your gripe was insignificant compared to his major trauma of being run over by a large lady in a kiddie car, you affect the reader in a subjective manner, thereby excluding all other points of view and forcing him/her to choose sides in an altogether unrelated course o dual perception.
i object to that, in fact i object to this whole charade this thread has become, it's  nothing but a list of relative objections in a subjective cyber world environment and frankly it just doesn't quantify anymore.
To some it up, from my point of view, you both base your argument on a common fallacy. 
There is no baking soda in Gary Oldman's head, subjectively or relatively
 

It's Donald Trump holding a shot glass. 

If you don't like it, ignore it.
What effect is it to anyone else if they identify as non-binary? I view the world as fairly black and white, I'm a logic man instead of creative, but if their viewpoint puts them at ease with themselves, who would I be to deny them peace of mind?

Yeah, pictures or you're in a tent at Markeaton Park drinking Tesco's value lager. 

My mom and I at Stone Mountain Falls:
 
 

Popping a supremely lost crayfish back to the river.

We won.