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New alfresco seating area in downtown Utch.....

Thank you for the kind words again everyone it truly means a lot to me and the mrs! An update on the rollercoaster  of emotions is as my messages last week there was fluid under the babies skin which shouldn't have been there so we had to go to grottingham on Thursday  for a CVS,  the experts had a scan before the test and I quote "we don't really know why you were sent here as at the minute everything seems to be fine, the down syndrome risk came back as 1 in 1668 which is good so they've told us to assume everything is normal and we need to go.back at the  beginning of January for another scan to see what's what. To say I was a mess this last week was an understatement (so much so I was odd work sick) but this news was amazing and means at least until next month we can carry on as normal and enjoy christmas. ?

I've had some issues and posted a little about my late wife's cancer, ultimately being bereaved, the struggles I had to cope as a single dad of bereaved children and how it nearly finally broke me and how hard it hit me when my dog got sick this summer. 
I thought I'd just share that I met a lovely widowed lady my age a couple of months ago, and she makes me happy. I make her happy. We're a couple now. Things can and do get better, no matter what life throws at you, you can smile again. Hang in there people.

Boxes of After 8, people eat the chocolate and leave the envelope. You look at the box thinking there is lots left and there are just empty envelopes

Hey guys, after not going to sleep until half 3 this morning due to all sorts of things running through my brain we went for the scan this morning at 8, after a little bit of a wait we were seen to be told that the baby was absolutely fine, had a heartbeat, 2 legs, 2 arms, was exactly where he/she should be and they didn’t know what caused the bleeding but there was nothing to suggest it was to do with the baby. 
Move been absolutely petrified of the worst over the last couple of days but being told that was genuinely the best thing to ever happen to me. Over the moon ? not much to look at just yet as it’s only been cooking for 9 weeks 2 days but here they are! ?

Already partaken of one or two box fulls, very nice pies. The salted caramel ones are good

Walked past them for a few weeks in the shops but today could not resist any longer. Mince pies, Aldi specialled selected all butter classic, only the best will do. Poke a whole in it drip feed a bit of rhum/cognac a few minutes in the oven a dollop of Vanilla ice cream, heaven on a plate. How many sleep till Xmas ?

think that's just the start, it can't be don't pay then you get 3 suspensions.  Whilst they continue to refuse to pay I think they will be excluded from signing players, not fair on Nantes if this is the extent of the punishment

The silly mind games of Mrs Pastinaak.
She and the kids have been out all day leaving me and the dog to our own devices. 
First thing she does when she gets in? Looks me up and down then hands me the car keys. "I forgot to go to the co op on the way home, can you nip?".
So I quite reasonably inform her that me and the dog stopped by the Jug & Glass on our walk at lunch and I had a half of lager so sadly I can't drive. She comes back with "Well that was 5 hours ago so that half will be well out your system by now, so can you nip?".
Of course I can't nip. I had 5 pints at the Jug and I've been necking Cobras all afternoon watching Spurs snap Toffee legs. She knows it and I know it.
This charade is becoming an all too regular occurrence. 

1/  Teach them the difference between "of" and "have". 
2/  When they are sad, pat them on the head, and say "Their, There, They're"
3/  DCFC "lose" games.  Women from Nott***ham are "Loose".  There's a difference!
4/  Do not encourage them to play Peek-a-BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!  It becomes a bad habit!
5/  @Boycie isn't actually that funny bloke from the telly... or anywhere else, for that matter!
6/  Teach them the difference between an eye and a horn.  (No smut please... children are reading!)
7/  If they ain't truly into The Rams by the time they are 12, let them know the freebie season tickets run out, and you ain't wasting your money on a ticket for them... I'm looking at you, Grandson!
8/  If they are ever sick, tell them never to declare "I've add more van free", as someone may be filming them!
9/  @Red_Dawn  is actually a man, despite having a girls name, so do not speak to him... and never accept sweets off him... he's a baddie!
10/  Avoid anything with 2 stars... Hotels, restaurants, football shirts... 
 

Did you buy a telly after the fourth one?

When baby is crying, make sure mum is within earshot....

Prinx tossers.
Been infecting the house for fookin hours now, puking in the driveway, having fun at a loud volume, just piss off into town before it shuts you tight bar stewards.
It's getting worse now, I can hear the wife regaling them with tales of me pissing in the wardrobe when I were their age FFS.
Missed MOTD too.

So whilst I have my lovely step daughter who I met when she was 2, me and my fiancé have recently found out we are expecting. Whilst I’ve learnt on the job per say and feel I’ve mastered toddlers I was wondering if anyone has any hints/tips when it comes to Babies that they’d be willing to share? The baby book says to look for ‘online dad forums’ but as they’re going to be a future ram I’d rather trust you lot! ?
thanks in advance! 

When baby is crying, make sure mum is within earshot....

When baby is crying, make sure mum is within earshot....

First off...congratulations!
You seriously dont need advice on how to be a parent, it will just come naturally! Sure you will pick up tips along the way but everyone does parenting in a way that suits their circumstances, all kids are not the same and consequently all parenting is not the same.
You will find that you parenting evolves to suit your own personal situation.
There is only one piece I would ever give in relation to parenting and that is, enjoy every second of it because time flies, kids grow up so fast and you never know what is round the corner!
Enjoy!

When baby is crying, make sure mum is within earshot....

Maths mate, evidently I’ve got as good decision making as Tom Lawrence in the final third.

Sorry to read about your struggles.
The only people alive who haven't crashed and burned when it comes to matters of the heart are those who can't find the courage to admit their feelings.
It hurts and feels weird now, but eventually you'll be glad you told her, regret at not taking a chance can last a lifetime.
I often take on, or get assigned tasks that seem daunting on the face of it, yet most complicated assignments can be broken down into simpler, more achievable targets that eventually add up to a finished project.
If you can take the same approach, split the work into blocks, then tackle the hardest problems first if possible.
Once they are completed, you'll feel mentally it gets easier the further you progress, having broken the back of the task!
Finally, as for being miserable being back in Leeds, that's a perfectly normal reaction to life there, it's only temporary and will disappear when you leave!
 
 

Boxes of After 8, people eat the chocolate and leave the envelope. You look at the box thinking there is lots left and there are just empty envelopes

Boxes of After 8, people eat the chocolate and leave the envelope. You look at the box thinking there is lots left and there are just empty envelopes

Boxes of After 8, people eat the chocolate and leave the envelope. You look at the box thinking there is lots left and there are just empty envelopes