Coneheadjohn Posted March 28, 2017 Share Posted March 28, 2017 Anyone watching this on BBC 1. It's a difficult watch for me,heartbreaking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mostyn6 Posted March 28, 2017 Share Posted March 28, 2017 yes, very. He's gone up massively in my estimation, simply cos he's human and until now he's never really seen as one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. P Posted March 28, 2017 Share Posted March 28, 2017 Yes watching too. Brave of him to do this programme. Fair play to him. All very sad. How do you even start to cope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mostyn6 Posted March 28, 2017 Share Posted March 28, 2017 I think the thing that would be hardest would be the feeling of helplessness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rev Posted March 28, 2017 Share Posted March 28, 2017 I don't know what anyone else thought, but i didn't get the impression he'd accepted it himself, even at the end. He seemed to have picked up and implemented ideas to help the kids, but remained shut himself, poor fella. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BondJovi Posted March 28, 2017 Share Posted March 28, 2017 13 minutes ago, reveldevil said: I don't know what anyone else thought, but i didn't get the impression he'd accepted it himself, even at the end. He seemed to have picked up and implemented ideas to help the kids, but remained shut himself, poor fella. Only saw about 10 mins near the end but that was my understanding of the situation. How you accept such a situation I can't begin to comprehend. People throw all this crap and abuse at footballers yet take for granted that they have the same fragility as the rest of us. An assumption that money takes away the human side. Watching that tonight was painful and it certainly altered my opinion of Rio, you hope he comes to terms with it soon for his and the kids sake. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rev Posted March 28, 2017 Share Posted March 28, 2017 Money is no insulator in those circumstances, that's for sure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coneheadjohn Posted March 29, 2017 Author Share Posted March 29, 2017 10 hours ago, reveldevil said: I don't know what anyone else thought, but i didn't get the impression he'd accepted it himself, even at the end. He seemed to have picked up and implemented ideas to help the kids, but remained shut himself, poor fella. I would agree with that. When people were telling him that his wife would want him to move on with his life he agreed but felt like he didn't mean it. One of those programmes where I wanted to help all those blokes but felt helpless. I did learn some bits though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Day Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 13 hours ago, reveldevil said: Money is no insulator in those circumstances, that's for sure. It's not but it must easier. Don't get me wrong I have a lot of sympathy for Ferdinand but there's many going through the same situation that have had to put careers on hold, sell homes, live off government hand outs to survive. Not having financial worries would lift some weight of his shoulders. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stive Pesley Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 7 minutes ago, David said: It's not but it must easier. Don't get me wrong I have a lot of sympathy for Ferdinand but there's many going through the same situation that have had to put careers on hold, sell homes, live off government hand outs to survive. Not having financial worries would lift some weight of his shoulders. I was thinking the same thing. I’m not sure it “easier” is the right word – it just makes it different, and as you say means one less thing to worry about. But it’s a double-edged sword Having the money to pay for extra help can only make the guilt worse, plus you also have the temptation to take your mind of the pain with other stuff, be it drugs, drink, whores, gambling etc etc None of which helps Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Day Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 Just now, StivePesley said: I was thinking the same thing. I’m not sure it “easier” is the right word – it just makes it different, and as you say means one less thing to worry about. But it’s a double-edged sword Having the money to pay for extra help can only make the guilt worse, plus you also have the temptation to take your mind of the pain with other stuff, be it drugs, drink, whores, gambling etc etc None of which helps Easier in terms of no money worries that's all, won't make a difference to the emotional side of losing a partner and your children's mum. He can concentrate on being a Dad, children wanting for nothing without the worry of where his next payday is coming from. Obviously like you say it can swing the other way, hire a nanny and live the celebrity lifestyle to blank out the loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rev Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 34 minutes ago, David said: It's not but it must easier. Don't get me wrong I have a lot of sympathy for Ferdinand but there's many going through the same situation that have had to put careers on hold, sell homes, live off government hand outs to survive. Not having financial worries would lift some weight of his shoulders. I was referring to the emotional side of it really, but i take your point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ramsbottom Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 26 minutes ago, StivePesley said: I was thinking the same thing. I’m not sure it “easier” is the right word – it just makes it different, and as you say means one less thing to worry about. But it’s a double-edged sword Having the money to pay for extra help can only make the guilt worse, plus you also have the temptation to take your mind of the pain with other stuff, be it drugs, drink, whores, gambling etc etc None of which helps TBH the cynic in me did think that he's got it slightly easier in the fact that he's financially comfortable, and can work to distract him from the situation. A lot of people don't have that luxury. Saying all that, he has gone up in my estimation, and fair play for highlighting men's difficulty in reaching out for help. I really felt for the chap who lost his wife, and new partner's baby on the same day, a few years apart. How something like that doesn't kill you I don't know... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarrowRam Posted March 30, 2017 Share Posted March 30, 2017 Money takes away the worry of bills,child care etc. I wouldn't like to think how I would cope. It was like Ferdinand said about the washing machine. He never used it probably like most of us. It took a lot of courage to make the programme. Hope Rio and anybody else in the same situation get all the help that they need. So sad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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