Mafiabob Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 Since my last bet..... 10 years..... Just can't believe I've made it that far. Gamblers Anonymous saved my life. Thanks for all your kind messages on here and elsewhere over the years..... Ive struggled last week or two..... putting too much pressure on myself trying to reach the date, when all I should be doing is what I've been doing..... taking one day at a time...... I'm winning..... got everything I ever wanted by not chasing it..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RiddingsRam Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 @Mafiabob well done mate ?. Keep going , I'm wounded when I lose a fiver so can't really begin to imagine your situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ghost of Clough Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 27 minutes ago, Mafiabob said: Since my last bet..... 10 years..... Just can't believe I've made it that far. Gamblers Anonymous saved my life. Thanks for all your kind messages on here and elsewhere over the years..... Ive struggled last week or two..... putting too much pressure on myself trying to reach the date, when all I should be doing is what I've been doing..... taking one day at a time...... I'm winning..... got everything I ever wanted by not chasing it..... Congratulations! I'm very proud of you ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chester40 Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 I read a lot of autobiographies...those with addictions usually say gambling is the worst. Its so acceptable and so easily hidden that it gets more out of control and is more destructive than anything else. Paul Merson had a good story about him gambling on a sure thing, thinking it would pay for I think it was his daughter's christening. He lost and spent the day miserable having lost tens of thousands of pounds. Like Riddings - I am a tight wad and if I lose £5 I am annoyed for days! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mafiabob Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 3 minutes ago, Chester40 said: I read a lot of autobiographies...those with addictions usually say gambling is the worst. Its so acceptable and so easily hidden that it gets more out of control and is more destructive than anything else. Paul Merson had a good story about him gambling on a sure thing, thinking it would pay for I think it was his daughter's christening. He lost and spent the day miserable having lost tens of thousands of pounds. Like Riddings - I am a tight wad and if I lose £5 I am annoyed for days! Easy to hide and lie..... I used to hide mail, invent stories about where money went..... there's nothing physical you can see. However you live in a complete bubble to the outside world. First year or two is all about abstinence, after that it's learning about emotions and how to become a better person, changing my behaviours. GA changed me completely and it's given me a fresh lease of life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mostyn6 Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 Mafia, I was wondering, when overcoming gambling, do you have to freeze out the whole 'gambling' process? or just the monetary gambling element? What I mean by that is, do you ever do something like gamble with your kids? Example "I bet you cannot do 50 keepy-uppies, if you can, I'll buy you an ice-cream". I see you as being self aware enough that you can separate gambling from betting, if you know what I mean, but I bet some have to totally avoid all challenges. Regardless, well done. The last few weeks would've been horrific, especially as a previous horse racing gambler. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbadbob Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 2 hours ago, Mostyn6 said: Mafia, I was wondering, when overcoming gambling, do you have to freeze out the whole 'gambling' process? or just the monetary gambling element? What I mean by that is, do you ever do something like gamble with your kids? Example "I bet you cannot do 50 keepy-uppies, if you can, I'll buy you an ice-cream". I see you as being self aware enough that you can separate gambling from betting, if you know what I mean, but I bet some have to totally avoid all challenges. Regardless, well done. The last few weeks would've been horrific, especially as a previous horse racing gambler. Don't tempt him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbadbob Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 4 hours ago, Mafiabob said: Since my last bet..... 10 years..... Just can't believe I've made it that far. Gamblers Anonymous saved my life. Thanks for all your kind messages on here and elsewhere over the years..... Ive struggled last week or two..... putting too much pressure on myself trying to reach the date, when all I should be doing is what I've been doing..... taking one day at a time...... I'm winning..... got everything I ever wanted by not chasing it..... Nice work fella Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gritstone Ram Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 4 hours ago, Mafiabob said: Since my last bet..... 10 years..... Just can't believe I've made it that far. Gamblers Anonymous saved my life. Thanks for all your kind messages on here and elsewhere over the years..... Ive struggled last week or two..... putting too much pressure on myself trying to reach the date, when all I should be doing is what I've been doing..... taking one day at a time...... I'm winning..... got everything I ever wanted by not chasing it..... We'll done. Things like that are not nice and it takes some beating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phoenix Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 Blimey. It only seems the blink of an eye since you posted '7 years'. Well done and keep it going. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Malagaram Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 Well Done,Clean for 10 years,That's some willpower.Keep on keeping on ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wolfie20 Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 Well done. You're an inspiration to others - some of whom could be fellow posters on here. Your family and close friends must be so proud! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mafiabob Posted April 14, 2017 Share Posted April 14, 2017 9 hours ago, Mostyn6 said: Mafia, I was wondering, when overcoming gambling, do you have to freeze out the whole 'gambling' process? or just the monetary gambling element? What I mean by that is, do you ever do something like gamble with your kids? Example "I bet you cannot do 50 keepy-uppies, if you can, I'll buy you an ice-cream". I see you as being self aware enough that you can separate gambling from betting, if you know what I mean, but I bet some have to totally avoid all challenges. Regardless, well done. The last few weeks would've been horrific, especially as a previous horse racing gambler. Nah I don't do anything...... First year or two was pure abstinence.... ever since then I've learned to change my behaviours and become a better person. So yes I froze everything out. Obviously my boys play football..... and I've promised them extra holiday money for goals etc. It was £1 a goal and £5 for hat trick until my youngest bagged 8 in his first 3 games...... been changed to Euros now..... Obviously my kids don't know yet about my addiction, but when they are old enough I'll tell them. I will let them decide what they want to do if they want to gamble. It's me who has the problem, my fault entirely..... I know you are well aware about my altercations with the "ban FOBT" brigade and ones who want to blame and hate the bookies etc for their addiction..... but I'll continue to be a advocate for recovery..... whatever the trolling, the "stay silent" because it doesn't fit their agenda and name calling I've had from campaigners..... which I find very sad because I feel sorry for most. I have to realise I can't change everybody..... it's got to come from the individual. Thanks fella Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wolfie Posted April 15, 2017 Share Posted April 15, 2017 23 hours ago, Mafiabob said: Since my last bet..... 10 years..... Just can't believe I've made it that far. Gamblers Anonymous saved my life. Thanks for all your kind messages on here and elsewhere over the years..... Ive struggled last week or two..... putting too much pressure on myself trying to reach the date, when all I should be doing is what I've been doing..... taking one day at a time...... I'm winning..... got everything I ever wanted by not chasing it..... Bloody well done fella. Proper strength required for that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mafiabob Posted April 15, 2017 Share Posted April 15, 2017 Just a short one on my YouTube channel from yesterday..... normal vlog will be made in the week. Thanks once again guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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