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I was about to post something very similar. So I will. They are knobs. Everyone’s a knob at some point in their lives. 
The unforgivable bit is how stupid they are. For the sake of a bit of banter, they spent a Saturday afternoon watching their team loose to a last minute goal, and then receiving a life time ban. 
As stupid moves / bad days go, that’s about as stupid as a moment of pleasure, followed by a lifetime of being an enexpected dad. 

Just wanted to say anxiety and depression very common after flu particularly if you are prone to mental health issues. Don't worry about having time off work or letting the little one watch TV. Put your needs first for a bit. As a family you are part of a team and everyone is important including you. Have you tried magnesium supplements. They do help and can be taken with prescription medication too. Vitamin B supplements are good too. Hope you feel better soon - anxiety is horrible.

Balderdash!
Looks to me like you're coping remarkably well with everything you've got to contend with this week.
You're a loyal worker and responsible parent, clearly. Stop beating yourself up for a minute and give yourself a pat on the back instead. Billy isn't going to be scarred by Cbeebies/whatever for a few days til you get back on your feet, fella.

because we don't have to do it day after day, year after year. And we don't have to deal with lack of staff, resources, funding, mis-management, unrealistic targets etc etc
I bet almost all of us have a story about that **** in the health service that didn't treat us/a friend/a family member as we might have hoped. It makes sense. When we're at our most vulnerable we need them the most. We have understandably high expectations. But if we're being non-judgemental we should probably extend that to "the professionals" who are doing a very tough job under difficult circumstances. They may have just been having a bad day...
 

I'd just like to say thanks to the people who responded positively/humourously to my previous posts in this thread.
While my problem was more physical than mental, the unexpected speed at which I was admitted to hospital and had surgery caught me well off balance, mentally speaking.
I hope those who are really struggling find the way to open up to someone, anyone who they think can help, it's not a weakness to ask, I only wish I could summon the same courage personally.
 

Brilliant mate, all you can do under the circumstances. Well played.
I'm not having a go at anyone on my post, although reading it back it looks like I am.  More just a typical soap box post from me when things don't go the way I want them to go. For others as well as me. Most of my rants aren't selfish rants. I want things to be better for everyone and anyone.
It's not the professionals fault they don't have the resources. I've not spoken to anyone who I think is or would be happy to turn someone away. The folks in the industry I think are on the whole, wonderful people who would help anyone with anything they could. You don't go into a profession like that unless your heart is in the right place.
I'm not even having a go at the mates who don't know how to handle it. Christ they're not trained to spot signs, the typical reaction though is come on sort yourself out. As if it were as easy as ABC.
It really is the silent killer and until and unless we can somehow find more cash to fund more resources it's not getting any better.

I don't have the knowledge or relevant experience to comment on much of your post but I find this bit harsh - or just very sad, if it's true.
I'd like to think that most people would be able to spot the difference between somebody just having a good moan and someone who's struggling mentally with day to day life. My point is that the onus is on the sufferer to reach out (hate that phrase) and ask for support from those close to them.
Your opinion is that most wouldn't care. Fair enough but I would beg to differ on that....and I know you weren't aiming it at me.
By strange coincidence, while my work mate was fighting with others outside the bar in Grantham that night, I was sat inside catching up with another former colleague who I'd bumped into. He was telling me how he had a breakdown last year and is coming out the other side but had contemplated killing himself also. We were never that close when we worked together but we connected over a couple of pints and a laugh that night and I made him promise that he'd stay in touch and especially if he found himself struggling again. I just hope he does.

I returned to work today to the news that one of my colleagues had tried to kill himself late on Christmas Eve and has been sectioned for his own safety.
Normally a lovely gentle giant type of bloke, he was behaving strangely at our work do on the 21st - being the life & soul of the party from the start and then very aggressive towards some of the others as the night went on - both of which are out of character. We all thought at the time that he was just getting drunk quickly but apparently he'd been battling his demons for months but only his wife knew.
Of course all us colleagues who would describe him as a friend are now looking for the signs that we missed along the way but there really weren't any until that night and even then, we just put it down to drinking too much & too quickly.
It's been said on here before but, for goodness sake, just talk & share your problems with those close to you - or strangers if that doesn't appeal. Help is there but you'll probably have to make the first move.
I shudder to think what two young kids almost woke up to on Christmas morning. I'm sure it was bad enough as it was.

Never try and drink your feelings away buddy... it’s a slippery slope! talking is the best way, and this is the place to do it ? Never regret posting anything here (apart from the dark fruits stuff) hope everything is ok with your family mate ?

I always liked Fury but I love him now. That interview where he addresses the camera (something he rarely does) was emotional I thought. 
The guy needs to realise he still has mental health problems. You can't cure it! You live with it. He's an unstable character and I hope you're right. I hope he is 100% focused. 
It's great to read the headlines today from the Media. The ones that have pounced on every slip up or unprofessional "lad" behaviour. The ones that never mentioned the Joshua racism tweet. They're full of praise today. Championing him. 
I bet when he set on the path to be the villain to AJ's hero in a 50/50 split he never thought he'd stand a chance of being the good guy. 
Serious talks, 1 incredible fight and 10st lighter he's won over almost everyone. As you say, could be one hell of a story! 
Praying that he completes this second chapter now he's proven he's still got 'it'

wtf judges

wtf judges

I honestly thought it was a draw. It was a really tight contest.
I don’t think either of them did enough to win conclusively.
Most rounds were even, where one of them would start the round well and the other would end the round well.
It was clear to see that these were two boxers that were very equally matched.
Golovkin showed flashes of how dangerous he can be, but not to the extent where Canelo was ever out of the fight. Canelo kept coming forward and at times gave as good as he got.
But generally Golovkin was tentative. He showed Canelo too much respect. I also thought his age showed, and it was only his heart and strength of character that got him through the later rounds.
Outside of a trilogy fight, he should probably retire. I don’t see what he has left to prove or gain.

Boxing has lost all its credit. What a farce.
GGG was nore dominant in this fight than the first. Jesus. Unbelievable.

People saying Canelo looks a lot leaner this time as to have more speed and stamina...
Good one. He looks a lot leaner as he’s off the PEDs.
Canelo won’t have the power as last time, or perhaps the durability in terms of receiving punches, but he could be quicker and lighter on his feet. Looks like he’s intent on a counterpunching points win Mayweather-esque.
His behavior at the weigh-in was an attempt to get in GGG’s head. I don’t think it worked. He came across as a big douche and probably lost some fans over it.
GGG is an impecable professional. So hope he wins. Don’t care about my Mexican bias. I’m firmly in the GGG camp.

Its good to want to self improve by working on your insecurities but I think generally people are too harsh on themselves when judging their own social skills. I have no doubts that social anxiety is a thing and needs treatment, but I am going to be controversial and say it is a term which is very overused.
For me people dont realise that "social skills/status" applies to literally every situation. So ok you might say that you are socially nervous when chatting to colleagues at work, but what about when you are with your family/close friends? I bet you are more comfortable and arent as nervous. See, you arent doing as bad as you thought socially! Its normal for people to be nervous/anxious in different social situations.  Theres probably plenty of social situations where you do alright and dont even recognise it, as you take it for granted. See! You have better social "skills" than you give yourself credit for
 
Its like, my brother made a point/argument that I was "socially awkward" (which some people are, and there is absolutely no shame in that) because Im awful with girls and never have (or will) be on a date. Well I also happen to be a locum pharmacist , whos job involve speaking to patients every day and discussing their condition and medication with them. I like to think I do a pretty good job at that. Is that not under the "social" scope? Are there no social "skills" involved in that? I get on very well with family and friends. Again, is that not "social" too? I go to the local store and ask for an item I cant find and end up finding it... simple... goes unnoticed... .but is that not social too? Ok fair enough, I struggle in one aspect of the social spectrum but I do fine in almost all the others, so why on gods green earth does that make me "socially awkward"?
 
I might be talking poo but the point is I just think when people say they are "socially awkward" are sometimes harsh on themselves by even labelling themselves as that. There are probably plenty of social situations where they feel comfortable and do ok in but never pat themselves on the back for it or even acknowledge it. Dont expect to feel comfortable in EVERY social situation because it isnt ducking happening. We are all human beings, we all get anxious from time to time  (overthinking stuff and how to word what to say ect), and we all have insecurities.

It takes a real man to hold their hands up and say "Im not feeling good and I cant do this alone"
 
Luckily it hasnt happened to me yet, but I know at some point in my life, I will need help (career wise, mood wise ect). Life has too many ups and downs to go through it alone ,  without support and help , its almost impossible to survive mentally when everything is going against you

It takes a real man to hold their hands up and say "Im not feeling good and I cant do this alone"
 
Luckily it hasnt happened to me yet, but I know at some point in my life, I will need help (career wise, mood wise ect). Life has too many ups and downs to go through it alone ,  without support and help , its almost impossible to survive mentally when everything is going against you

It takes a real man to hold their hands up and say "Im not feeling good and I cant do this alone"
 
Luckily it hasnt happened to me yet, but I know at some point in my life, I will need help (career wise, mood wise ect). Life has too many ups and downs to go through it alone ,  without support and help , its almost impossible to survive mentally when everything is going against you

Exactly.
I need help,I need some help.
These are the hardest things to say.
Asking for help is a sign of strength not weakness but that is a difficult thing to grasp.
Great place this thread full of good people.

I agree with this.  I've read @David's view and I think it's overly simplistic as it's not quite as straight forward as you make it seem.  
I've been a Police Officer for 12 years and throughout my adult life I've always been a more anxious person.  I've struggled to sleep at times.  
People think anxiety = nerves and worry.  It doesn't just mean that.  It also means being unable to relax, having a brain that won't shut off, over thinking things and of course it does include nerves and worry that you mention.  Particularly with things like social situations, family events, meetings, big occasions, etc...
The best way I can put it is, Anxiety doesn't have a reason to be there.  E.g. you may be chilled out, you may be off work, no issues, but you're still tightly wound, you still can't quite relax.  
I'm not always anxious, but there is a reason that Depression and Anxiety goes together.  They feed off one another really well (unfortunately).
...
In regards to Depression, it's a really weird beast.  For me it is a feeling of low energy, a zombie state, like I'm floating along without experiencing anything.  It feels like I have a massive weight on my shoulders.  I get more paranoid too about things that happen, like a comment a colleague makes, and I also want to just be alone.  
I'm not even sad, really.  I'm just nothing really... just in an emotionless state.
Depression is a massive spectrum.  It's not just someone being really sad, crying and all that.  I'm not like that at all.  
 

obviously, suicide and men's mental health is getting a lot of airtime at the moment. There's a storyline in one of the soaps, and in local news, a Derby County employee has set up a group to help men talk about depression etc.
It's probably still too taboo for many, and I imagine lots of people feel uncomfortable showing (perceived) weakness.
From my own experience, the first step is self awareness. I am convinced that until something clicked in my head, I would've been adamant I was okay and not suffering from any kind of low mood or depression or mental health issues. Then all of a sudden, I was aware that I was not okay.
One of the best things I ever did was create this thread. I play it down now, but at the time, I was utterly scrambled in the brain. Some of the responses, even the most obviously simplistic, pieced my brain back together. The best bit of advice being to add exercise to your routine.
I also am not aware of the part alcohol has to play in mental health, or at least in mine. I now no longer drink for drinking sake, there has to be an event (birthday, wedding etc) otherwise I won't have a reason to drink and I have be celebrating something to be drinking now, this has helped me immeasurably.
I hope the rest of the dcfcfans community is in good spirits and are coping well with life's challenges. If you need to vent or talk or just get a perspective, please, just blurt it out, there's nothing to lose, as one thing is for certain here, nobody will judge you badly, you will only feel compassion and support from other posters.
It's okay to not be okay X

Never had mental health issues and I don’t have them now. But just found out some terrible family news that will change everything I’ve ever known. Going to be extremely difficult to adjust to. Posting on here as this forum has some great people.

2am I think. 

Having said that, giving the fight to Hughie would set a really really bad precedent. The challenger should be the one aiming to take the fight by the scruff of the neck.