jimbo jones

I’ve been living with depression for nearly 20 years now. There’s been the good times and the bad times. 2019 was the worst. Both my kids are autistic.

My son got excluded from his special needs school in 2018. We went round every special needs school in Derbyshire, to be told not one of them could meet his needs. In short, the problems we had with my son were huge. We ended up getting a disability social worker and being tagged as a family in crisis.
 
In the end Derbyshire Council are having to pay for him to go to a private school in Nottingham. Which isn’t cheap ?
The difference in him at the new school was huge. So then we had the battle of just getting my daughter a diagnosis. For whatever reasons it’s a lot harder to get girls diagnosed. Her school were dismissive of anything being wrong  and extremely unhelpful. Eventually we got the diagnosis and she went up to junior school, who were much more helpful.
Then my partners sister passed away after a long illness at just 30. Obviously it was difficult for all of us. But my son found it really difficult, and the old problems were back. The last month he got back to where he was.
Me personally. I was on the brink when I went back to see my doctor. Who signed me off work. 4 months later and I’m no closer to being ready to go back and starting to get stressed about what I’m going to do about work.
my depression is just something I have. Ive done the counselling and basically been told I just have to manage. The amount of stress I’ve got going on is making that seem impossible a lot of the time.
ive started writing a blog, basically about me trying to deal with life having 2 kids with autism. Which is helping me get what’s on my mind out into “the universe” (or something like that) and getting into the “autism community” on twitter. Getting to know other parents who know what it’s like, which has been good.
 
Anyway this has been me getting things off my mind again....cheers ?
 

Thanks @Mostyn6 you are right. I’ve come realise I’ve neglected myself, and in the end in turns out worse for everybody. 
as my daughter gets older, I’m seeing the same problems coming up with schools & services and it didn’t feel like I could do it all again. it’s hard to explain the mental strain of meeting after meeting about your children’s health.
 
Every 3 months we have a multi agency meeting, where we sit around a table with highly paid “experts” who stare at us blankly and hope we’ve got the answers. Then they promise to do things that never happen. Then at the last one after we’d managed to completely turn around how things were going with my sons behaviour. They basically said that they were amazed as they thought we were ducked and my son was going to have to go into care....I didn’t know whether to be happy or punch someone in the face ?
theres going to be plenty more battles ahead, and the only way I’m going to be ready for them, is if I’m in the right place. Im starting to find that but if time, but it’s not easy. I’m slipping at times. But compared to 5/6 months ago it’s better.

Can only really echo mostyn mate as your experience I can't relate to.
But as I said before, I see depression as a virus/disease. It attacks you. It isolates you and then gets to work. It slips constant advice into rational thoughts. It's a hidden assassin. If it can overload your thoughts and keep your mind racing all the time then it's easier to slip it's dark thoughts in. 
I would just say you have to break everything down. One issue at a time. One thought at a time. Don't look at a million different outcomes and a response to each one. Don't try and plan and counter plan. 
Just tackle the nearest pain in the arse and do it as logically as possible. Present it to yourself as simple as possible. 
Some problems you can't deal with now and some you can. Work through them but pick one out that can be solved and get it done.
poo, it might be that the kitchen needs painting. So forget all the other poo and do that one. An easy one. But it just lets that little bit of stress out. You might have been losing 10-0 but now it's 9-1. It might seem pathetic compared to that huge bill you need to pay or whatever. But that isn't a problem you can solve today. So you will just have to survive that one and keep chucking it out your mind. Thinking about it won't solve it. But it will burden you and allow depression to slide in. 
It's really easy to get overwhelmed by life and it's really difficult emptying your mind to focus on the nearest issue. 
But it's an easier battle than fighting multiple opponents and worrying about the punches that all of them might or might not throw. 
The reality is grim enough, brother. duck facing fantasy. 
You just gotta get that score down. Small victories will do that. 
Obviously some obstacles will be very difficult to get over. Might take years. So make sure that the mind that has to deal with them hasn't got a load of shitty little problems prodding and poking at it. Get them dealt with. 
No rush though man. Each victory will give you a boost. It pushes poo mental health towards the exit. No matter how small the push or how far the exit, it doesn't matter. Depression works in the shadows to get you down and it can take ages to even realise you're under attack! You ain't smashing it in one afternoon. It can be a long hard war but broken down into a series of battles? You can win. But fight on your own terms. 
Good luck man.

I’ve been living with depression for nearly 20 years now. There’s been the good times and the bad times. 2019 was the worst. Both my kids are autistic.

My son got excluded from his special needs school in 2018. We went round every special needs school in Derbyshire, to be told not one of them could meet his needs. In short, the problems we had with my son were huge. We ended up getting a disability social worker and being tagged as a family in crisis.
 
In the end Derbyshire Council are having to pay for him to go to a private school in Nottingham. Which isn’t cheap ?
The difference in him at the new school was huge. So then we had the battle of just getting my daughter a diagnosis. For whatever reasons it’s a lot harder to get girls diagnosed. Her school were dismissive of anything being wrong  and extremely unhelpful. Eventually we got the diagnosis and she went up to junior school, who were much more helpful.
Then my partners sister passed away after a long illness at just 30. Obviously it was difficult for all of us. But my son found it really difficult, and the old problems were back. The last month he got back to where he was.
Me personally. I was on the brink when I went back to see my doctor. Who signed me off work. 4 months later and I’m no closer to being ready to go back and starting to get stressed about what I’m going to do about work.
my depression is just something I have. Ive done the counselling and basically been told I just have to manage. The amount of stress I’ve got going on is making that seem impossible a lot of the time.
ive started writing a blog, basically about me trying to deal with life having 2 kids with autism. Which is helping me get what’s on my mind out into “the universe” (or something like that) and getting into the “autism community” on twitter. Getting to know other parents who know what it’s like, which has been good.
 
Anyway this has been me getting things off my mind again....cheers ?
 

wow @jimbo jones that's a tough read. I generally never know what to say to people who lay out their problems on here, but can sometimes find some common-sense type advice. I wouldn't know where to start with you cos you are also carrying the worry for others health as well as your own. My advice would normally be to break down your issues into different challenges as when altogether, they are too big an issue to resolve, but I don't think that's as realistic when you're talking about your children, I suppose you can take some pride in knowing you're clearly trying to be a great parent and there are "parents" out there who'll just let others deal with their children.
I would probably say, try your hardest to get your life back on track, and some routine/habits going, then other things might fall into place as things become simple in your own little bubble. It may sound selfish, but it's not.
Sincerely wishing you some good times soon Jimbo. 

I’ve been living with depression for nearly 20 years now. There’s been the good times and the bad times. 2019 was the worst. Both my kids are autistic.

My son got excluded from his special needs school in 2018. We went round every special needs school in Derbyshire, to be told not one of them could meet his needs. In short, the problems we had with my son were huge. We ended up getting a disability social worker and being tagged as a family in crisis.
 
In the end Derbyshire Council are having to pay for him to go to a private school in Nottingham. Which isn’t cheap ?
The difference in him at the new school was huge. So then we had the battle of just getting my daughter a diagnosis. For whatever reasons it’s a lot harder to get girls diagnosed. Her school were dismissive of anything being wrong  and extremely unhelpful. Eventually we got the diagnosis and she went up to junior school, who were much more helpful.
Then my partners sister passed away after a long illness at just 30. Obviously it was difficult for all of us. But my son found it really difficult, and the old problems were back. The last month he got back to where he was.
Me personally. I was on the brink when I went back to see my doctor. Who signed me off work. 4 months later and I’m no closer to being ready to go back and starting to get stressed about what I’m going to do about work.
my depression is just something I have. Ive done the counselling and basically been told I just have to manage. The amount of stress I’ve got going on is making that seem impossible a lot of the time.
ive started writing a blog, basically about me trying to deal with life having 2 kids with autism. Which is helping me get what’s on my mind out into “the universe” (or something like that) and getting into the “autism community” on twitter. Getting to know other parents who know what it’s like, which has been good.
 
Anyway this has been me getting things off my mind again....cheers ?
 

I’ve been living with depression for nearly 20 years now. There’s been the good times and the bad times. 2019 was the worst. Both my kids are autistic.

My son got excluded from his special needs school in 2018. We went round every special needs school in Derbyshire, to be told not one of them could meet his needs. In short, the problems we had with my son were huge. We ended up getting a disability social worker and being tagged as a family in crisis.
 
In the end Derbyshire Council are having to pay for him to go to a private school in Nottingham. Which isn’t cheap ?
The difference in him at the new school was huge. So then we had the battle of just getting my daughter a diagnosis. For whatever reasons it’s a lot harder to get girls diagnosed. Her school were dismissive of anything being wrong  and extremely unhelpful. Eventually we got the diagnosis and she went up to junior school, who were much more helpful.
Then my partners sister passed away after a long illness at just 30. Obviously it was difficult for all of us. But my son found it really difficult, and the old problems were back. The last month he got back to where he was.
Me personally. I was on the brink when I went back to see my doctor. Who signed me off work. 4 months later and I’m no closer to being ready to go back and starting to get stressed about what I’m going to do about work.
my depression is just something I have. Ive done the counselling and basically been told I just have to manage. The amount of stress I’ve got going on is making that seem impossible a lot of the time.
ive started writing a blog, basically about me trying to deal with life having 2 kids with autism. Which is helping me get what’s on my mind out into “the universe” (or something like that) and getting into the “autism community” on twitter. Getting to know other parents who know what it’s like, which has been good.
 
Anyway this has been me getting things off my mind again....cheers ?
 

I’ve been living with depression for nearly 20 years now. There’s been the good times and the bad times. 2019 was the worst. Both my kids are autistic.

My son got excluded from his special needs school in 2018. We went round every special needs school in Derbyshire, to be told not one of them could meet his needs. In short, the problems we had with my son were huge. We ended up getting a disability social worker and being tagged as a family in crisis.
 
In the end Derbyshire Council are having to pay for him to go to a private school in Nottingham. Which isn’t cheap ?
The difference in him at the new school was huge. So then we had the battle of just getting my daughter a diagnosis. For whatever reasons it’s a lot harder to get girls diagnosed. Her school were dismissive of anything being wrong  and extremely unhelpful. Eventually we got the diagnosis and she went up to junior school, who were much more helpful.
Then my partners sister passed away after a long illness at just 30. Obviously it was difficult for all of us. But my son found it really difficult, and the old problems were back. The last month he got back to where he was.
Me personally. I was on the brink when I went back to see my doctor. Who signed me off work. 4 months later and I’m no closer to being ready to go back and starting to get stressed about what I’m going to do about work.
my depression is just something I have. Ive done the counselling and basically been told I just have to manage. The amount of stress I’ve got going on is making that seem impossible a lot of the time.
ive started writing a blog, basically about me trying to deal with life having 2 kids with autism. Which is helping me get what’s on my mind out into “the universe” (or something like that) and getting into the “autism community” on twitter. Getting to know other parents who know what it’s like, which has been good.
 
Anyway this has been me getting things off my mind again....cheers ?
 

I’ve been living with depression for nearly 20 years now. There’s been the good times and the bad times. 2019 was the worst. Both my kids are autistic.

My son got excluded from his special needs school in 2018. We went round every special needs school in Derbyshire, to be told not one of them could meet his needs. In short, the problems we had with my son were huge. We ended up getting a disability social worker and being tagged as a family in crisis.
 
In the end Derbyshire Council are having to pay for him to go to a private school in Nottingham. Which isn’t cheap ?
The difference in him at the new school was huge. So then we had the battle of just getting my daughter a diagnosis. For whatever reasons it’s a lot harder to get girls diagnosed. Her school were dismissive of anything being wrong  and extremely unhelpful. Eventually we got the diagnosis and she went up to junior school, who were much more helpful.
Then my partners sister passed away after a long illness at just 30. Obviously it was difficult for all of us. But my son found it really difficult, and the old problems were back. The last month he got back to where he was.
Me personally. I was on the brink when I went back to see my doctor. Who signed me off work. 4 months later and I’m no closer to being ready to go back and starting to get stressed about what I’m going to do about work.
my depression is just something I have. Ive done the counselling and basically been told I just have to manage. The amount of stress I’ve got going on is making that seem impossible a lot of the time.
ive started writing a blog, basically about me trying to deal with life having 2 kids with autism. Which is helping me get what’s on my mind out into “the universe” (or something like that) and getting into the “autism community” on twitter. Getting to know other parents who know what it’s like, which has been good.
 
Anyway this has been me getting things off my mind again....cheers ?
 

Don’t know why but this thread made me giggle. How did you know they were Chinese people ?. Could have been North Koreans for all you know. Takeover bid incoming from Kim Jong Un

We might get Ronaldo cheap,but I would only recommend a short contract.

Wasn’t talking to you, was making a generalised statement to alpha....which is gernerally accurate. I have little doubt you know a lot more about said subject than me, as it doesn’t interest me greatly

No it's not 'the same with everything' and I don't wear glasses. The assessment I made was not a blanket 'the past is better than the current' statement, just MY OPINION on a single current division. If you want to blithely dismiss other folks' views then at least try to do so with an valid argument rather than implying they are blinkered or stupid.

It’s the same with everything, nothing is as good as yesteryear when your looking back through rose tinted glasses....

I think past heavyweight eras are overrated. I'm not saying AJ is beating Mike Tyson or Lewis or Ali!! It's just not an argument that should exist. 
It seems every era people say the HW division is weak. Every era. 
You wouldn't argue about 70's Derby vs 90's Man United. 
The HW division has always looked like it's got crap fighters purely because they don't always carry the best physique and they drop like sacks of turd. 
People said the same when Lewis ruled the world. And then again under the Klitschko's. Now you look back on them as legends and remember epic fights. What about the human punchbags they all fought. It took them 40+ fights to prove themselves as legends 
I think the HW division has everything right now. Miller, Whyte, Parker, Fury x2, AJ, Chagaev, Dauhapas, Wilder, Molina, Hammer, Brown, Charr, Takam, Chisora, Pulev, Usyk (soon), Haye, Wlad, Povetkin...
So many different styles and sizes that have paired off in the last couple of years. Not all in their prime but what era was any different?

Michael Forsyth beach away kit

Everybody’s favourite away kit ! Timeless

As I am embarking on a new group project to document the history of the Derby County kit with a couple of likeminded souls I thought that it was time to actually document my shirts and look at what I have got, so I thought I would share that with the DCFCFANS.UK famalam.
i have just grabbed the first lot of the rail, I will then photograph each one on a mannequin or what ever they are called and post them up on here for those who may be interested, for those who are not then apologies in advance as it’s probs gonna drag on a while.
any how I thought I would lay out the first lot and if I say so my self there are some nice items in the first batch, these are on the whole 1970 to 1989 ish, there are a couple of rogue newer ones slipped in aswell.
here goes

Jim Walker the forgotten man
As many of you know I have been for the last 18 months meeting up with the old brigade, the proper DCFC legends, the ones that put us on the map in footballing terms, the ones that made us the best team in England and got us to the European Cup semi finals, the teams of 71/72 and 74/75.
It started off as way to spend time with my Dad who was a bit lost after the loss of my mum, he is a season ticket holder now and was back in the day so I started off out on a journey that has lead us to meet most of them, one of them remains elusive and one didn’t wish to participate.
All of them have been fantastic, eager to tell stories of the great Brian Clough and the amazing fortunes of Derby County who in those bleak years of three day weeks, power blackouts, strikes and Rolls Royce nearly going under taking thousands of local jobs with it gave the people of Derby something to be proud of.
Upon meeting one of those legends, Jim Walker I was particularly struck by how at peace he was with the world, very relaxed, very friendly and by far the best story teller of them all.
Jim had not long ago lost his wife to illness so immediately him and my dad had something in common other than the love of football, he made us very welcome and gave us an open invite to go round when ever to continue with the tales.
Now most people may remember Jim as the guy who was signed by Clough & Taylor from non league football to play for Derby County and was a major part of the team that won promotion from division two in 1968/69.
He lost his place in the team to John Mcgovern but captained the reserves and stepped in when required to cover injuries of suspensions, this meant that he played only a few games in the 1971/72 season but it was his goal in a 1-0 win against Crystal Palace in late march that gave Derby both points and if you remember we won the league and finished first above dirty Leeds who were just one point behind and had a greater goal difference, so in effect Jim scored the goal that won us the First Division Championship.
Aswell as a footballer Jim is probably better known as the Aston Villa physio, he was there for around twenty years and served under many managers including Graham Taylor, Ron Atkinson, Brian Little and John Gregory, he was also the man charged with looking after Paul McGrath for many years both on and off the pitch and is spoken of in very high regard in Pauls autobiography.
He had a private practice at the Belfry for the golfers and was also the go to man at the NEC when any pop stars suffered an injury or needed attention from a physio, he worked with George Michael, Elton John, Neil Diamond, Michael Hutchence and Kylie to name a few hence him having so many fantastic stories.
Jim has also had illnesses this however does not dampen his spirit or take a smile from his face.
One thing that I was amazed to hear that Jim did not receive a medal for winning the league title despite being only one of sixteen players in that 71/72 season to have donned the shirt and scoring such a valuable goal.
When ever you see the pictures of the team celebrating and holding up their medals jim does not have one.
I approached Andy Ellis the club historian and the writer of many Derby County books and the fount of all knowledge and he confirmed it.
So we the approached the club and asked if they would support an application to Gordon Taylor of the PFA to ask if he would inturn support an application to the football league to present Jim with the medal that he should have received 46 years ago.
The club agreed and they sent the letter to Gordon Taylor who gave it his blessing and the approach was then made to the football league, this was back in February this year after the ball was started rolling in June of 2017 so it took a while.
I am delighted to say that the agreement was given and Derby County approached the very same jewellers who had made the original ones to make one for Jim, to the exact specifications of the original medals and in the same box and made from 9ct gold with all of the hall marks.
For some reason the club at this time can not be seen to publicly present Jim with the medal which is a great sadness as I thought that he was going to be able to step out on the pitch at Pride Park on the opening home game against Leeds (quite fitting as he stopped them winning the league with his goal), it is a litigious matter so I will comment no further other than to say that they did everything that they could.
So to wrap up the story I had the great honour of going to Jims house today with my dad and my son and presenting him with his long overdue medal, he had no idea that it was coming and to say that he was over whelmed is an understatement.
It was great to see his face and to have the privilege to do something like that, I had the medal at my house for a while but obviously didn’t want to post any pictures until now as it was a secret.
Not very often that you get to present a league championship winning medal on behalf of Derby County and to one of the few from those great days and can be called the legends.
We are hoping that Jim will still be able to have amore public presentation at sometime in the season at Pride Park when what ever issues are resolved.
Up the Rams !!
 

Ben Osborn