CWC1983

I was at the game. Screwed as soon it went to 10 v 11, and to be fair we never laid a glove on them. First sending off seemed harsh,  but cant argue with the 2nd. Major surgery required in the summer but hopefully we get some Ryan Fraser money if he moves on. 
On the plus side, Ive had a decent pub crawl in Glasgow followed by a lovely curry in Chakoo Bombay cafe. 

Not a full time nob mate. You're getting your arse kicked by poor mental health. All we can do is survive it when it comes around.
Think you have to try and remember what's important to the real you and recognise you're on your arse and make sure you do your best to keep it all together for when you manage to climb off the canvas. 
I don't think there's really a fix is there? Just different ways of surviving. 
Dead easy to get in a sandwich between self pity and self loathing. 
I think of depression as more of an actual living thing. I know I'm a decent bloke. But at times I am a massive knob for weeks and months. But I know I'm not a knob. I'm not spiteful or jealous or arrogant or egotistical. I know my faults and I'm ok with them. I'm happy and confident in being a decent average Joe. No more and no less. But when depression gets hold of me I become a spiteful person who needs to be loved one minute and hates everyone the next. 
It's just a position we get put in. If you can recognise it then I believe you will always come through it to your old self. 
The difficult thing is not letting yourself become possessed and then ruining your life. It's not easy. 
But like all of life tests. You find positives and work the best with what you have. 
I wouldn't suggest you stop being a knob and start fixing up. That's fantasy in my experience. I'd say just survive. Don't give yourself a bollocking for being a knob. I believe it's depression that wants you to constantly question yourself. You should just focus on the next thing you're about to do. Constantly look to the immediate future. Like @GboroRam said... small tiny changes can help. I think it's just because you're not dwelling. As soon as you start thinking about your next forward step then you're onto a winner. 
This advice might be poo. But this thread should be about people throwing in their random madness. I survive and there's a good few inspirational people in this thread. 
I hope you find something that works for you. If you don't then you've fecked it mate. But you will. 
All the best to all those struggling. Some posts I can't relate to because every experience is different. Be nice if there was 1 easy coping guide we could all follow innit?
 

Hey @reveldevil, how are you mate. 
Been crazy busy with work but hope you and everyone else struggling are fighting fit

Thought I'd try and revive the thread for the upcoming DeGale v Eubank fight.
It should be a great fight. One has been on top but is on the way down and one has taken a couple of needed humblings but is still a raw talent. They should be kind of meeting in the middle. 
Seen people moaning that it's not PPV worthy but I'd disagree. It's not elite level but one of these guys is about to rule himself out of any big fights from anything between 2 years and ever.  It will finish DeGale and hammer Jnr back down to below world level.
DeGale is fecked. His nose ruined, his teeth rebuilt, his eyes are sunk, he slurs his words. But if he's even half the warrior and champion he was a few years ago then he wins this by 2 or 3 rounds imo. 

Just wanted to say anxiety and depression very common after flu particularly if you are prone to mental health issues. Don't worry about having time off work or letting the little one watch TV. Put your needs first for a bit. As a family you are part of a team and everyone is important including you. Have you tried magnesium supplements. They do help and can be taken with prescription medication too. Vitamin B supplements are good too. Hope you feel better soon - anxiety is horrible.

Balderdash!
Looks to me like you're coping remarkably well with everything you've got to contend with this week.
You're a loyal worker and responsible parent, clearly. Stop beating yourself up for a minute and give yourself a pat on the back instead. Billy isn't going to be scarred by Cbeebies/whatever for a few days til you get back on your feet, fella.

I think with respect to those that started the thread and have used it for positive means, it's not really the place to start debating that. I'm not even very comfortable with the turn it has taken in the last couple of pages.
Not saying anyone's views are invalid, but I don't feel it's the place to be saying contentious stuff IMO
 

Keep safe everyone,  and Happy New Year to all ?
 

Last trip to Pittodrie was a nowt nowt with Perth. Chrissy..come on down. Make that up. ?????????

Enjoy yourself @CWC1983. Used to be a nice Belgium pub in Leicester, I forget the name.
I'm currently enjoying a bottle of 6 Degrees Peloton and dreaming about the Rams giving Aberdeen a proper walloping in 2 years time at Pittodrie in Europe!
Bobby Davidson on loan to Aberdeen and they win the league and all the rest!
@2tups probably out and about in the Aberdeenshire rain and win tonight having a Tia Maria and Lucozade instead of that Brew Dog Stuff.

Happy New Year to all rams a'where. Touched by the Doric or nae. And some time soon... road trip....

Yes; there's another one in September but we raise awareness all year round. The Community Trust run the men's team talk group and there are loads of people to talk to if someone needs to. I am always happy to signpost if anyone wants to know what's out there. To be honest, in a crisis I'd always contact the Samaritans.
I personally find Christmas and New Year a difficult time as you remember people no longer around but there is always hope of better times and new experiences to come. Really,  those times are in our own grasp - if we have life's basics then we can build on them. Not necessarily by acquiring money but doing more of the things that make us happy. 
All the best.

Ive an empty flat in the city with your name on it. ?
Cheap at £700 per month...... 
Discounted for Rams fans at £695. 
 

I’ve had an unusual 2018. I worked incredibly hard for my A-Level results that got me a place at the University of Manchester, where I’ve met some great mates. I had a great summer due to the national team’s heroics and Derby are shaping up nicely this term.
However, I got hit with some upsetting family news in the summer (World Cup Final day) which has affected, and will continue to affect, my whole world, none more so than today. I bloody love Christmas but today, due to the aforementioned news, was rather subdued and disappointing compared to the typically lively family affair.
This has led me to drink a fair few whiskeys and gins after everyone has gone to bed in order to improve the day. During this little session, I had a good chat (via video call) with my mates and I’m feeling much better now.
I don’t really know what I’m trying to get at with this post, and I know that many are going through far greater difficulties than me (thankfully, I’ve never had issues with mental health) but I thought this was the best place to get things off my chest, particularly because the people on this forum are absolutely fantastic and like a second family to me (@coneheadjohn and @angieram in particular). 
I will regret this post tomorrow morning when I read this as a sober man but, in my mellow state, I feel like it is important to get things off my chest, particularly when I haven’t been able to offload my worries (regarding the family news) to anybody since I found out (I’m the only one in my immediate family who hasn’t told anyone). To all who read this post, I doubt it makes any sense.
Anyway, I really do love this forum. I know that I’m usually a happy-clapping, Dark Fruits-drinking, joke-making poster but nobody’s life is perfect; including mine. 
I hope everyone had a great Christmas and I expect you all to be looking out for me on the telly as I cheer on the mighty Rams at Bramall Lane tomorrow.
Up the ducking Rams.

@AshfieldRamIll back up Lambchops comment about time and getting help from the proffesionals.
Accept that it will take as long as it takes, and people close to you will help see you through. The fog will rise. 
100% of people reading your post are right behind you. ?
 
 

@AshfieldRamIll back up Lambchops comment about time and getting help from the proffesionals.
Accept that it will take as long as it takes, and people close to you will help see you through. The fog will rise. 
100% of people reading your post are right behind you. ?
 
 

@AshfieldRamIll back up Lambchops comment about time and getting help from the proffesionals.
Accept that it will take as long as it takes, and people close to you will help see you through. The fog will rise. 
100% of people reading your post are right behind you. ?
 
 

@AshfieldRamIll back up Lambchops comment about time and getting help from the proffesionals.
Accept that it will take as long as it takes, and people close to you will help see you through. The fog will rise. 
100% of people reading your post are right behind you. ?
 
 

@AshfieldRamIll back up Lambchops comment about time and getting help from the proffesionals.
Accept that it will take as long as it takes, and people close to you will help see you through. The fog will rise. 
100% of people reading your post are right behind you. ?
 
 

Another uncomfortable read - l hope the break over Christmas helps you @AshfieldRam and that your Saturday appointment offers you some immediate relief.
Wishing everyone on here a merry Christmas, but particularly those who l often find in here.  Stay strong brothers, and Lambchop.

I wouldn't set too much store by CBT tbh, but talking therapies are free through your GP, an initial block of 12 sessions with the possibility of referral for a further 12. Depending on where you are, there are also voluntary sector providers like DRCS, which are pretty good. 
Do you have a sense of what it is that is making you feel like you can't carry on? Trying to think it through honestly yourself can help, even better if you can share it with friends/ family/ partner. 
Hang in there. These things do go in cycles, so while it may feel like a downward curve now, that won't last indefinitely. Recovery is always possible, so don't give up!
https://drcs.org.uk/
 

Hello all, 
It's hard to post this but this week has been possibly the worst my mental health has ever been. I recently posted in another thread about wanting to make 2019 positive but ever since Saturday i've gone downhill so so fast. 
I had a little worry, It started as a minor worry, then it developed inside me to a concern, the grew larger and larger into a huge obsession that i couldn't shift and consequently i found myself at the doors of depression. 
I started taking my Citalopram on Saturday but it hasn't yet kicked in. On Monday, i was in absolute hysteric floods of tears crying to my Mum and Dad and since then the floodgates have definitely opened. My mum gave me a Diazepam to help calm me down but this just made me dizzy and sick before eventually having a calming effect late on in evening.
Tuesday i went in to work as normal at about 2:30 my boss told me to get home and rest because i looked very ill. I went to play football in the evening as i always do on Tuesday but this proved extremely difficult. I thought the exercise and fresh air would do me wonders but inside all i was doing was fixating on my problems. Despite nearly passing out 3 times i managed to make it through. After another cry to my parents i managed 6 hours sleep.
Wednesday i was able to see the doctor. He gave me more tablets and some numbers for CBT therapy providers in the local area. I immediately rang them and was quite shocked just how long the process can take and one of them was charging quite a considerable amount.
Wednesday evening as i attempted to try to be active to my mind of things i panicked and fainted for a good few minutes. After coming round i was take to my bed where again, i found myself in floods of tears being consoled by Girlfriend, Mum and Dad.  
Yesterday morning i woke up very early again. 4:45 to be exact. I dragged my duvet down stairs hoping that a change of scenery may help. I went to take my tablet in the morning as i've started doing and then i got really really scared. I looked at these tablets and though 'Why don't i just take loads of them and then i won't have to feel like this anymore?' So i took one, then took a second one straight after. I started Vomiting almost immediately afterwards, panicking and deep breathing. Before i knew, i had fainted once again only to be found by my Mum. Once i had come round, my vomiting continued and my thoughts worsened about just taking more tablets to stop me feeling bad or anything all together. I was taken straight to the hospital and given a number of physical tests that all came back positive so i was allowed to come home. I hadn't at this point mentioned to the hospital or anyone that i was feeling suicidal.  As the afternoon progresses my mood swung again, up and down and up and down again. Eventually i was again hysterical and i decided that i had to tell my parents that i'd worried about ending things that morning if i could. I explained to them that i felt like a constant failure and that peoples life would be easier without me there. I don't think i've ever cried as much as i did yesterday. I had the same conversation with my girlfriend that evening and it absolutely destroyed me saying what i said but i was and still am scared that i will do something stupid. My dad rang one of the metal health helplines and i explained to them what was happening in my mind and they marked me as 'critical' meaning i needed immediate help. They eventually rang and they were absolutely no help what so ever. The earliest they could see me was Saturday afternoon and despite my girlfriend pleading with the man on the phone that i needed immediate help he just said 'Saturday afternoon' then shut down the conversation to hang up. I was left in the darkest hole i think i could possibly have been in and if it wasn't for the people around me i don't know what i would have done. 
I actually began to improve last night and decided that this morning i would come in to work and get myself some routine back. I have done and so far i'm just about on top of my emotions but even the littlest things feels like it could set me off. 
Christmas is my favourite time of the year and i can't even think about it. I just want to be better for it so the people who are around me can enjoy it too. 
I'm sorry for the essay but i thought writing it down might help and i'm hopeful that i can be on the mend soon and one day look back on it with the experience to help others
 

I was drifting on and off sleep last night listening to Talksport fight night. 
They were talking up the new ITV deal with the American Hayman. 
If its a UK card, stick the undercard on ITV 4 and the main event on ITV 1 at 1030pm. 
If its a card from the US, stick it on ITV1 overnight to get maximum publicity. 
I cant remember the guys name but apparently the new ITV sport director is well known for liking his boxing. 
As the boys on the radio were saying, build up the UK names on ITV1 first and you will get them on pay per view after a couple of years. 
We all remember the Naz, Benn, Eubank etc fights getting huge viewing figures back in the day. 

Ha, will do! And thanks to you and @CWC1983 for all those recommendations that’s a huge help! Going down Kelvingrove area tomorrow as I want to go to The Stand comedy club down there and a few other bits and bobs. I may have been to the Bon Accord before but I’ll see when I get there tomorrow. Defo been to a pub near Charing Cross tube stop before. Hanging round most of Monday too so I’ll try and pop my head in a few of these places in the centre then too.
Been down Merchant City area tonight for Mono/13th Note and a general wonder back through the centre. When I first got in, I was bit worried as it felt everywhere I went was a bit lairy but I think once the afternoon drinkers started heading home it felt a lot more relaxed and a bit more of a feel good atmosphere in places. I’ve only even been to Glasgow before as a musician so never ventured around the city too much before so it’s nice to see it and get my bearings a bit more.
Also any food recommendations are much appreciated too, meant to be going to Mother India tomorrow but I’m open to changing my mind/finding places for Monday!
Cheers to ya both ?, or maybe ?is more appropriate!