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So Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I recommend you Take your time to decide how best you want to remember them. I lost my best friend last September. He was a massive presence in our lives, literally, a huge golden doodle and I loved him and still miss him now. He was well known in the local park and road and when we lost him through cancer ( put down at home before the pain got too much) people we met on the park welled up with me when seeing he was gone when we met. I struggled to know what to do to remember him then a couple of weeks after, speaking with our window cleaner he said his son had their dog as a tattoo…that was it, at 62 I had my first tattoo on my chest of my lovely friend….no regrets.
A month after he died we were missing having company on our walks and we got a new puppy who is great. Not a replacement but a new member of the family.
The more love you give the more it is returned and the greater the loss….but it is worth it. Remember what a good life you were able to give your lovely friend.

Just looking for advice. Our brilliant cat was hit by a car (whilst we were out of the country so had to say our goodbyes via FaceTime so she could hear our voices at the end) and just feel utterly miserable. 
 
Any advice on how to ease the pain of losing a pet? 

Anyone do anything nice with their ashes or anything? 
 
Not sure where else to ask and I like the anonymity the forum gives for opening up like this. 
 
Anyone here’s to my beautiful idiot 

Just looking for advice. Our brilliant cat was hit by a car (whilst we were out of the country so had to say our goodbyes via FaceTime so she could hear our voices at the end) and just feel utterly miserable. 
 
Any advice on how to ease the pain of losing a pet? 

Anyone do anything nice with their ashes or anything? 
 
Not sure where else to ask and I like the anonymity the forum gives for opening up like this. 
 
Anyone here’s to my beautiful idiot 

Sorry for your loss. I have been lucky that my pets have lived pretty old. The way I have comforted myself is that I have thought how happy my pets always were. They knew they were loved and they had happy lives. You can't ask more than a happy life. 

I think it’s important going into any experience of having a pet knowing that the odds are you will outlive them and say goodbye to them. 

I guess it’s so raw in this instance because our little girl was so young. I think I’d have been upset but not as distraught if she was 18 years old and getting ill with age but she was bouncing around the garden chasing her toys around when we left for our holiday. 
 
To know some Peter rick hit her and didn’t even stop their car is what stings. Where’s the compassion? 

Just looking for advice. Our brilliant cat was hit by a car (whilst we were out of the country so had to say our goodbyes via FaceTime so she could hear our voices at the end) and just feel utterly miserable. 
 
Any advice on how to ease the pain of losing a pet? 

Anyone do anything nice with their ashes or anything? 
 
Not sure where else to ask and I like the anonymity the forum gives for opening up like this. 
 
Anyone here’s to my beautiful idiot 

Just looking for advice. Our brilliant cat was hit by a car (whilst we were out of the country so had to say our goodbyes via FaceTime so she could hear our voices at the end) and just feel utterly miserable. 
 
Any advice on how to ease the pain of losing a pet? 

Anyone do anything nice with their ashes or anything? 
 
Not sure where else to ask and I like the anonymity the forum gives for opening up like this. 
 
Anyone here’s to my beautiful idiot 

Good to see this thread has descended into just as much rubbish as the transfer rumours thread. 
 
Come on @Day tighten up the Ts and Cs. Open a ‘call someone a w⚓️ in here’ thread in the Jim Smith room and ban non footballing arguments on the forum 😂

I wouldn’t be over the moon but I’d be expecting big progress for the next season having ticked off the key goal for this season. 

How some of our fans are too dense to understand this baffles me. 

Just looking for advice. Our brilliant cat was hit by a car (whilst we were out of the country so had to say our goodbyes via FaceTime so she could hear our voices at the end) and just feel utterly miserable. 
 
Any advice on how to ease the pain of losing a pet? 

Anyone do anything nice with their ashes or anything? 
 
Not sure where else to ask and I like the anonymity the forum gives for opening up like this. 
 
Anyone here’s to my beautiful idiot 

No it’s important to focus on trying to enjoy the rest of the holiday. She isn’t in pain, she’s at peace. 
 
Definitely get a dog pal. If how I feel at the moment is the price to pay for having her in our lives then it’s still a bargain. She was a brilliant pet. 

I think it’s important going into any experience of having a pet knowing that the odds are you will outlive them and say goodbye to them. 

I guess it’s so raw in this instance because our little girl was so young. I think I’d have been upset but not as distraught if she was 18 years old and getting ill with age but she was bouncing around the garden chasing her toys around when we left for our holiday. 
 
To know some Peter rick hit her and didn’t even stop their car is what stings. Where’s the compassion? 

Just looking for advice. Our brilliant cat was hit by a car (whilst we were out of the country so had to say our goodbyes via FaceTime so she could hear our voices at the end) and just feel utterly miserable. 
 
Any advice on how to ease the pain of losing a pet? 

Anyone do anything nice with their ashes or anything? 
 
Not sure where else to ask and I like the anonymity the forum gives for opening up like this. 
 
Anyone here’s to my beautiful idiot 

I do 2 mornings a month at a local rescue and rehoming centre a few miles up the road from us.  If you don't want to care for a dog they are desperate for the usual (money, tins of food, people to help clean kennels, walk dogs etc) but if you can commit, good families that can rehome a dog are always in high demand.  
Most have either been abandoned due to cost of living, people returning to work after covid or their owners dying.  Some obviously have personality problems that you'd really need to be an experienced dog owner (and ideally not be out of the house for more than a couple of hours a day) to consider but most are just sad and desperately lonely - dogs are social animals and latch onto humans. 
I've been volunteering there since November last year and we've rehomed many dogs during that time, only having a couple returned due to owners changing circumstances.  Whilst you're getting a dog that maybe already in its prime or twilight years you're getting one thats almost certainly already house trained and in desperate need of time and affection.  It is also probably not going to be a 10+ year commitment as it would be with a puppy.  We get lots of older people come looking for older dogs that don't require as much walking, 'hopefully' won't outlive their new owners but still require time, love and attention.  After our 2 dogs are gone, if we have others, we'll definitely be rehoming in future.

Sorry to hear about your cat. Me and my wife's first cat died young, he was only two years old. We was reluctant to let him outside due to the nature of the area and how busy the roads were. Eventually he kept escaping out the back door anyway so we decided we'd let him wonder around.
Sadly, we didn't realise that the house to the back of ours had an aggressive dog who unfortunately killed our cat. I was working from home at the time and I heard a woman screaming over the back of garden. It went quieter and I didn't think anymore of it. A few minutes later they called me and explained what happened. It was horrific and my wife was distraught. There were loads of other cats in the area and none of them had been attacked by any dogs. It must have been really bad timing. 
Honestly, I felt more upset about the cat dying than going to any recent funeral. Whether that was the guilt of not keeping an eye on the animal more, I don't know. It took me a long time to come to terms with it.

I've been quite lucky in life, early 50s no health complaints, same for my wife, kids, brother and sister, Mum and Dad.  We're a pretty healthy long lived family.  The only people I have lost are my 4 Grandparents, all of whom were in their 90s.  It was sad, but also felt kinda natural, so I've never really suffered any real feelings of loss. 
I didn't get my first dog until I was 30 and married with kids, a miniature schnauzer that followed me everywhere.  Despite 4 of us in the house, she was 'my' dog.  We eventually had to have her put to sleep at 15yo, she had been failing for a long time prior to that, looking back it was almost cruel to keep her going, but she used to have the odd good day and the alternative was final. 
I'm also a fairly pragmatic and level-headed kinda guy, movies etc don't stir any real emotions.  I take the highs and lows life throws at you pretty well, but watching her 'go to sleep' on my knee broke me for weeks.   I couldn't entertain a conversation about her without my voice breaking and tears rolling down my face.  I often wonder whether it would have been different if she had died naturally.  Knowing that I had played a part in her death, despite good intentions and it definitely being 'time', still weighs heavy to this day.
For the next god knows how long there was a real sense of emptiness, she would have been around my feet or sitting on my knee all day everyday.  Working from home, which I had done for years by then, she was a real 'best mate' and as your kids grow older and become less dependent almost a replacement!
Anyway, cutting my therapy session short, a few years later we decided to get another miniature schnauzer followed by another 18 months later - thinking that they would have each other.  They do of course play with each other and seem to be good mates, but when we all sit down at night one always snuggles up with me, the other my wife. 
They are both still pretty young and full of the joys of life and they bring us immense pleasure - we wouldn't be without them.  We have since taken early retirement and moved to the North Yorkshire coast, they get walked on the beach or across the moors to the woods everyday and have a great life, we'll have lots of great memories that will far outweigh any loss, but at the back of my mind I can't shake the feeling that one day I'll have to go through it all again.
 

Just looking for advice. Our brilliant cat was hit by a car (whilst we were out of the country so had to say our goodbyes via FaceTime so she could hear our voices at the end) and just feel utterly miserable. 
 
Any advice on how to ease the pain of losing a pet? 

Anyone do anything nice with their ashes or anything? 
 
Not sure where else to ask and I like the anonymity the forum gives for opening up like this. 
 
Anyone here’s to my beautiful idiot 

This is it dave, first of 58 consecutive match threads started by you seeing us do a Leverkusen and end the season unbeaten winning the league cup. Unfortunate that we lose the FA cup final but nonetheless the lads can be forgiven. Let’s go! 

Just looking for advice. Our brilliant cat was hit by a car (whilst we were out of the country so had to say our goodbyes via FaceTime so she could hear our voices at the end) and just feel utterly miserable. 
 
Any advice on how to ease the pain of losing a pet? 

Anyone do anything nice with their ashes or anything? 
 
Not sure where else to ask and I like the anonymity the forum gives for opening up like this. 
 
Anyone here’s to my beautiful idiot 

Just looking for advice. Our brilliant cat was hit by a car (whilst we were out of the country so had to say our goodbyes via FaceTime so she could hear our voices at the end) and just feel utterly miserable. 
 
Any advice on how to ease the pain of losing a pet? 

Anyone do anything nice with their ashes or anything? 
 
Not sure where else to ask and I like the anonymity the forum gives for opening up like this. 
 
Anyone here’s to my beautiful idiot 

Just looking for advice. Our brilliant cat was hit by a car (whilst we were out of the country so had to say our goodbyes via FaceTime so she could hear our voices at the end) and just feel utterly miserable. 
 
Any advice on how to ease the pain of losing a pet? 

Anyone do anything nice with their ashes or anything? 
 
Not sure where else to ask and I like the anonymity the forum gives for opening up like this. 
 
Anyone here’s to my beautiful idiot 

I think it’s important going into any experience of having a pet knowing that the odds are you will outlive them and say goodbye to them. 

I guess it’s so raw in this instance because our little girl was so young. I think I’d have been upset but not as distraught if she was 18 years old and getting ill with age but she was bouncing around the garden chasing her toys around when we left for our holiday. 
 
To know some Peter rick hit her and didn’t even stop their car is what stings. Where’s the compassion? 

No it’s important to focus on trying to enjoy the rest of the holiday. She isn’t in pain, she’s at peace. 
 
Definitely get a dog pal. If how I feel at the moment is the price to pay for having her in our lives then it’s still a bargain. She was a brilliant pet.