Tony Le Mesmer

14 hours ago, dcfcfan1 said:

Just out of interest, do you tell your partners when you are feeling low/anxious?

 

Because I used to think depress was mainly affecting single people who arent confident.ugly or whatever but after reading this thread...it runs much much deeper and can affect even the best of us

You have to. I can imagine being the partner of a person with an anxiety disorder or depression is as testing as it is for the sufferer.

Sometimes there is no let up or sometimes things can be going well then in the blink of an eye plans have to change.

It is only fair on your partner that you tell them without feeling guilt or weak. If you have cancer then you have cancer. If you have severe panic disorder, anxiety or depression then you have them. End of. They should know and you shouldn't feel ashamed.

Myself for example have gone from holidaying all over Europe to not being able to get on an aeroplane due to anxiety and panic. Such a condition shrinks your world and what you are able to do. This includes my partners world and my childs world.

My kid is 8 next summer and we've not been abroad yet. Part cost , part anxiety. Next summer I'm summoning up the balls to go to France for a few days on the ferry for my kid.

It is planned meticulously down to the last detail. I must have a cabin both ways as it's a safety bolthole and I cannot have a sailing at the crack of dawn as my anxiety is severe the first few hours after waking especially if my routine is all to pot. It's a nightmare but i have to do it as i want the impact on my partner and kid to be minimal therefore if I reduce risk and uncertainty then I reduce my symptoms and we might even be able to enjoy ourselves.

Where we go out to eat will be planned as will most things. It's not too restrictive for my partner as I usually do it all in advance and she just goes along with it. Often it's beneficial as it cuts out hassle but on the flipside it also stunts any spontaneity.

It's tough. Really tough.

Openness and communication are the only way relationships can work though whether you've got a condition or not.

11 hours ago, Gritters said:

Stuck in traffic because of flooding for 3 hours behind some passat diesel churning out thick black smoke.

The having to get through a 3 foot deep flood with broken down cars in it just to get ******* home from work. Ahhhh!!!!

Other half got stuck under hornsbridge in Chesterfield due to flood water. Managed to eventually get through it but traffic has been horrendous. Took her 3 hours to do the 20 odd miles or so from Rotherham back to Chesterfield.

5 hours ago, richinspain said:

Thought that would come back to haunt me at some stage.

Just to clarify. At no point in my life have I wafted aside any piece of clothing in order to expose my mans area.

14 hours ago, Paul71 said:

People annoy me when they hang around at zebra crossings chatting so you stop, then they look at you as if to say what have you stopped for.....

lol

this happens a lot

20 minutes ago, EastHertsRam said:

Not being acknowledged when I've stopped at a zebra crossing to let someone across. Just a nod of the head would suffice, not asking for a tip or anything.

I think this is an etiquette thing. Because drivers are expected to stop at a zebra crossing then people just automatically cross without realising it's even socially positive to acknowledge.

Unlike if you were just kindly flashing to let someone cross at some random point on a road under no obligation to do so in which case acknowledgment IMO is essential in order to keep my faith in human nature.

Not sure if anyone has mentioned this but there are two players at Scunny ripping it up this season and I believe it could be worth taking a punt on the less exposed player.

Josh Morris is top scorer and been on fire this season. He has had a few clubs though starting at Blackburn I think several years back and although often played defensively he has thrived in a more advanced role this season.

My eye though is drawn to Ssausagehorpe's Dutch striker Kevin Van Veen. His scoring in the Dutch lower leagues was phenomenal and he's got some absolute belters already this season.

He looks quite tall and gangly but he's an intelligent footballer and is improving every year and with every step up in class.

I like the player. Very impressed. He is mid twenties though but could be one of those late developers who just take their opportunities when they get them.

Josh Morris could be a one season freak but Van Veen has huge potential and has plundered goals at every club.

32 minutes ago, Mostyn6 said:

rogue bog roll that won't flush! Grrrrr

Sure it wasn't kitchen roll?

6 hours ago, Anag Ram said:

Has anyone seen anything of Conor Chaplin at Portsmouth since he scored against us?

19 and attracting attention at Bournemouth

Better chance of playing with us.

 

Yeah, like this kid. Quick and direct and knows where the net his. I'm not sure that he is at the level we need though, certainly not yet anyway but he has potential.

I'd hazard a guess he'll hang around at Pompey for a while longer getting game time and improving. May even be that the Cherries sign him and send him on loan back to Pompey with them being in the same neck of the woods.

IMO though he's too young and raw to be anywhere near a top half championship side at least for the foreseeable but I'm not a manager. It has been done before and will be done again.

49 minutes ago, StringerBell said:

You can play crash bandicoot in uncharted 4.

What you mean there is a crash bandicoot for PS4?

I've played the other uncharteds which I liked (love tomb raiders as well) but what I found annoying about uncharted is when you are stuck on a puzzle it gives you hints after about 5 minutes. I'm one of these old skoolers that will happily spend hours and hours trying to figure out a solution until I eventually get it. I don't need help after 5 minutes. Other than that I loved uncharted.

Cheers for all the advice. That Outlast game looks worth playing.

I also used to like platformers like Crash Bandicoot, Ratchet & Clank and also Jak & Daxter but they don't seem to make them anymore either unless anybody has some suggestions on this genre?

Thanks all

Nearly 200 quid for 2 adults and 1 child passports!!

Might go to Bognor instead and use it as spends .

Ridiculous

Considering asking for a PS4 from Santa but wondered what you lot think about the system and indeed the games?

I'm a pretty basic gamer and am not interested in online multiplayer things and all the extras. I just want to play the games by myself as a single player. Are most games nowadays geared towards playing online with total strangers throughout the world or can you still play them solo campaigns?

I had a PS3 a few years ago and to be honest I got fed up of games morphing into films. Shoot a few baddies - cut scene for 5 minutes, blow up some depot - cut scene for 5 minutes, find a helicopter to pilot and when you step inside - cut scene for 5 minutes.

It spoiled my enjoyment and continuity of most games if I'm honest. I spend 40 on a game to play it, not to watch it.

Has this got worse on PS4?

Love any advice and game advice too. I'm a survival horror fan, loved the old resi evils and silent hills but they don't seem to make games like this anymore where you find items, follow maps and solve puzzles. It's all about incessant blasting of zombies from what I gather.

Anyone any ideas thanks?

44 minutes ago, Chester40 said:

Gotta pull you up here mate though!

Sturridge has the most  totally annoying celebration going...sticks his toblue out and then does a really naff caterpillar thing with his arms.

Bang to rights then with Sturridge Chester but you get the idea.

10 hours ago, G STAR RAM said:

On a par with players who do the pointing to the sky thing after scoring a goal.

Or players who score then just walk away Balotelli style with no emotion. Benteke is one, Sturridge is another. It's happening more often.

FFS! If it were me I'd be crowdsurfing!

Where's the emotion gone?

I'm not suddenly going to shop at John Lewis because they've got a Christmas ad out that everyone's talking about.

If I'm passing one and I need summat I'll go in maybe and have a look but I'm not going out of my way to spend my money there just because some marketing exec decided to waste thousands on an advert that's not even needed.

Rant over.....i think.

1 minute ago, EastHertsRam said:

The Sainsbury's Christmas advert. Just seen it, gave me the right hump.

How a Sainsbury's executive gave it approval I'll never know. 

Don't know why some companies even need to waste money on advertising.

McDonalds for example. There are tribes hidden deep in the rainforests of Papua new guinea that know what the golden arches represent so why advertise if the entire world knows you're there and what you sell?!

McDonalds shouldn't have a marketing department. If they do they're insane.

Supermarkets also. I buy from Tesco because it's the nearest to me. If Sainsburys was nearest I'd go there. I really don't give a toss which supermarket is advertising which because it doesn't matter to me.

Unless say Morrisons were offering a free bottle of whisky for every mammoth Xmas shop then I may consider it but otherwise you just shop where you've always shopped don't you? Rendering supermarket advertising pointless.

Man flu.

Kids parties

6 hours ago, Highgate said:

Not really annoyed I supposed, more confused really.  Why do people need to do this while at a game?  Do their eyes no longer work unless images are filtered through a tiny screen.  Do they really feel they need to record these moment so they can relive the action later.. ...don't they know there are professionals with TV cameras recording everything anyway, and you can find and replay the goals or whatever a hundred times if you wish. 

Also the pathetic phone waving in unison with the camera light on as if it's cool. It's not.

It's an embarrassment to English football. STOP IT.

7 hours ago, WhiteHorseRam said:

Didn't he own Exeter City for a while or did I dream that? (Too much Stilton before bedtime kind of thing)

He was co chairman. Also got Michael Jackson to wear a Grecians replica shirt. Bonkers.

On ‎09‎/‎11‎/‎2016 at 16:27, Wolfie said:

Picking ones nose in the car.

Singing in the car.

Haven't tried singing whilst picking ones nose in the car.

Moshing in the car.

Not sure how safe it is when driving however.

Adverts.

All of them.

Apart from ones with cats in obviously.

24 minutes ago, ladyram said:

This was back in the 90's, anti depressants were dished out quicker than a donkey can eat sugar cubes back then 

They still are.

5 minutes ago, ladyram said:

Prozac turned me into a zombie, thought they were a quick fix - how naive, they're no such thing and made things much worse. Sage is right, eventually you have to deal with the cause, not the symptoms.

 

I've been offered medication for years but flat refused. I have to first of all try and comprehend and grasp why my mind and body feel and think the way they do and then I can try and unravel it all bit by bit and start addressing my issues.

It will take me a lifetime and even then I'll still have lots of difficulties and challenges throughout but drugs just mask the symptoms for a bit and often make things a lot worse.

Your brain is a powerful and wondrous thing so it's wise to try and understand it and nourish it as best you can. Drugs will not help with either.

If it's the only option though then I'm not judging anybody here. You do what is necessary to get back on the straight and narrow.

Anyone had dealings with Insight talking therapies in Derbyshire? Any comments?