Leeds Ram

Don’t locals just award themselves a degree?
Like they have the Champions of Europe title?

Oh the city itself in terms of what’s there is actually quite nice, just a shame it’s full of people from Leeds!
Christ that sounds even more complex than my poo!??

Oh nice one ? yeah it's weird as they all pride themselves on it being such a great friendly city and i've never noticed that tbh. The good thing is there are a few cinemas and stuff and the odd decent pub like the fenton ? 

Political theory and Middle Eastern studies ? 

Second year mate! In all fairness it’s not too bad, but let’s just say I quickly found out that it’s not just leeds fans who are tosspots- it’s the majority of people up here! 
Whats your PHD in?

Maths mate, evidently I’ve got as good decision making as Tom Lawrence in the final third.

Uni of Leeds? You’re not the only one up there from here mate ?
And feeling miserable in Leeds is a perfectly normal feeling, it’s a shitehole full of obnoxious dheads. Trouble is, you can get a decent degree there. Every cloud I guess...?

I care more about staying friends than anything else. We've known each other for coming on five years and are really close. I'd be devastated if that ended. 

Yeah you're not wrong i guess. I was worried i'd crashed the friendship but that's all sorted so am at least relieved and happy about that. 

No problem

Thanks ? Well it's just the right thing to do, the last thing i'd want to do is hurt or upset her. Thanks for all the advice btw i appreciate it ? 

A proper man
 
Anyone can be thoughtful and dignified when things are going their way and they are getting what they want from the other person. But it takes a truely remarkable man to stay considerate and put others before him when things arent going his way, and when the chips are against him

I care more about staying friends than anything else. We've known each other for coming on five years and are really close. I'd be devastated if that ended. 

Glad that  you actually care about the friendship too. A lot of guys dont. They just want to score lol

Yeah you're not wrong I guess. It's better knowing than wondering and not knowing. Thanks for the advice on the project ? Aha yeah that's true 

Yeah you're not wrong i guess. I was worried i'd crashed the friendship but that's all sorted so am at least relieved and happy about that. 

Fair play to you, more than Ill ever done lol @leedsram
 
On a serious note, better to fail and have no regrets than not try and always be thinking "what if, what if"
 
I cant and never be able to relate to you with regards with your issues with your close friend, but theres been plenty of times in the past where Ive ended up regretting the things that I HAVENT DONE instead
 

Sorry to read about your struggles.
The only people alive who haven't crashed and burned when it comes to matters of the heart are those who can't find the courage to admit their feelings.
It hurts and feels weird now, but eventually you'll be glad you told her, regret at not taking a chance can last a lifetime.
I often take on, or get assigned tasks that seem daunting on the face of it, yet most complicated assignments can be broken down into simpler, more achievable targets that eventually add up to a finished project.
If you can take the same approach, split the work into blocks, then tackle the hardest problems first if possible.
Once they are completed, you'll feel mentally it gets easier the further you progress, having broken the back of the task!
Finally, as for being miserable being back in Leeds, that's a perfectly normal reaction to life there, it's only temporary and will disappear when you leave!
 
 

I've moved back to leeds following staying at home for the summer. I don't really know anyone here so seeing people is rather difficult and i don't really have much social time at all. I also told a really close friend that i wanted to be more than just friends which she wasn't happy about. I really struggle to read body language and we'd been sleeping in the same bed a lot, spending a lot of time together despite the fact she lives a way away and talking every day for hours on end. We're still close friends and after 4-5 days we were talking as normal which i'm happy about but it just feels really weird and it's not easy. 

I'm also going into the second year of my PhD and panicking slightly as there is still so much to do. Despite my work being theoretical rather than empirical it just feels like an insurmountable climb. I worry about my future prospects as well, the job market is crazily crowded and i need to do something to stand out which thus far i definitely have not done. 
 
I guess finally I'm just struggling to gain any motivation for almost anything. I'm getting work done but it's a real slog to get out of bed, shower and do all the other things to actually get to the university to get work done. Today, I've just opted to stay at home and try and do something from the sofa.  This is probably linked to feeling miserable a lot of the time since i got back to leeds about a month ago. 
 
 

cheers for the recommendation I haven't played it but will give it a look ? 

cheers for the recommendation I haven't played it but will give it a look ? 

cheers i will definitely look at this ? 

Would recommend getting game pass, you can get an introductory offer of a quid a month and it gives you a host of games to play. Most are not new releases, however the odd one is, gears of war for example.
Some great games on there, including one called mutant year zero if you like strategy games which I would recommend, and loads of shooting and other games to choose from.

Doggo update....he's fully mended.
First time at the beach yesterday, wonderful.