PrivateDerby Posted June 23, 2013 Share Posted June 23, 2013 Right, basically i'm at the stage where all my mates are getting married and having children and i'm not. I always thought I would until well, **** happens... Anyway, although it's annoying seeing them all so happy I can't help but think it's all a bit of a joke... I look at my mam and dads (who are no longer together) mates and not many of them are married or look the slightest bit happy if they are. Everyones getting older and it has started to worry me. I'm at an age where I could still find a nice pretty girl with no children and who hasn't been married before but i'm scared of doing the whole lot then loosing everything and not seeing my children. I've even thought about in a few years time adopting a young lad who's had a **** life and just needs sorting out... must like football. Please could someone make a poll... everyone likes them. Call it marriage 1) My Wife is wonderful 2) I love lock-ins at my local 3) Play the game and see what happens 4) Bachelor Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrivateDerby Posted June 23, 2013 Author Share Posted June 23, 2013 Basically is it worth the bother? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cisse Posted June 23, 2013 Share Posted June 23, 2013 Of course it is worth the bother if you find a person for whom you really want to bother. Because a long time relationship requires you to bother this bother that. It may be a marriage, friendship or something else but it needs some maintanance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrivateDerby Posted June 23, 2013 Author Share Posted June 23, 2013 Hmmmmmm Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cisse Posted June 23, 2013 Share Posted June 23, 2013 Can I ask you how old are you ? About ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrivateDerby Posted June 23, 2013 Author Share Posted June 23, 2013 Early 30s mate, about the same as Alpha I think... he used to be funny and full of life, look at him now! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cisse Posted June 23, 2013 Share Posted June 23, 2013 So you are old enough to know and young enough not to care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrivateDerby Posted June 23, 2013 Author Share Posted June 23, 2013 Yeah sod it, thread closed. Thanks Uncle Cisse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cisse Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 You also might find a love of your life with a kid or kids with bad divorce behind her. You never know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bris Vegas Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 The most important thing is to make sure your wife/gf is also your best friend.. The ones that cheat, mess everything up, look unhappy or walk away is all because the person they are with isn't their best friend.. If you don't have fun with someone, then why be with them? What's the point.. The guys that look for trophy GF's or are only interested in looks are the ones that never end up happy.. Find a girl who you genuinely want to be with and one that you want to hang out with.. Even if she isn't the best looker.. And you'll be happy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastKentRam Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 It sounds like you feel like you should have a wife/kids at the moment rather than actually wanting to. Dont do something just because you feel society expects it from you. If you're happy as you are then you dont need to change anything. Give it a year or so and you may feel differently. It also sounds like you wants kids but not a bird, which is kind of how I feel but I'm only 20. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrivateDerby Posted June 24, 2013 Author Share Posted June 24, 2013 Thanks lads but when i think about it, im not even after advice, I think what I'm trying to get at is, it hardly ever works does it? Even if they're your best mate, soul mate or companion, you soon get bored, fed up and want to move on don't you? How have you 'older lads' done it? Have you just thought sod it, she's alright I suppose... she'd be a good mam and I think we could put up with each other? Do you still worry it might f*ck up? EKR, that's my main worry really, always wanted children and I don't want to be too old for them whilst they're growing up but the girls I'm knocking about with now just haven't got it in them... maybe Bris is right, it's not all about looks? Maybe I should be after hips not tits now? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hucknall Ram Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 Marriage and Kids are the best things I have ever done Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cisse Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 In my opinion you can't control love, it controls you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrivateDerby Posted June 24, 2013 Author Share Posted June 24, 2013 That's more like it Hucknall! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrivateDerby Posted June 24, 2013 Author Share Posted June 24, 2013 In my opinion you can't control love, it controls you. I am NOT being controlled by anyone! Yes duck, ill do it now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gritstone Ram Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 The missus is ok but i love a lock in! She would be with me at the lock in and probably more pi55ed than me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gritstone Ram Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 By the way Private both me and the bird have children from previous relationships. The play the game thing don't work either. When your young you need a good looking nympho but as you get older find yourself a good cook. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcsilks Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 Marriage is wonderful. I lived with so many girls and had so many girlfriends but waited and waited until I found the right one. They say you know when you meet the right one and that is so very true. My advice would be to live with them for a year or so before you make any decisions. My mates go out nowadays and call me up but my answer is usually no. My idea of bliss is getting home as soon as I can to spend as much time as I can with my wife and two beautiful children. And regarding the looks........well, looks aren't everything but you simply have to be physically attracted to your partner. I can say hand on heart that I consider my wife to be simply gorgeous. So yes, find yourself someone that you consider a looker. Marriage is under-rated but then again, I played the game and waited until I was 40 before I took the plunge. I'd say around 40 is a good age to get married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Day Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 Do it, if it works out and you're happy then great, if not divorce her and put the kids up for adoption Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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