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On 10/06/2019 at 19:21, 1of4 said:

Drivers who don't accelerate on a motorway slip road, Meaning as they attempt to merge into the traffic in the inside lane, they're not matching the speed of the vehicles already on the motorway. So as a result they are a danger to themselves, other drivers already on the motorway and a pain in the butt to the driver who as followed them down the slip road. As they too try to join the motorway safely.

I always go 70 on a slip road tbh, cant be pissing around

On 20/04/2019 at 22:10, SouthStandDan said:

Single mates bashing you for not going out on the town as much anymore. The lack of motivation to going out at weekends to is purely down to having a girlfriend for the last couple of years. I don't feel the need to go out and get plastered. Made me realise the main reason for me going out was to by random luck find a girl. After a few failed attempts, I've settled down with someone, now all of a sudden the urge for drinking in bars and clubs isn't there, unless it's to celebrate an occasion. I've had some excellent nights out with mates, but it felt so much more natural when I was single. It doesn't feel right going out "on the lash" now. I get the odd ribbing for being boring nowadays, but I don't care ? drinking silly ain't for me. Far too happy for that. I think they don't realise it.

+100000000000

And I agree with every word as a single (and always will be) guy!

I have other friends who bitch behind each others back for being "boring" or "whipped". Nonsense. People change over time. Their attitudes, what they enjoy, commitments, what they find important. If you cant support each other through that change, then you are a really dire friend

HAHAHAHAHAHAH Best thing Ive ever seen

On 29/05/2019 at 20:38, Paul71 said:

Of course its opinion. My view is its an outdated one but as you say opinion.

My wife is currently paid more than me. Doesn't worry me at all. 

We haven't got kids, but have considered fostering.  I would have no issue if that meant i worked less to 'house husband '

I am as capable of cooking,  cleaning etc as my wife.

 

Fair enough 

My views on women working at  doesn't make a difference that much anyway, as I'm not the one who has to live with women and kids anyway .But I agree one great thing feminism did do , was putting women in the workplace! 

On 14/04/2019 at 10:59, Paul71 said:

incredibly that does still seem to be true.

Amazes me how many people i know quite well that still think a mans job is to earn money and a womans job to housekeep, especially some in the older generation.

I had a discussion with my barber a week or so ago, we were talking about football commentary and pundits, and I mentioned i happened to think Alex Scott is good, it was like a red rag to a bull, absolutely not, in his opinion, should women be allowed anywhere near football...its just not right!!

Needless to say the conversation quickly changed from football pundits.

Tbh I think its good for a woman to have a job or a craft, so if god forbid something happens to you, there is still a source of income. But if I was married (not gonna happen anyway) and wasnt the main breadwinner- I would feel like less of a man , but thats just my opinion.

cant wait for it tommorow

2 hours ago, Alpha said:

 

I think as soon as you accept that your poo stinks and your best is good enough that you can live happily ever after. But even being aware of what social media is like doesn't help. Even not using it at all isn't protection. Our brains are all warped with mental images of the people we should be. Even if it's not jealousy of Dave and his new Range Rover it might be that your brain is showing you a better version of yourself. 

 

Just reading this post again, because I find it so powerful. I do think that the bit I highlighted in bold is actually a good thing if it isnt completely unrealistic. I think the minute you stop having goals, ambitions, doing things you hate but are good for you, criticisms of yourself, (healthy ones, not "Im not tall and dont have a 6 pack), life does lose its meaning.

2 hours ago, Alpha said:

This thread should be for anybody who needs to empty their brains. It doesn't matter imo what makes sense or anything like that. If its hurting then let it all fall out in here and maybe  someone can help pick up the pieces.

What would be terrible is anyone reading this thread thinking "well compared to that my problems don't seem so bad" and keeping it to themselves. 

Anyone who's on their arse should post in here. It doesn't matter if you have a "valid" reason or if it fits in. Sometimes people fall on their arse and getting back up is that bit that matters. Doesn't matter who had the biggest fall. 

I can't offer you much, bro. Other than my best wishes. I know feck all about people passing away. I know that life likes to punch you sometimes and you don't always see a way to ride the shots. But if you do keep rolling on then eventually it gets lost and punches someone else. That's one thing that applies to anyone in this thread with whatever issues. You just keep hanging in there and you'll pick up a win. Easier said than done but experiences teaches us it's true. 

To be fair, I use the "my problems arent as bad as everyone elses" a lot. By problems I mean "Envy/things I dont have, odd digs here and there at me". I find that it helps me. It gives me a sense of perspective, makes me feel grateful, less negative and more positive. Im really sorry if this offends anyone (note, I am not talking about illness or grief here) but its human nature to worry and obssess over what you dont/cant have (whether its a nice car, big house, or a girlfriend ect) rather than appreciate and make the most out of what you DO have

2 hours ago, Alpha said:

I don't even do Twitter or Facebook but I can see how they must kick people in the nuts. 

I mean it's a bit like having relationship issues and every song on the radio seems relevant. Your brain seems to pick out things on social media and start reminding you that you don't have this or that. You're not that handsome, thin, tall, pretty. They're a better parent, they earn more money, they have a better career, a nicer car, more friends. 

It's like holding a mirror up to your life when you're not in the right place mentally. Looking how much of a feck up you've made. When you view it then it's a mirror.

Yet when you post on it then suddenly it's a sales pitch. I'm super good looking, drive this car, look at my beautiful kids, look at me in the sun, look at my living room. Obviously not everyone is out there to boast. But we like to present the best "me" to the world. And it gets competitive between a lot of insecure people which leads to more insecure people. 

Facebook isn't really reality. Reality TV isn't reality. But anything that offers security or insecurity sells. A lot of people are looking for comfort or are in competition. 

I think as soon as you accept that your poo stinks and your best is good enough that you can live happily ever after. But even being aware of what social media is like doesn't help. Even not using it at all isn't protection. Our brains are all warped with mental images of the people we should be. Even if it's not jealousy of Dave and his new Range Rover it might be that your brain is showing you a better version of yourself. 

But when you are on your arse and still looking at the perfect world of everyone else... that is a kick in the nuts. If you think it might not be helpful, log out

100 percent. Im a big advocate for self improvement, getting out your comfort zone, not feeling sorry for yourself, but social medial is just fake bs. You see dave in his ferrari but dont see the struggles he went through to get there. You see becky with her engagement ring on but dont see the arguments she has daily with her partner. It only shows one side of the coin.

As for @rynny, all I can say is sorry to hear and best of luck

1 hour ago, BurtonRam7 said:

Quick update: Everything is sorted now. There was a bit of a miscommunication and it's all good. On to Wembley!

happy for you

2 hours ago, Broderick said:

Has anyone on here given up social media in an attempt to help their depression or anxiety? Any success? 

Deleted twitter and dont go on facebook, but for productivity, as Im lucky enough not to have any mental health problems.

Problem with facebook ect is that you only see snippets of peoples lives (e.g photos of people getting engaged, or going on holiday), and it can sometimes make you feel envious and dare I say jealous. Or on twitter, before you know it you have random peoples opinions on random irrelevant things (e.g love island) thrown in front of your face, and if you are one of those people who feels like they need to have their 2 pence worth in anything, it does waste a LOT of your time

Being honest to yourself is key, as long as you do that, you can be halfway there

Im a pharmacist, but apart from proffessionally, couldnt care less what people think of me. Im like the polar opposite to you?

How are you doing @BurtonRam7? Just thought Id check

11 minutes ago, BurtonRam7 said:

Thank you mate. It’s something I’d rather keep private to be honest but I’m going to speak to the people involved tomorrow. Should all be sorted soon.

No problems

1 hour ago, BurtonRam7 said:

I’ve been on a massive high all day thanks to last night’s result but I’m a little down now. I just heard something said about me that categorically isn’t true, but it’s not exactly something that can be easily disproved. It also brings back ideas that my larger circle of friends get the wrong impression about me and misunderstand me quite a bit. That’s probably because of what I project on the surface, but it’s difficult knowing that I’m probably a better person than people think. I don’t really show my emotions or sensitive side so it’s easy to see why people get the wrong impression.

I want to emphasise that I’m extremely lucky to have never had any mental health issues. This is just one of those little life things that I’ll have forgotten about in the morning (I’m sober though, don’t worry). Just thought I’d get it off my chest on here.

Mind me asking what was said and what context it was in? Problem is that because you may have heard a snippet of what someone thinks about you but might have not heard the whole context.. which doesnt tell its full story. Personally I wouldnt worry mate, your a good lad!

On 09/04/2019 at 03:38, SouthStandDan said:

Took my girlfriend away this past weekend. Every day I felt like having a panic attack. I felt terrible, not only physically but mental it was so tough. I was constantly having to do things to stop the effects. It tends to happen when I get an adrenaline rush. For instance, at Derby games I’ve felt awful too. At work, when I have to speak in front of people I feel faint. Dizzy and struggling to breathe at times. It’s like my body cannot cope with excitement and it’s heartbreaking for me. I seemingly can’t do ordinary social activities without having to concentrate on my breathing or feeling sick. I don’t understand why this keeps occurring.

I had a panic attack nearly 2 years ago and the aftermath has never gone away. It was so random. I think I just felt faint and tried desperately to control, which ended up me being carted in the back of the ambulance. I don’t understand how one moment can then ultimately, not make me feel like the same man anymore. I’m a healthy person, I’ve cut out eating rubbish. Talking about it to a GP feels embarrassing as they’ll probably put me on drugs and I don’t want to take them. I want my brain to be retrained and I don’t know how. My girlfriend reckons I’m producing too much adrenaline but how is that possible. It’s so bizarre and I don’t want this to affect my personal relationships. 

Damn it.

Please get help, theres medication out there which will sort out the chemical imbalance causing this that will help, i.e SSRI's

If sala was alive , cardiff would have stayed up tbh

1 minute ago, RamNut said:

Cardiff will have made a shed load of money this season.

pay up you ankers.

Why do they spend duck all then ?

6 hours ago, TigerTedd said:

Why has it got anything to do with fifa or the premier league though?

you buy a car, and crash it in the way home before youve insured it. £30k isn’t a lot to the local council, they should pay for your car.

also, make your mind up, premier league or FIFA. The idea of a governing body paying on Cardiff’s behalf is nuts, but even if it wasn’t, which governing body is responsible? It’s jusf another court case waiting to happen. solicitors must be rubbing their hands with glee.

 

I dont think the governing body is responsible . Just they should do it as a gesture of goodwill. They get are mega rich anyway

On 20/03/2019 at 13:27, AmericanRam said:

Toya found out this morning that her favorite uncle has passed away.To say she is upset would be a vast understatement.

I love her so much and to see her crying has me crying.

If you would please put us in your thoughts.

Just a tough day for my angel.

Ill never have kids but I can only imagine. Its not even something you can fix/change which must be frustrating. Seeing my dad cry when my grandad passed away wasnt easy too. Stay strong

15 mill is a lot to cardiff tbh. Fifa should just step in and pay. 15 mill is peanuts to the premierleague/Fifa

15 mill is a lot to cardiff tbh, cant the premierleague step in and pay? or fifa?

Very eye catching reading this thread as an healthcare proffesional 

Great thread

Im lucky enough not to suffer from any mental health issues and have great family and friends around me that I can spend time with. But what interests me is how you guys deal with being alone. Its something that I read and try and take notes from, so when the time comes itself (e.g when Im 30 and all my brothers/friends have married, or when my parents arent around anymore), Ill know how to handle myself.

Note- Being alone and being lonely arent the same thing, even though for some people it can inter-link

where on earth did you get the three rounds from ? Even wilders last round probably wasnt a 10-8 and fury wont the rest of the round?