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9 hours ago, Phoenix said:

Wish we had a player called PLOJ.

We have Plod and Plop. Close enough?

On 29/08/2020 at 09:23, Black ('n' White) Sheep said:

At a distance, it looks like this guy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Justin_Shaibu

Vaguely recognise him from many of the random non-league games I've attended. It would make sense as he's recently been 'let go' by Brentford.

Not short of confidence if it is:

Shaibu stated that he likes "to think I play like Romelu Lukaku. I have got great pace, a lot of energy, a lot of power and I am a great finisher"

Love these stories, they're interesting enough about our legendary old timers, but they have also highlighted and in this case rectified long held injustices. 

Congrats to both you and of course Jimmy.

Will there be a book at the end of it? You write quite eloquently, and maybe DCFC could help with images and publication. 

I think I'll just buy games as and when. The reason I don't have a season ticket is because I can't commit to being available for every home game so this isn't really viable for the same reason. 

1 minute ago, cheron85 said:

He was pretty much torn apart by Lincoln's right winger in the cup... Didn't look very special... Wouldn't be better than Fozzy, Olsson or Lowe...

Mostly just players we've discussed here to be fair... Not a huge number of them have been official links...

Chester, James, de Laet, Lansbury and Kodjia at least were linked.

Villa signing Hourihane for £3m and a full back also from Barnsley for £3m. Opportunity missed? Both are out of contract in summer.

Will there be any free agents left this summer?

Have Barnsley given up on survival already?

How will a Villa team half made up of players we have talked about/been linked with do against us in a few weeks?

Surely we'll be linked with free agents before then. Had Berbatov fixed himself up yet? I think he'd complement Vydra quite nicely.

20 hours ago, Animal is a Ram said:

Sorry if this upsets anyone, but I just felt I had to get it down somewhere and this felt the best place for it. I was also wondering if there was anyone else who had been through similar, who could share their experience of the big C.

It's been a tough month.

My girlfriend's dad was diagnosed with lung cancer about a month ago. Since then its been setbacks and balls ups all over.

Monday, he was due to have his lung removed, after a bronchoscopy, at Nottingham City Hospital. They then had to refill a lengthy consent form out because the original one was for a child, anaesthetist needed him to have an echocardiogram at short notice, thus turning a 8.00am procedure start into a 12.30pm start.

At about 6, we then had the news that they couldn't remove the lung, as the size and location made it more risky than they first thought. Quite why this didn't show on the bronchoscopy, or any of the numerous CT/PET is beyond my knowledge. He will now be referred back to the Derby oncologist for a chemo/radiotherapy to shrink the tumour, to then have a second attempt at removing the lung.

To make matters worse, having already incised from shoulder to hip on his back, they then got his pain relieving epidural wrong.

We are gutted, confused, angry, and losing heart. Fortunately, he isn't, bless him.

 

We lost my wife's dad to cancer last year, and it was a catalogue of errors and horror stories (thankfully for you not in Derby.)

From terminal diagnosis in May, to knowing that last fathers day would be his last, hospitalisation soon after and passing in early July.  It's been a hell of a week for us this week with so many memories flooding back.

The hospital were useless and infuriating. Upon admission we were given so little information about what was going on and what was going to happen, charts were completed incorrectly, he was given little attention even when machines were beeping and malfunctioning, promised that things would happen later that day (scans/tests etc) that were never practical or going to occur, and too low a dosage of medicine and pitiful out of hours monitoring meant that he died in agony and without dignity.

Fight and hassle, the hospital will do things under duress (some nurses are much better than others) but you must pressure them all the time - don't be afraid of asking lots of questions until you understand and ask repeatedly for things until they actually happen, as it's the only way he will get the necessary treatment.  In the last week we ended up there 24 hours a day and having to learn and do things ourselves and take over other things to smooth the ride.  McMillan were good but have limitations, little out of hours contact etc - however they are able to get things moving and apply pressure if needed.  They always start on the lowest dosage of pain relief but can up it dramatically, fight hard for it, and make sure you do it in hours as only certain doctors can sign off on it.

The great thing is belief is half the battle, as long as he stays positive it increases his chances no end.

Another positive, a chap across the road has just survived his 3rd cancer diagnosis and after chemo is making a good recovery, putting the weight back on, and getting out and about.  It isn't always a death sentence!

I hate to admit I blubbed a little at Me Before You the other day.

Personal experiences - a close family member's attempt was triggered by not dealing with something from their past. They held on to it, not telling anyone, and eventually the weight of it got too much. Opportunity was there at the right/wrong time and they took it.

Second person I know was triggered by such a shocking accusation that they just did it. Not sure to this day if it was the enormity of the accusation or that it was true and that was their escape plan.

Personally, I came within days of mental breakdown not too long ago, no real reason, I guess life had beat me down for a few years, several family and money issues, unhappy at work, stressed, and always something at the back of my mind. I just noticed that I had become a zombie, unable to think or process things, almost like my head was full, and I was anxious of everything. Next day I took myself to the doctors and got put on citalapram. The next week was hell, almost as soon as I'd realised I had a problem it went into overdrive - always a taste in my throat, pounding head, nervous of everything and everybody, unable to go into busy places. Took 3 weeks off work, gave up anything that made me stressed in any way, and it calmed down a bit over that time before flaring up again. Now on escitalipram which is stronger and proving more effective. 

Thing is everybody I've shared that with is on/has been on/or has someone close on antidepressants. There really shouldn't be such a stigma. Life can get tough, if you need a helping hand coping there is medication available and it does work.

Just to add I also feel I hold my wife back and she'd be better without me on my really bad days, but that's just not true- she married me because she loves me and wouldn't change that no matter what I say. Talk to your wife and I'm sure she'll reassure you.