eddie Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Food for thought - I've been married 38 years. It's why I take it out on you lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Martyn Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 Marriage is really a pretty minor decision. Although everyone hopes that it is for life, in reality, you can always change your mind and get out. OK, so there'll be some emotional turmoil, but surely only the same as getting out of any long term relationship. The enormous, life-changing, monumental, Mount Everest sized decision is having kids. They change your life in ways you wouldn't believe possible. As a parent, you're every decision is taken with them in mind. You can't ever just walk away from the relationship with your children. If you have children you are also bound for life to their mum - even if you split with your wife/partner, you will have to remain in contact to some extent due to the kids. So my advice is don't worry about getting married. If it ever feels right just do it. Do, however, take your time over the decision to reproduce - although try not to leave it too late as conceiving gets harder with age and being an 'older' parent can be pretty challenging. This. For me, the ultimate commitment is having kids, it says "for life" to me. She was still absolutely gagging to get married though, I think women still have this thing that getting married will make them feel more secure. So we just managed to scrape enough peenies together for a bargain-basement wedding. And have to admit, it was a great day, far better than I imagined! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ambitious Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years now, she was 16 and I was 18 when we got together - she was diagnosed with cancer 3 months after we met, so it's been a bizarre path to get to this point but it made us a very strong couple early on. it's the little things in life, as opposed to the big gestures that keep you going through every day, be yourself and more importantly do things YOU want to do. I find too many relationships break up due to being under the thumb to THEN wanting to break out - I've never made any excuses about what I want to do, obviously you can make exceptions and sometimes you have too. I think everyone is made up of different stuff, some people aren't made for relationships and if I was them I wouldn't worry, just do what makes you happy and then you won't have any regrets! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrivateDerby Posted June 26, 2013 Author Share Posted June 26, 2013 Fookin 'ell mate, wish you both all the best! If you are as mad and as committed about her than you are about Derby County, i'm sure you'll be alright Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuperSheep Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 Make sure you give her a tiny bit more attention though, women these days are demanding! B) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrivateDerby Posted June 26, 2013 Author Share Posted June 26, 2013 Nah sod 'em, we fell in love with Derby first didn't we... it's just tempestuous that's all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrivateDerby Posted July 4, 2013 Author Share Posted July 4, 2013 Quick update, I asked my 80 odd year old Granddad about it and after laughing for a while he said - "The trickiest bit of it all is realising you've got a good'un because you always f*ck it up or b*gger about" Suppose I could give it a try Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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