Merry Christmas to all DCFC Fans

[David]

I just wanted to wish you all a Merry Christmas and whilst not football related, I did feel this topic was worthy of maximum exposure.

I know this time of year can be difficult for some, this year may see more of you struggle with the restrictions in place and financial difficulties due to COVID.

Yesterday it was announced a Newcastle fan sadly took his life after posting on social media that it was time to die.

I think it’s important to remind you all that underneath all the ranty anger, frustration and stroppy tantrums as the team news is announced, we do actually have a lot of great members on this forum that are online all hours of the day and night as you can see with this 1am post (thanks to sciatica), so you never have to feel alone.

I would also encourage members that do feel alone to contact @sage and join in with the forum zoom calls on Saturday evenings.

I haven’t been on myself recently due to a clash of time with other Zoom calls but they are a great way to put faces to usernames and can confirm @i-Ramlooks absolutely nothing like George Clooney.

They are super friendly and you can even disable your camera if you don’t feel comfortable at first. 

This year has seen many lows on and off the pitch, but has also produced possibly my personal high of the almost 12 year existence of this forum, that was raising £2000 for Derby City Mission Food Bank which would have helped so many families which leads me on to my annual thank you’s.

First to all members that make this forum what it is, even if I have disagreed with many of you over the years! The moderators which without I would be a lot balder than I already am today, and finally the club for always being supportive of this this forum and contributing to the cost of keeping the forum online.

Merry Christmas once again and a happy new year which let’s be honest, we all need! ?

[2tups]

9 minutes ago, David said:

I just wanted to wish you all a Merry Christmas and whilst not football related, I did feel this topic was worthy of maximum exposure.

I know this time of year can be difficult for some, this year may see more of you struggle with the restrictions in place and financial difficulties due to COVID.

Yesterday it was announced a Newcastle fan sadly took his life after posting on social media that it was time to die.

I think it’s important to remind you all that underneath all the ranty anger, frustration and stroppy tantrums as the team news is announced, we do actually have a lot of great members on this forum that are online all hours of the day and night as you can see with this 1am post (thanks to sciatica), so you never have to feel alone.

I would also encourage members that do feel alone to contact @sage and join in with the forum zoom calls on Saturday evenings.

I haven’t been on myself recently due to a clash of time with other Zoom calls but they are a great way to put faces to usernames and can confirm @i-Ramlooks absolutely nothing like George Clooney.

They are super friendly and you can even disable your camera if you don’t feel comfortable at first. 

This year has seen many lows on and off the pitch, but has also produced possibly my personal high of the almost 12 year existence of this forum, that was raising £2000 for Derby City Mission Food Bank which would have helped so many families which leads me on to my annual thank you’s.

First to all members that make this forum what it is, even if I have disagreed with many of you over the years! The moderators which without I would be a lot balder than I already am today, and finally the club for always being supportive of this this forum and contributing to the cost of keeping the forum online.

Merry Christmas once again and a happy new year which let’s be honest, we all need! ?

Great advice. And should you ever be feeling as low as someone you will know. Think of them, not you. See the stars, not the gutter. And just remember for every trip to Old Trafford, there’s a Wanchope somewhere. 
 

 

[Yani P]

My wife lost her mum to suicide, was a shock to everyone and she was just 50. My wife has used that terrible experience and quit her Actuarial job and trained herself as a neuro science coach dealing specifically with those who have lost loved ones to suicide.

It is sad in many ways how many people have reached out her as they have lost husband's, wives, children, friends, brothers, sisters etc.  Tragic really. But echo the sentiments, look out for people, offer help when its needed.

[MuespachRam]

Well said @David... made me well up a bit..... and speaking from personal experience, please if anyone is ever feeling anything close to how the Newcastle fan must have felt over the last few days/weeks/months please please speak up. Speak to someone, anyone, a friend, a stranger  send me a message, just don’t ever think you are on your own...even if you don’t agree with me that Billy Davies is a rock star... merry Christmas... lots of love - Mike. (See I am a human like person after all) 

[sunnyhill60]

@David and I have not been on the same page recently BUT

There will be more than a few Rams fans who will have a very quiet Christmas with limited social contacts, either to protect themselves or members of their family. Rams TV (Thanks Mel) and this forum will be very helpful in getting through it all.

Seasons greetings to David and all the team that make this forum the success that it is!

[IslandExile]

Merry Chrimbo everyone.

Let's all hope that 2021 is a better, happier year for everyone.

Many thanks to @David and the rest of the mods for providing this platform, which is especially valuable during these difficult times.

Thanks to everyone on the forum. We may often disagree but we are all Derby and want the best for our club. That common interest keeps us all going. The good - and not so good - humour also helps.

Stay safe. Be happy. Keep believing.

Yin and Yang. Tao Te Ching and all that.

COYR ?

[Ellafella]

4 hours ago, David said:

I just wanted to wish you all a Merry Christmas and whilst not football related, I did feel this topic was worthy of maximum exposure.

I know this time of year can be difficult for some, this year may see more of you struggle with the restrictions in place and financial difficulties due to COVID.

Yesterday it was announced a Newcastle fan sadly took his life after posting on social media that it was time to die.

I think it’s important to remind you all that underneath all the ranty anger, frustration and stroppy tantrums as the team news is announced, we do actually have a lot of great members on this forum that are online all hours of the day and night as you can see with this 1am post (thanks to sciatica), so you never have to feel alone.

I would also encourage members that do feel alone to contact @sage and join in with the forum zoom calls on Saturday evenings.

I haven’t been on myself recently due to a clash of time with other Zoom calls but they are a great way to put faces to usernames and can confirm @i-Ramlooks absolutely nothing like George Clooney.

They are super friendly and you can even disable your camera if you don’t feel comfortable at first. 

This year has seen many lows on and off the pitch, but has also produced possibly my personal high of the almost 12 year existence of this forum, that was raising £2000 for Derby City Mission Food Bank which would have helped so many families which leads me on to my annual thank you’s.

First to all members that make this forum what it is, even if I have disagreed with many of you over the years! The moderators which without I would be a lot balder than I already am today, and finally the club for always being supportive of this this forum and contributing to the cost of keeping the forum online.

Merry Christmas once again and a happy new year which let’s be honest, we all need! ?

...you’ve gone and rate spoilt it now @David ?

[Mafiabob]

I’ll encourage anyone to talk, open up - I could go through all the cliches, lines etc (I have a slide in my presentation to schools on them all) but believe me from personal experience of being at Rock Bottom - there’s always help and hope.

@Davidmaybe we can have a pinned post on here with referral to helplines, websites etc for support around Mental Health, Lonliness and Addiction?

I volunteer for HeadHigh - The Night Bus. It’s where people go for a chat if they are struggling mentally and need a friendly face. We hope to open up physically again soon but we are running Zoom on a Friday/Saturday night from 7-8 with breakout rooms for 1 on 1. 
 

Whatever you maybe thinking..... my DMs are open on here or @AndyMargett on Twitter. I’ll always listen, I obviously specialise in one particular area but will happily sit and listen - I’m proof you can turn your life around for the better.

[sage]

8 hours ago, David said:

I just wanted to wish you all a Merry Christmas and whilst not football related, I did feel this topic was worthy of maximum exposure.

I know this time of year can be difficult for some, this year may see more of you struggle with the restrictions in place and financial difficulties due to COVID.

Yesterday it was announced a Newcastle fan sadly took his life after posting on social media that it was time to die.

I think it’s important to remind you all that underneath all the ranty anger, frustration and stroppy tantrums as the team news is announced, we do actually have a lot of great members on this forum that are online all hours of the day and night as you can see with this 1am post (thanks to sciatica), so you never have to feel alone.

I would also encourage members that do feel alone to contact @sage and join in with the forum zoom calls on Saturday evenings.

I haven’t been on myself recently due to a clash of time with other Zoom calls but they are a great way to put faces to usernames and can confirm @i-Ramlooks absolutely nothing like George Clooney.

They are super friendly and you can even disable your camera if you don’t feel comfortable at first. 

This year has seen many lows on and off the pitch, but has also produced possibly my personal high of the almost 12 year existence of this forum, that was raising £2000 for Derby City Mission Food Bank which would have helped so many families which leads me on to my annual thank you’s.

First to all members that make this forum what it is, even if I have disagreed with many of you over the years! The moderators which without I would be a lot balder than I already am today, and finally the club for always being supportive of this this forum and contributing to the cost of keeping the forum online.

Merry Christmas once again and a happy new year which let’s be honest, we all need! ?

Just to re-iterate what @David said about supporting each other through this difficult time, if anyone wants to join the Saturday night Zoom calls, just PM me and I will send you a link, we are online from 7pm till 9pm. There are always 4 to 6 people on it, so not so many to make it feel daunting and every new person is made to feel welcome.

I'd also like to take this opportunity to thank David for his support of the Food Bank Fundraiser. When I PM'd him with the idea all those months ago, I thought I may get a polite no, but David was on it straight away and we, as a community, helped feed those desperate people.

We are a good bunch. Social media often brings out the worst in people, but it can sometimes bring out the best.

 

[RoyMac5]

Merry Christmas everyone (even Red Dogs!). 

Should this post be pinned to the top of the tree like a fairy? 

[oldtimeram]

We all feel very low and in a very dark place sometimes, I certainly do, and one may feel "is it worth it?  However, we somehow pull ourselves out of it and get on with life the best way we can, God willing.

Have a good and safe Christmas.  I have vowed not to wish a Happy New Year until this is all over, because 2021 is still going to be rocky and many more lives may, sadly, be lost before this evil virus is put back in its box.

Stay safe 

OTR

[Bwash_Ram]

[Bubbles]

Early Merry Christmas to you all.

What a terrible year it has been. Suffered from many personal losses, mental health issues, but I'm getting there slowly.

Want people to understand you're not alone if you're struggling. Keep going, it WILL improve. 

Love you all.

[Millenniumram]

Merry Christmas one and all. I hope 2021 brings us better football!

[Mucker1884]

I'm generally a carefree kinda guy by nature, very much living the "Que sera, sera" lifestyle, but even I have felt the need to "Open up" on an internet forum a few years back (not this forum), and I have to say, as a massive sceptic, it actually did me a world of good.  There was nothing anyone could do, and the outcome didn't change, but just writing down my thoughts (and details of an extremely negative event, almost "running commentary" stylee) and seeing the best wishes and heartfelt condolences come flooding back, were a massive boost to an otherwise unavoidable but traumatic time.

And most recently, I've found the need to advocate "talking to someone", to someone extremely close, and extremely troubled himself.  Not a subject I can advise on from personal experience, and clearly an expert in the field is needed for this one, but talk he must... and talk, he is currently (and thankfully!) doing, so fingers crossed with that one.

Nobody should feel alone in this day and age.  There is always someone, somewhere, who can and will listen, even if they can't specifically advise on the next step to take.  But for those of you in need, you do need to make that first move.  The world is not full of mind readers.  Do not leave it until it is too late.  You will leave far too much heartache behind, taking that approach!

 

... and on that jovial note... yeah... Merry Christmas, everyone!  ?

 

Stay safe, stay strong, stay for a coffee and a chat.

xxx

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[Amberram]

Merry Christmas to you all.

From Amberram

 

[DarkFruitsRam7]

13 hours ago, David said:

The moderators which without I would be a lot balder than I already am today ?

Is that even possible?

[David]

Just now, DarkFruitsRam7 said:

Is that even possible?

Yes. 

By the way, if at all possible, I hope your turkey is even drier and tasteless than last year.

[DarkFruitsRam7]

2 minutes ago, David said:

Yes. 

By the way, if at all possible, I hope your turkey is even drier and tasteless than last year.

Spending my first ever Christmas out of Burton. In London this year.

I’ve heard the birds are juicier up there.

[RedSox]

11 hours ago, Yani P said:

My wife lost her mum to suicide, was a shock to everyone and she was just 50.

So sad.  Exactly the same thing happened to my wife.  You never get over something that devastating, but learning to cope takes time and A LOT of help from others who are willing to offer their ear and support.  I'm in awe of people that do this for others who are suffering.