Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues

[DarkFruitsRam7]

2 minutes ago, dcfcfan1 said:

How are you doing @BurtonRam7? Just thought Id check

Thanks a lot mate, I really appreciate you checking up. I’m better today as I now know that I’ve got the support of those directly involved. I’ve also just had a really enjoyable meal with my auntie and uncle.

Being wrongly accused of something really rankles and I’m worried about what other people might think, but I certainly have a clear conscience as I know that I’ve done nothing wrong.

Thanks again.

[dcfcfan1]

Being honest to yourself is key, as long as you do that, you can be halfway there

Im a pharmacist, but apart from proffessionally, couldnt care less what people think of me. Im like the polar opposite to you?

[Broderick]

Has anyone on here given up social media in an attempt to help their depression or anxiety? Any success? 

[Leicester Ram]

1 hour ago, Broderick said:

Has anyone on here given up social media in an attempt to help their depression or anxiety? Any success? 

I’ll give myself 3/4 days off once in a while. Genuinely does help out. Try and get out to walk the dog more, get outside a bit in those few days.

It is genuinely refreshing.

[Mostyn6]

2 hours ago, Broderick said:

Has anyone on here given up social media in an attempt to help their depression or anxiety? Any success? 

Yes. It works a treat. 

[Mucker1884]

2 hours ago, Broderick said:

Has anyone on here given up social media in an attempt to help their depression or anxiety? Any success? 

If they had, would they not miss this question?   

[dcfcfan1]

2 hours ago, Broderick said:

Has anyone on here given up social media in an attempt to help their depression or anxiety? Any success? 

Deleted twitter and dont go on facebook, but for productivity, as Im lucky enough not to have any mental health problems.

 

Problem with facebook ect is that you only see snippets of peoples lives (e.g photos of people getting engaged, or going on holiday), and it can sometimes make you feel envious and dare I say jealous. Or on twitter, before you know it you have random peoples opinions on random irrelevant things (e.g love island) thrown in front of your face, and if you are one of those people who feels like they need to have their 2 pence worth in anything, it does waste a LOT of your time

 

[DarkFruitsRam7]

On 17/05/2019 at 23:59, dcfcfan1 said:

How are you doing @BurtonRam7? Just thought Id check

Quick update: Everything is sorted now. There was a bit of a miscommunication and it's all good. On to Wembley!

[dcfcfan1]

1 hour ago, BurtonRam7 said:

Quick update: Everything is sorted now. There was a bit of a miscommunication and it's all good. On to Wembley!

happy for you

[rynny]

I've tried posting a few times in here, but it just didn't sit right each time I've wrote it out.

As some of you know I did the cancer research relay for life last year, my grandma was diagnosed over 2 years ago with a very rare form of cancer. She went through all the treatments, operations, chemotherapy etc and was told she was in remission last April, she joined me at the relay and did the survivors lap and had a great day of it. However in September she took a turn for the worse, she went for some tests and  found out the cancer had returned very aggressively. Over the next 6 weeks she deteriorated rapidly. But as the strong woman she had always been she battled to the very end. There were days where we were told to expect the worse, yet she kept fighting and holding on. She eventually passed away peacefully in her sleep. 

At the same time my wife's grandma was on the same ward, in the next room. We were told to expect the worse, she battled on for a few months but lost her battle at the start of this year. 

Then this morning my wife's grandad has passed away (from her mother's side, grandma was from her dad's side) he has been suffering from dementia for the last 6 years.

To say the last 6-8 months have been poo is a bit of an understatement.

I feel like this is something I've needed to write and down but not known where. 

[Smyth_18]

4 minutes ago, rynny said:

I've tried posting a few times in here, but it just didn't sit right each time I've wrote it out.

As some of you know I did the cancer research relay for life last year, my grandma was diagnosed over 2 years ago with a very rare form of cancer. She went through all the treatments, operations, chemotherapy etc and was told she was in remission last April, she joined me at the relay and did the survivors lap and had a great day of it. However in September she took a turn for the worse, she went for some tests and  found out the cancer had returned very aggressively. Over the next 6 weeks she deteriorated rapidly. But as the strong woman she had always been she battled to the very end. There were days where we were told to expect the worse, yet she kept fighting and holding on. She eventually passed away peacefully in her sleep. 

At the same time my wife's grandma was on the same ward, in the next room. We were told to expect the worse, she battled on for a few months but lost her battle at the start of this year. 

Then this morning my wife's grandad has passed away (from her mother's side, grandma was from her dad's side) he has been suffering from dementia for the last 6 years.

To say the last 6-8 months have been poo is a bit of an understatement.

I feel like this is something I've needed to write and down but not known where. 

Bless you mate. Must have been a very hard time for you and your family.

Thank you for sharing with us all. I'm sure i speak for a lot of us when i say, if ever you need somebody to talk to, i'm here.

[mozza]

 

@rynny

All the very best to you and yours. In my thoughts today and always. Stay strong bud. 

[DarkFruitsRam7]

4 hours ago, rynny said:

I've tried posting a few times in here, but it just didn't sit right each time I've wrote it out.

As some of you know I did the cancer research relay for life last year, my grandma was diagnosed over 2 years ago with a very rare form of cancer. She went through all the treatments, operations, chemotherapy etc and was told she was in remission last April, she joined me at the relay and did the survivors lap and had a great day of it. However in September she took a turn for the worse, she went for some tests and  found out the cancer had returned very aggressively. Over the next 6 weeks she deteriorated rapidly. But as the strong woman she had always been she battled to the very end. There were days where we were told to expect the worse, yet she kept fighting and holding on. She eventually passed away peacefully in her sleep. 

At the same time my wife's grandma was on the same ward, in the next room. We were told to expect the worse, she battled on for a few months but lost her battle at the start of this year. 

Then this morning my wife's grandad has passed away (from her mother's side, grandma was from her dad's side) he has been suffering from dementia for the last 6 years.

To say the last 6-8 months have been poo is a bit of an understatement.

I feel like this is something I've needed to write and down but not known where. 

So sorry to hear that mate. Hope Monday can provide some small relief for you.

[ronnieronalde]

@rynny,

What i've noticed about this place is it's got a solid core of people who are liked and respected by others, no matter what views they have they're able to come through the other side and still be liked, still be cared about. You're right at the top of that tree. You've earned that over years. Sounds a bit cheesy but I'm really glad you felt this is the place you felt comfortable sharing. I'm sure you knew the kind of reaction you'd get pal. One of universal support and rightly so.

You're a good lad and people don't like to see good lads having a hard time of it. No words can be right when you lose a family member. None. There is no feeling like it in the world. All you can do is keep breathing and keep smiling at the good memories and know that at some point you'll feel like you've been hit with a hammer as you cry for the same reason you smiled.

Stay strong pal. I know for a fact the offers of support/beers/chats from your fellow DCFC members is genuine. Don't be afraid to accept one or two of them. All the best.

Craig.

Edited May 21, 2019 by ronnieronalde

[rynny]

Thanks for the kind words. It is very much appreciated. 

[Alph]

10 hours ago, rynny said:

I've tried posting a few times in here, but it just didn't sit right each time I've wrote it out.

As some of you know I did the cancer research relay for life last year, my grandma was diagnosed over 2 years ago with a very rare form of cancer. She went through all the treatments, operations, chemotherapy etc and was told she was in remission last April, she joined me at the relay and did the survivors lap and had a great day of it. However in September she took a turn for the worse, she went for some tests and  found out the cancer had returned very aggressively. Over the next 6 weeks she deteriorated rapidly. But as the strong woman she had always been she battled to the very end. There were days where we were told to expect the worse, yet she kept fighting and holding on. She eventually passed away peacefully in her sleep. 

At the same time my wife's grandma was on the same ward, in the next room. We were told to expect the worse, she battled on for a few months but lost her battle at the start of this year. 

Then this morning my wife's grandad has passed away (from her mother's side, grandma was from her dad's side) he has been suffering from dementia for the last 6 years.

To say the last 6-8 months have been poo is a bit of an understatement.

I feel like this is something I've needed to write and down but not known where. 

This thread should be for anybody who needs to empty their brains. It doesn't matter imo what makes sense or anything like that. If its hurting then let it all fall out in here and maybe  someone can help pick up the pieces.

What would be terrible is anyone reading this thread thinking "well compared to that my problems don't seem so bad" and keeping it to themselves. 

Anyone who's on their arse should post in here. It doesn't matter if you have a "valid" reason or if it fits in. Sometimes people fall on their arse and getting back up is that bit that matters. Doesn't matter who had the biggest fall. 

I can't offer you much, bro. Other than my best wishes. I know feck all about people passing away. I know that life likes to punch you sometimes and you don't always see a way to ride the shots. But if you do keep rolling on then eventually it gets lost and punches someone else. That's one thing that applies to anyone in this thread with whatever issues. You just keep hanging in there and you'll pick up a win. Easier said than done but experiences teaches us it's true. 

[Alph]

On 19/05/2019 at 09:10, Broderick said:

Has anyone on here given up social media in an attempt to help their depression or anxiety? Any success? 

I don't even do Twitter or Facebook but I can see how they must kick people in the nuts. 

I mean it's a bit like having relationship issues and every song on the radio seems relevant. Your brain seems to pick out things on social media and start reminding you that you don't have this or that. You're not that handsome, thin, tall, pretty. They're a better parent, they earn more money, they have a better career, a nicer car, more friends. 

It's like holding a mirror up to your life when you're not in the right place mentally. Looking how much of a feck up you've made. When you view it then it's a mirror.

Yet when you post on it then suddenly it's a sales pitch. I'm super good looking, drive this car, look at my beautiful kids, look at me in the sun, look at my living room. Obviously not everyone is out there to boast. But we like to present the best "me" to the world. And it gets competitive between a lot of insecure people which leads to more insecure people. 

Facebook isn't really reality. Reality TV isn't reality. But anything that offers security or insecurity sells. A lot of people are looking for comfort or are in competition. 

I think as soon as you accept that your poo stinks and your best is good enough that you can live happily ever after. But even being aware of what social media is like doesn't help. Even not using it at all isn't protection. Our brains are all warped with mental images of the people we should be. Even if it's not jealousy of Dave and his new Range Rover it might be that your brain is showing you a better version of yourself. 

But when you are on your arse and still looking at the perfect world of everyone else... that is a kick in the nuts. If you think it might not be helpful, log out

Edited May 21, 2019 by Alpha

[DarkFruitsRam7]

6 minutes ago, Alpha said:

I don't even do Twitter or Facebook but I can see how they must kick people in the nuts. 

I mean it's a bit like having relationship issues and every song on the radio seems relevant. Your brain seems to pick out things on social media and start reminding you that you don't have this or that. You're not that handsome, thin, tall, pretty. They're a better parent, they earn more money, they have a better career, a nicer car, more friends. 

It's like holding a mirror up to your life when you're not in the right place mentally. Looking how much of a feck up you've made. When you view it then it's a mirror.

Yet when you post on it then suddenly it's a sales pitch. I'm super good looking, drive this car, look at my beautiful kids, look at me in the sun, look at my living room. Obviously not everyone is out there to boast. But we like to present the best "me" to the world. And it gets competitive between a lot of insecure people which leads to more insecure people. 

Facebook isn't really reality. Reality TV isn't reality. But anything that offers security or insecurity sells. A lot of people are looking for comfort or are in competition. 

I think as soon as you accept that your poo stinks and your best is good enough that you can live happily ever after. But even being aware of what social media is like doesn't help. Even not using it at all isn't protection. Our brains are all warped with mental images of the people we should be. Even if it's not jealousy of Dave and his new Range Rover it might be that your brain is showing you a better version of yourself. 

But when you are on your arse and still looking at the perfect world of everyone else... that is a kick in the nuts

Think I've decided that you're the best poster on here mate. Every single post, whether it's funny or serious, is immensely readable.

Edited May 21, 2019 by BurtonRam7

[ronnieronalde]

7 minutes ago, BurtonRam7 said:

Think I've decided that you're the best poster on here mate. Every single post, whether it's funny or serious, is immensely readable.

Alpha was right.

Social media really can kick you in the nuts ?

I'm not saying I'm the internet's best poster ever but I'm in the top 1 ? 

[Alph]

1 minute ago, BurtonRam7 said:

Think I've decided that you're the best poster on here mate. Every single post, whether it's funny or serious, is immensely readable.

Ha! I'll take that!! 

What I love about this forum is that it's not really had any bravado. There isn't people presenting the best version of themselves because its anonymous. The mods and David do such an excellent job that you can't shoot people down and bully them out the door

So what we end up with is bit by bit, year by year, thanks to shitty football, people reveal themselves. Like the real them. 

Once people start putting themselves out there and seeing it's not rejected they show a bit more and you end up with beautiful threads like this one. 

I think I might be one of the many posters that spills nonsense from their brain onto these pages and I think others might see that as relatable even if they don't agree with me. 

I get that feel from numerous posters. I love reading their absolute rubbish. Your post about your play off match day plans was one of them. No bravado... just you typing words as they come in your head. I can tell as I read it. It was more interesting than looking at Big Dave's amazing night out pictures of balls

You don't get that on Facebook. Posts are planned mostly. Thought through for how others will read them. Like I am sure new posters do on here

In time, on here, people talk poo. Protected by anonymity. And it becomes such a comfortable place. 

I think people just relate to anyone who leaves a post unedited exactly as it left their brain. I do it all the time so that probably helps me get on with most people. Or I feel like I get on with most people. If I don't then that would be pretty gutting knowing short of seeing my face this is me! 

Hope we win on Monday, mate. For many reasons but it's a wicked day you have lined up and I hope you can sink dark fruits with your nearest and dearest with a daft grin on your face!