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  1. Ok , having my usual pre match travel coffee in the garden , got real worries about this one , injuries are biting , very poor result last game and away at leaders next , they are no mugs and the pressure is on ,,,, what could go wrong 🫣,

    in truth I always go to these kind of games with the gut feeling we will lose then everything else is a bonus , it is derby after all ,

    that said I’m hoping we bounce back and a few below us have a bit of a slip , big crowd and we need to get behind the team 

    coyr💪

  2. 2 hours ago, Srg said:

    We're clearly not getting the output we should be for the wages we're paying to some of the older squad members. We know we were in dire straits 2 years ago, so it's no indictment on anyone. However, Hourihane, Smith, Collins and even Barkhuizen are not really living up to the money they must be earning over more productive League One players. I'm sure Nelson must be on a good amount but he's proven worth it... Bradley, not so much.

    Collins? A bit unfair in my view 

  3. 27 minutes ago, derbydaz22 said:

    I don’t think it’s consistency that fans crave it’s basics like getting the ball down and try and play football even if it doesn’t work. Games like Sat make us look a poor side and we have had far to many off days even if we are 2nd.

    We do that in patches then we have times when the players couldn’t pass wind , the ball bounces off them like pinball or they take an eye off the ball , miss control or let the ball roll out of play ,

    personally I’m not keen on the idea of keep doing something even if it doesn’t work , it’s a results business and the so called better football teams like Bolton and Peterborough are doing slightly worse than us in the league and just as prone to the destructive dire performance and result 🤷🏻‍♂️

  4. 6 hours ago, oodledoodle said:

    I'm neither. I don't expect success. But I don't want turgid football either. I'd rather play well and achieve nothing (as we have for the last 20 years or so, give or take) than play awful and achieve nothing.

    The best we can hope for as Derby fans is the odd blip of success, the odd sniff of the premier league every few years, maybe even a few seasons there every now and then. Hope is that key word. It's like only fools and horses, "this time next year lads, we'll be in the prem"....

    I'm not sure if it's the manager, the players, league one, administration, some combination of all of the above, but that little flicker of hope in me has gone. I don't see us as a temporarily embarrassed premier league team any more. Games like Saturday have absolutely ground that kind of thinking out of me.

    I don't honestly care if we go up or not this season, or if we win lose or draw etc. I just want something to look forward to next time I watch the match, and that's pretty much gone for me at the moment.

    Sorry for the essay.

    To be honest , reading your post it sounds more like what your looking for is consistency and what knocks the stuffing out of you is the lack of it ,guts me too , my reaction during and for a while after the game was , why the duck do I bother putting myself through this 

    reality is you really don’t get consistency at this level or even below mid table prem , the players lack that and it’s why they are not top level , what you gonna do ? Give up and support city ? 
    nah where’s the gut churning butterflies , highs and lows in that ?
    I get it though ,I really do ,it’s hard work being a derby fan

  5. Well that was shxt ,,, everyone shares the blame , the manager and the team,

    there wasn’t an inch of space to be found on the pitch and it was just a pinball like display from both teams with balls bouncing off players feet , heads and knees at random especially out wide where they just strangled us with numbers and determination to block any progress up the field ,we perhaps missed max bird badly today to give us a different option through the middle and change it up and perhaps warnes subs were very stale as it clearly wasn’t working , more injuries and more pressure ,

    this being a derby fan is not all it’s cracked up to be 😂

  6. 7 hours ago, Anag Ram said:

    It’s sad to read so many stories of counselling and psychotherapy not being followed up. I guess in the private world you can choose to go back to the same counsellor, who may at least remember you. 

    It wouldn’t normally be the done thing to share notes between counsellors though. The process is between two individuals, and any past notes will be from the other counsellor’s perspective and could unfairly sway the new relationship.

    The process has to be entered into wholly and honestly to achieve results. The counsellor isn’t there to cure. He/she/they will use their skills to coax out feelings which may have been hidden, or perhaps embedded. Each human has the capacity for change if they allow themselves permission to do so and get the support to do so.

    CBT works well for some, not so well for others, just as some swear by physiotherapy and some prefer chiropractic work.

    No treatment will work if a relationship isn’t established between the two and it pains me that one professional should disparage another. That would set me on edge.

    I hope each one of you finds the right person to open up to. 
     

    Yep you definitely need continuity to be able to build trust , then once you have that a good counsellor will listen and ask the right questions ,they don’t have the answers for anyone but good ones have the skill to help you find your own answers and keys , it’s a bloody hard job because if your doing it because you care as most are the urge to want to fix things for people and make them happy is very strong 

  7. 6 hours ago, Stive Pesley said:

    Agreed - to say "we haven't in any way moved forward" is plainly daft. 50 years ago we'd be attaching electrodes to people's heads and zapping them stupid. 100 years ago we'd be doing lobotomies

    I've had CBT and it really helped me 

    You’re not really getting what I’m saying , if we are getting it so much more right then why have and are suicide rates going through the roof ? Yes there’s there’s terrible stuff / wrongs in the past but that does not mean that’s there’s any less wrongs now even if they are less obvious, 

    how many people are thrown into a community they can’t cope with who need good care and even residential care , left to bounce between police cells and accident and emergency being handled by people not trained to help who often through pressure are making things worse to the point of people harming themselves and others ,

    im very open about my experience of losing a child to suicide and time spent working as a counsellor in prisons simply because I think it’s the right way to go not because I in some daft way think it means I have all the answers or my opinion has anymore value than anybody else s , it just means I don’t throw stuff out Willy nilly without a care ,

    one of the worst things about my time in the prison area was that when you had success with people there was duck all follow up help after our 12 weeks and they were back in the day to day prison routine having opened up and started to dismantle the self destructive shield they had built to survive the poo they had most times been through ,,, really troubled me as to whether we we were actually doing more harm than good 🤷🏻‍♂️

  8. 7 hours ago, Mucker1884 said:

    Problem is, there is no single course of action.  There can be a lot of trial and error involved.  Swapping from one potential remedy to another... until (hopefully) one such remedy is successful (or at least aids improvement, if a cure proves impossible).
    I suspect the "experts" will be learning and developing techniques and remedies for evermore. 

    Our family has witnessed (are witnessing?) great results (which currently appear to be a full on success, fingers crossed!) with EMDR, but the evidence is out there to suggest it's not for everyone!

     

    That’s kind of what I mean mucker, some need time and rest , some need gentle pushing into a position of being active filling time and space , some( though not as many as are palmed off ) need medication ,some need a mix of all 3 and rather than provide the services needed there’s a push to one size fits all,

    some really do need help understanding that what they are experiencing is not necessarily mental health problems in the full sense but rather life’s difficulties ( no less devastating to some ) and need to be helped to understand this and helped with coping mechanisms ,

    Time with a good counsellor coupled with our new found openness in a timely manner , available to all at no cost or massive waiting list would go a long long way to getting positive results 

  9. 8 hours ago, Stive Pesley said:

    Whilst that's true, it is and always will be a tiny minority that succeed in gaming the system. Certainly when it comes to claiming long term benefits. I have close friends with disabilities that limit their mobility and ability to work and the hoops they have had to jump through to get PIP payments are unbelievable to the point of being dehumanising. It has actually had an adverse effect on their mental health to even go through it!

    In terms of those who get signed off work short-term by a GP for mental health issues - regardless of whether they joke about it or not, if they really hate their job so much that they are willing to go to those lengths then you might argue that they have bigger mental health issues than they realise!

     

    For me , although we have come a long way in terms of bringing these issues out into the open so people don’t need to be alone or feel any kind of shame we just havnt in any way moved forward in trying to formulate the best course of action to help people, 

  10. 40 minutes ago, Caerphilly Ram said:

    “even a flawed xG will always outperform goals”

    What does that mean?! No match has ever been decided or points awarded on the xG as far as I know, and if they have they are very much the minority example.
    The millions and millions of normal football fans the world over look forward to their team scoring goals to win games, they may well even expect them to score goals, but let’s not pretend it’s the expectation that matters more than the execution of ACTUALLY scoring the goals.

    I blame sky tv , it’s little wonder so many fans have lost the passion , joy and heartbreak of actually winning and losing games🤷‍♂️

  11. 45 minutes ago, sage said:

    Surely you don't need an electric van to avoid ULEZ charges?

    Just a diesel van from 2016 onwards or a petrol one from 2006?

    Your right but I’ve done the sums and they are pretty poor also , the biggest thing with me over the years has been I’ve learned that you really need to spend out on a new van or at very least extremely low mileage ,ive all too often in my younger days had vans that are high mileage that you have no clue how they have been looked after and they turn into money pits that are totally unreliable, I can go out and buy a van that’s a day older than mine but done about 80 k miles for stupid money ( mine is worth peanuts now) , fit it out how I need it and have a pig in a poke 🤷🏻‍♂️

    ah well , it’s just the way things are , people like me (and there’s plenty) can’t really afford to or able to make a viable financial case to not just suck it up and be hit in the pocket with yet another big tax drain on our living standards , the expansion is a money spinner pure and simple 

    anyway I’m not intending to drag this thread off topic it was just a wry throw away comment on what I’m collecting 😂

  12. 1 hour ago, Archied said:

    👍, I’ve kind of got less angry about it now because ,,, well what’s the point , we getting the ass ripped out of us every which way you turn , there’s not a place to put a cross on a ballot paper that’s got any idea about or interest in representing ordinary working folk as far as I can see ( not party political) ,

    sod it , it’s up to the young to figure it out and do something , I feel sorry for them because we are going backwards in my view and they’re world and freedoms are shrinking by the day and we never move an inch towards being a species that can live in peace without constantly killing each other 🤷🏻‍♂️

    Just done some quick sums , at £12.50 a day 5 days a week it would take me in the region of 15 years to recover the cost of ulez tax by buying a new electric van , jeez I will be happy if I live that long 😂

  13. 9 hours ago, ariotofmyown said:

    I know, was just joking about buying an electric one. Or 2. Likewise the tube.

    I think I was the person who "exposed" the Chessington joke on here.

    Bigger joke is getting diesel as we were originally told it was better for the environment.

    👍, I’ve kind of got less angry about it now because ,,, well what’s the point , we getting the ass ripped out of us every which way you turn , there’s not a place to put a cross on a ballot paper that’s got any idea about or interest in representing ordinary working folk as far as I can see ( not party political) ,

    sod it , it’s up to the young to figure it out and do something , I feel sorry for them because we are going backwards in my view and they’re world and freedoms are shrinking by the day and we never move an inch towards being a species that can live in peace without constantly killing each other 🤷🏻‍♂️

  14. 12 minutes ago, ariotofmyown said:

    Geez, just get an electric van already. Or two. Or use public transport!

    (I'm sure they could have implemented ulez much better/fairer btw, even if I agree with the general idea. Luckily, I managed to find a sneaky parking place just outside the zone when I go to work. I don't work there, but laughable that Harefield is in ulez, it's like a remote countryside village, and with no trains!)

    I’m 63 and not really financially in position to spend 40 to 50 k on an electric van to replace a very good well serviced van that’s only done 28 k ( not gonna be working many more years so why work just to pay for a van ) miles and bought on government steer to buy diesel ,

    as a roofer the tools and materials I transport ain’t going on a bus or a train , more laughable is the nice little loop that gets chessington world of adventure into the zone ,

    theft plain and simple but hey ordinary folk are getting robbed pillar to post these days 🤷🏻‍♂️

  15. On 19/03/2024 at 07:28, BatRam said:

    I have been collecting lord of the rings warhammer since i was kid so ive got that but ive decided i want to read these legend of batman books. Eaglemoss went under so the collection never got fully released. Goes up to issue 105 and  issues 106-116 were never released.  image.png.d2aefff224e6910a02feaac10d76e817.png

    Ulez charges at £12.50 a day 🤷🏻‍♂️

  16. 14 hours ago, David said:

    On your plate or in a separate pot?

    In a pot every time , if not they just make everything taste of beans 🤷🏻‍♂️, it’s a funny one as I never ever eat beans at home but will have them when served up with a breakfast ( full English ) in a cafe or some such 

  17. 9 hours ago, Tyler Durden said:

    Pisa - can spend a few hours there then get the train to the Cinque Terre one day then Siena another day.

    Naples is another good shout as you can get the train to Pompeii and Herculaneum.

    I know it sounds a bit far off but a flight to Cairo is only about 4-5 hours, due to the ongoing conflict in Gaza the flights there are dirt cheap I got a Wizzair flight from Luton return for 120 quid. 

    Can then spend a day in Cairo/Giza then potentially get a flight to Luxor, I paid about 90 quid one way for an internal flight, is about an hour.

    Yep , I mentioned Naples as it’s somewhere I really want to go but havnt had chance yet , in my imagination it’s a real mix of the raw urban and historic plus some beauty, of course it could disappoint if I ever get there 🤷🏻‍♂️,

    I often think I would love a cloak that makes you blend in and you could just wander round anywhere safely and sit and watch the world go by , South America would be the area I chose first to visit if you had the ability to just wander anywhere safely,

    in Thailand we did a cookery lesson / day which included a trip to a local town market to buy ingredients, whilst the wife and friends went round the indoor market area shopping I just grabbed a coffee and sat outside on the steps watching the world go by and locals going about they’re lives , it really was a lovely few hours 

  18. 7 hours ago, Comrade 86 said:

    Yeah, you're just misunderstood, right! 

    My response was in defence of a friend whose character and creativity you've called into question purely for reasons of self-aggrandisement and nothing more and with literally zero basis in fact. You've been just as dismissive of literally millions of others on the basis of their choice in music and you're so jaundiced and narcissistic that you can't even see it's you that has the problem, not your unwitting targets. 

    @Archied sorry ofr derailing the thread mate. I'll leave it there.

    Please don’t bow out of the thread either yourself or anon , I think it’s a very interesting subject , what we consider art , how we value it and what it stirs in each of us , im not sure you can derail the subject matter ( art ) simply because very often the whole point of art itself in my humble view is to take us off on tangents , 

  19. 7 hours ago, Tamworthram said:

    OK, so for the first time that I can remember, my wife and I are struggling to agree as to where to go on holiday this year (apart from Northumberland in September).

    My wife want to go to Paris for a week followed by a few days chilling out in Northern France (near Calais for an easy journey to the tunnel for coming home). I'm happy to go the Paris (we've been there numerous times but not for a few years) but that, followed by Northern France, doesn't quite feel like enough for our/my main holiday.

    So, here's the thing, she doesn't like travelling much and I have muted the idea of me going away for a few days on my own in order to visit places that don't interest her and allows me to indulge a little in my photography hobby. I think I could just about convince her to let me go somewhere for a week in return for agreeing to her Paris idea.

    I'm thinking of either an interesting city (not for nightlife and bars etc but for historic sites etc) or maybe an interesting area for scenery (and, again, maybe historic sites). I've done Paris (obviously), Rome, Venice, Verona, Florence, Bruges and Amsterdam.

    Any suggestions folks? Not too far away though as it would only be a week.

    Naples

  20. 1 hour ago, G STAR RAM said:

    Several posts? All one of them you mean? 

    🥱

    Think he may be mixing you up with ramsbottom , not engaged or able to keep track of who he is trying to poke with a stick, it’s just a wind up mate 🤷🏻‍♂️

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