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    RamsPolls reacted to Leicester Ram in Rate the last film you saw partie deux   
    I've seen people banned for less than this.
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    RamsPolls reacted to mrdave85 in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    I don't really have much to add to this topic, I'm 31 with a few financial worries and anxious about moving to a new job and city this Summer. 
    But, what I really wanted to post was that there are a lot of brave, incredible, posters to this thread. I've read so many amazing stories. Each one of you is a hero in my eyes. 
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    RamsPolls reacted to Tony Le Mesmer in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    I agree with Stive Pesley to a certain extent here and i'm the same. I was born and grew up mainly in Doncaster although I did live briefly in other places but my main dream was to get as far away from the cesshole as I possibly could. Make no mistake. I HATE Doncaster. It's a total craphole and everytime I go back there now (very infrequently for one thing or another) I can feel myself experiencing oppression and gloom from within even driving towards the outskirts with the familiar roads and things.
    I can barely bring myself to say the word 'Doncaster' whenever someone asks me where i'm from originally or born. I just say 'near Selby'. I'm being completely serious. I DESPISE the whole place and I don't usually like using negative words like these as they serve no purpose but it is something I am unable to let go of.
    I did manage to escape the downtrodden knuckledragging vermin riddled hole that is Donny but I haven't managed to escape far enough. I did live and work down in Devon for a while and my partner went to college down there which is where my fondness for Torquay / Exeter City is from but had to return and managed to get work in Chesterfield where I've been ever since.
    I still have dreams of getting a nice house in East Devon somewhere near the coast. It is my favourite part of the country but as you get older you get unexpected things happening and things either don't or can't work out as you planned.
    Whilst working the nightshift at B&Q in Donny I had dreams of just walking out the doors and not coming back and working with animals. I'd just about had enough of people in work environments, all the cliques, all the bitching, all the backstabbing, all the culture that goes with it, all the tittle tattle, all the unfairness, all the predictable blokey banter about women and cars and the pointlessness of it all. Sad thing this I DID walk out and I DID get to work with animals at four different shelters up and down the land for two of the largest animal charities and I soon realised that it was EXACTLY the same at those places.
    What got me through is that if I had a crap day I could go home knowing i'd made a difference to some animals lives briefly. Over time I just became so disillusioned at the sheer wastage of public donations on top heavy needless staff and their perks and lack of investment in frontline staff that I packed it all in - 15 years worth. It was then I came to the conclusion that maybe everyone in this world is self serving and would put themselves before doing the right thing if it meant they would be put at a disadvantage. I still think like this and this mindset has partially led to my social anxiety because I don't trust people anymore.
    I thought that working for an animal charity EVERYONE would be singing from the same hymn sheet, everyone would have the same goals and ideals and everyone would be honest, fair and muck in together so surely there would be nothing for me to complain about. No way Pedro. There are lots and lots of extremely dedicated and hard working folk in the sector that are being hoodwinked, exploited and taken for mugs by those from above.
    My view is that the smaller the animal shelter then the more it's a way of life to those who run in and operate it. Facilities are basic and funds are low but they all work together to get animals rehomed. If it's a huge rehoming centre more akin to corporate premises then it's about generating as much income as possible and churning out animals as a secondary concern on a conveyor belt sort of basis and using them as a smokescreen to grow this huge corporate bandwagon. I can say this because I've worked at both types and seen it with my own eyes.
    One site I worked at actually had bosses with electric company cars and there was actually an electric charging point installed at the animal centre for them to recharge their cars. Meanwhile at small kennels down the road they are begging for dog food and bedding and money to pay heating bills. Makes me vomit. Anyway, I digress.
    My dreams were achievable as I believe yours is Ramspolls but don't pin your entire life on it because you might not accomplish your dreams and you need to accept this as a possibility so it doesn't break you. Also you have to consider that, lie my dreams, even if you get to live them they don't necessarily turn out to be how you envisaged them.
    Life is all about change and reaction. Life changes constantly and it's how you react to each change that builds your resilience, strength and confidence. I have spent a lifetime reacting to negative change with anger and frustration and helplessness thus contributing to my issues. All because I basically should have thought positively.
    It doesn't matter whether you are in Australia living out your dream as a hunky lifeguard or a rock star touring the world. If you aren't happy within and comfortable in your own skin then you may as well be alone on the moon for all the good these amazing lifestyles would bring you.
    Like Stive says, he wanted to get out of Derby just like I wanted to get out of Doncaster and whilst I am 100% sure that I did the right thing and that Donny is a total dump and I am so fortunate that my kid wasn't born there, I now live somewhere else and my issues are still there to some degree or other because they aren't pinned to a geographical place. They are inherent within me.
    I have had talk therapies and once I said to the counsellor that if I DIDN'T have all these issues with mental health and was completely free of them then I still would be directionless and unmotivated because I've tried to live my dreams and they've not worked out which has left me doubting the integrity of people and  the whole structure of society as a whole. Doctors, dentists, policemen, judges, teachers, most people really. I just don't trust them to be the beacons of virtue and honesty that they are supposed to be.
    Go and get your dreams Ramspolls but don't put so much stock into this whole false ideology of making something of yourself. Katie Price thinks she's made it and yes she has got loads of cash and no talent but in 100 years time she, like me will not exist and even if I sit on my arse for the next 40 years (which i'm making bloody good job of writing this!) then she will be no more or less famous or remembered than I. That is reserved only for a great few.
    So if we aren't to make a lasting difference legacy and be remembered like Einstein or Darwin, the best we can do is just live our lives the best we can, try and enjoy it and do what makes you happy. Make friends and family remember you forever because ultimately that's all that matters mate.
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    RamsPolls got a reaction from Tony Le Mesmer in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    @coneheadjohn Cheers for that mate ^^
    I know that I shouldn't beat myself up about it, because I am way more fortunate than most people my age. But I've always tried to move to america in a big city to become something. I want to live the dream and earn stupid money in an enjoyable job. Every time I've gone to apply for a job over there I never get any response. I obviously know that it would be very unlikely to make it in america and earn stupid money, But it's been a huge dream of mine. I just beat myself up because I can't get into the place that will enable me to make something of myself. If i could get into any job over in america then that's a stepping stone into the dream I want. 
    But I get what you're saying. I always try to do things that make me happy but they still don't replace that shadow in my head that i'm wasting my life. It's always going to be there until I have a job that I enjoy and I'm living my dream...
    Hard for me to get rid of that. 
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    RamsPolls reacted to Stive Pesley in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    But getting rid of it is the key. I used to feel like that - that if I could just get out of Derby, things would be different, but eventually the reality dawned on me that "where you are" does not define "who you are" or "what you are", And I also realised that I was putting impossibly hard barriers in the way in a self-defeating manner. It didn't feel like I was doing it on purpose, but certainly on a sub-conscious level I was making excuses for my own inaction by putting what seemed like reaonable conditions (in your case "moving to America") in place, when in reality they were far from reasonable (getting meaningful employment in the US as a foreign national is notoriously difficult even bfore Trump clamps down on it even further!)
    But the bottom line is that in your head you picture it as "living the dream" but you still have all the exact same things in your head, and in your life. You just have a different geographic co-ordinate. You're still under the same sun and you still **** out the same hole.
    A bloke on a football forum spouting cod philosophy at you isn't going to change anything for you, I get that, but the key line is (ironically) in New York, New York:
    If I can make it there, I can make it ANYWHERE
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    RamsPolls got a reaction from Coneheadjohn in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    @coneheadjohn Cheers for that mate ^^
    I know that I shouldn't beat myself up about it, because I am way more fortunate than most people my age. But I've always tried to move to america in a big city to become something. I want to live the dream and earn stupid money in an enjoyable job. Every time I've gone to apply for a job over there I never get any response. I obviously know that it would be very unlikely to make it in america and earn stupid money, But it's been a huge dream of mine. I just beat myself up because I can't get into the place that will enable me to make something of myself. If i could get into any job over in america then that's a stepping stone into the dream I want. 
    But I get what you're saying. I always try to do things that make me happy but they still don't replace that shadow in my head that i'm wasting my life. It's always going to be there until I have a job that I enjoy and I'm living my dream...
    Hard for me to get rid of that. 
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    RamsPolls reacted to Coneheadjohn in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    You are!
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    RamsPolls reacted to Coneheadjohn in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    @RamsPolls well an hour lifting weights has left me with a clearer head(god knows what it's done to my body).
    The point I was trying to get across was that if you've got someone who cares about you then you're half way.
    This thread is such a positive place to share your thoughts on.
    Plenty of people on here give a **** even though they don't know you personally.
    Don't beat yourself up,if you're down come on here and tell everyone.
    Take a step back from your life and try and do something to make you happy,anything.
    I don't know you mate,chances are I will never meet you but if something happened to you I'd be gutted.
    Same with everyone else on here who's having a tough time.
    All the best mate.
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    RamsPolls got a reaction from Coneheadjohn in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    Happy Birthday mate  
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    RamsPolls reacted to Rev in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    Do you feel you've had it too easy maybe, and don't deserve the success you've had so far?
    If so, you're wrong, after all you wouldn't be in this situation unless others felt you were more than capable.
    You sound like you're in a rut of routine, doing the same things every day which at any age soon wears you down.
    Do you run the business in exactly the way your dad did?
    If so, you'll not challenge and stretch yourself, are there areas you'd wish to change, if so look into changing things.
    You say you've been blessed, and have nothing to moan about, but it's a heavy burden to be responsible for other people's employment at your age.
    One easy thing I've used to cope with routine, choose a different way to work and home every day, you'd be amazed the difference it makes seeing different things on your everyday journey!
    Hope things turn for you soon.
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    RamsPolls reacted to JuanFloEvraTheCocu'sNesta in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    I think one of the admins has dropped your comments in here mate.
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    RamsPolls got a reaction from Coneheadjohn in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    Hi Guys - @RamsPolls here
    The past couple of months, I haven't really been myself. Obviously no one on here knows me in person, But I feel like a lot of you get my personality. I have been dealing with depression. I used to be someone who had a great outlook on life and thought I could conquer the world. Like most of you know, I own my own business inherited from my old man, and no matter what I do, I just feel down about myself constantly. I have a girlfriend who I love to pieces but I can't even talk to her about this. 
    I just feel like I'm never going to be good enough for life. A dream of mine to move to america and make something of myself. But I feel like my depression has come due to me being tied down to Derby because of my business and family. Everyday I wake up and have no motivation to do anything, always feeling like I'm not good enough for anyone or anything. 
    Yesterday I have a big breakdown, just sat watching not so super Sunday on Sky Sports and I just was thinking about my life and how scared I am about just plodding along with life and not fulfilling my interests.
    I have these odds spells in the day when I have a strong feeling in my chest when I over think things and honestly just sit there and think I'm about to burst into tears. Then I think about how my life will go and it just makes my chest pains worse. I've been to the doctors with this and they said I have mild depression but never actually gave my anything to sort it.
    I know I shouldn't be moaning about my position in life as I am much more fortunate than most people I know, but I just keep having these situations every single day and it's becoming worse.
    If anyone has any tips on how to improve my situation?
    Sorry if this is a bit boring. I understand if no one replies lol.
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    RamsPolls got a reaction from Parsnip in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    Hi Guys - @RamsPolls here
    The past couple of months, I haven't really been myself. Obviously no one on here knows me in person, But I feel like a lot of you get my personality. I have been dealing with depression. I used to be someone who had a great outlook on life and thought I could conquer the world. Like most of you know, I own my own business inherited from my old man, and no matter what I do, I just feel down about myself constantly. I have a girlfriend who I love to pieces but I can't even talk to her about this. 
    I just feel like I'm never going to be good enough for life. A dream of mine to move to america and make something of myself. But I feel like my depression has come due to me being tied down to Derby because of my business and family. Everyday I wake up and have no motivation to do anything, always feeling like I'm not good enough for anyone or anything. 
    Yesterday I have a big breakdown, just sat watching not so super Sunday on Sky Sports and I just was thinking about my life and how scared I am about just plodding along with life and not fulfilling my interests.
    I have these odds spells in the day when I have a strong feeling in my chest when I over think things and honestly just sit there and think I'm about to burst into tears. Then I think about how my life will go and it just makes my chest pains worse. I've been to the doctors with this and they said I have mild depression but never actually gave my anything to sort it.
    I know I shouldn't be moaning about my position in life as I am much more fortunate than most people I know, but I just keep having these situations every single day and it's becoming worse.
    If anyone has any tips on how to improve my situation?
    Sorry if this is a bit boring. I understand if no one replies lol.
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    RamsPolls reacted to LesterRam in Depression, anxiety, stress and other related issues   
    yes, it sounds like a too familiar problem mate, over thinking is a major problem and with life zipping by at 100mph I believe we are losing out on things that should be our priority, spending time with your girlfriend and family and going on holiday and just relaxing, forget the business, leave your phone at home and just chill and reflect.
    someone I was talking to at the school gates a few month ago decided that he wasn't happy with life and went to Malawi, he helped out at an orphanage and lived a real basic existence, he didn't contact anyone for three months and came back a new man, he lost a few stone, he was more motivated and less depressed than at any other point of his life.
    the tips I would give is this:
    1.always leave your business at the doors of your business, never bring it home and don't even think about it, 9-5 is business time, not before or after.
    2. always structure your day, get up at a set time and go to bed at a set time.
    3. always take care with your appearance and never let things slip, your running a business, shape up.
    4. boredom is a killer, when you get work in the morning work out your tasks for the day and write it down, try and work through it and if not delegate to others to complete it.
    5.walk, yep its a utopian ideology, go and take a lovely long walk and enjoy this country we are fortunate to have.
    6. change what you have been doing and set a new path, something is clearly not right and unfortunately depression can do some serious damage to your health and ultimately put you in a tailspin without a return ticket.
    7. go to America and stay a bit longer, it is probably not the country you think it is (especially under the Trumpmeister lol)
    8. go and have a ******* laugh you miserable ****, laughter is the best tonic and you cant buy it.
     
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    RamsPolls reacted to KBB in January Transfer Suggestion Thread   
    Fulhams boards last night had the making a bid for a man city kid from their ITK posters.
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    RamsPolls reacted to sage in January Transfer Suggestion Thread   
    Apparently a unnamed championship club has bid £8.75m for Mooy who is on loan at Huddersfield from Man City.
    Chances of it being us?  
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    RamsPolls got a reaction from Anag Ram in January Transfer Suggestion Thread   
    @Anag Ram - your wish is my command.
     
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    RamsPolls reacted to EnigmaRam in January Transfer Suggestion Thread   
    On his way to Villa?
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    RamsPolls reacted to Leicester Ram in Rate the last film you saw partie deux   
    100% wanted to mention he has a missus because I called him a virgin last week 
    Yeah, it's not that difficult to figure out.
    Before Ep IV, Death Star plans, Rebels. Easy.
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    RamsPolls reacted to Animal is a Ram in January Transfer Suggestion Thread   
    Wow - no chance of that one then.
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    RamsPolls reacted to RadioactiveWaste in January Transfer Suggestion Thread   
    Hope.
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    RamsPolls got a reaction from FunkyRam in January Transfer Suggestion Thread   
    What about that young lad at West Brom. Leko? He looks a raw talent. Not too similar to Jordan Ibe when we loaned him.
     
    Leko could be a good shout on loan.
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    RamsPolls got a reaction from Coneheadjohn in January Transfer Suggestion Thread   
    Shackell needs to be shifted IMO. 
    He is stopping players like Rawson getting their chance in the first team if either of Keogh or Pearce were to be injured.
    We have seen Rawson can hack it in the championship during his time with Rotherham so I would be more than happy with Rawson as cover for the 2 CB's.
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    RamsPolls got a reaction from muzzamurray in January Transfer Suggestion Thread   
    Shackell needs to be shifted IMO. 
    He is stopping players like Rawson getting their chance in the first team if either of Keogh or Pearce were to be injured.
    We have seen Rawson can hack it in the championship during his time with Rotherham so I would be more than happy with Rawson as cover for the 2 CB's.
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    RamsPolls reacted to Daz_The_Ram in January Transfer Suggestion Thread   
    Nah. 

    Why just get rid of a genuinely class centre half? Its a squad game.

    If Rawson were good enough, there'd be no one in his way. Forget about that. Shackell has not suddenly become a poor centre half, its just that Pearce has done exceptionally well. We need Shackell, I'm sure he'll prove vital at the business end of the season.
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